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Kept woman's profession
Between the nun and the prostitute there is a wide zone of intermediate types. One of them is a kept woman. On the one hand, like a prostitute, she sells her sexual services, and on the other hand, she is monogamous: she is faithful to one client. On this basis, a couple with a specific status is formed. It is based on a commercial contract: two parties carefully negotiate mutual rights and obligations. This procedure is shown in detail and in exaggerated form in the novel and film “50 Shades of Gray”. The post below is dedicated to this. It turns out something similar to an ordinary cohabitation, but there is usually no joint household, the client (sponsor) comes on schedule. Her life with him is written under a contract (usually oral), and therefore takes on the character of work. A couple arises based on a commercial contract, which does not exclude any serious, non-binding emotional attachment, but it is optional in nature, which distinguishes it from a romantic couple. In cohabitation there is an imbalance of responsibilities: she is usually obliged to remain faithful, and he, by definition, is free from this restriction, since the client is often married. Unlike a prostitute, a kept woman must play the role of a mistress, but without the claims of an owner. In other words, emotional labor is an important component of the kept woman's role.
Here is an example of the interpretation of such work from the blog cosharel :
“You see, they don’t pay for sex. Although it should be first-class. They pay for the soul, for the illusion that everything is real. As if you really admire him, and each of your six orgasms is real. And he is macho, and you are in love. Probably, somewhere there, they understand that you are with them only for money, but as soon as you play your role poorly - as a lover - that’s it, the end of the relationship,” shares Anya.
These requirements for acting make such an activity professional: not everyone is capable of this, not everyone will be able to learn the necessary skills to keep a sponsor with them for a long time.
And his demands can be very high and adequate to the costs of decent maintenance for a woman. Here is an example of a sponsor request :
“I will take for training and support a young, modest girl under 23 years old. I am inclined towards long-term relationships of a strictly confidential nature.
If you are young, pretty (I prefer the Slavic type of appearance, but not fundamentally), slim (preferably without extra pounds), unpretentious, bored among stupid and poor peers-idlers and at the same time looking for support, support and patronage of an adult, handsome and experienced partner - we can come to an agreement. And if you’re not a prostitute and don’t want to stupidly please a forty-year-old daddy with a bad dick, but you love sex and are ready to be an obedient student, then we’re definitely on the same path.
I’m 35, I’m Russian, married (I don’t plan to get a divorce), I work a lot, I earn good money, but I’m a little bored. The format of the relationship is regular meetings in the Central Administrative District (it is possible to rent housing for you), interesting communication, sex and understanding each other.
Silicone dolls, plump-lipped dummies with self-tanning and professional girls PAST.
An ideal option for a decent non-resident student who needs support, help, care and patronage in Moscow.
I don’t carry on long-term correspondence; if there is mutual interest, we can meet in a restaurant during the daytime.”
In her free time from performing her main function, the kept woman fights for her beauty as a guarantee of her professional success. As one journalist wrote ,
“The main crafts of the girls who live under the motto “So that we have what those who have us have” are shopping and tuning.”
Judging by the scale of this segment of the labor market, reflected on specialized websites (see, for example, here ), the profession of a kept woman in modern Russian society is popular and in demand.
The position of a kept woman was not invented today and has a long history dating back to antiquity. At the royal courts, these women bore the honorary title of favorite. In Soviet times, kept women, if there were any, were on the deep periphery. In modern Russia, they represent one of the options for the heroine of our time, demonstrating one of the models of life success.
I wrote about this phenomenon in my book “The life and existence of the youth of the Russian metropolis . ” The same phenomenon is shown in the book and movie "50 Shades of Gray".
Here is an interesting journalistic post describing the technology for preparing a contract for cohabitation.
Application
Original taken from cosharel in Rules for a Beginner Courtesan
I'm sitting opposite a nice man in his forties and trying to be nice and sexy. We spent a wonderful couple of hours together, much like a regular date. It’s time to return to reality: - “Have you decided anything?” - “Yes, you’re right for me, let’s discuss the details of the deal” - “Of course,” I answer, blushing and wildly embarrassed. He likes it. This is good. It's my job to please him. How did this happen? Listen.
How I went to a meeting, pretending to be a kept woman in search...">In a post about Anya, who recently became a kept woman , I was asked a lot of questions - “Where? How does this happen?” I quickly called Anya to visit and forwarded the questions to her. “Try it yourself?” - she challenged me. “Then tell me how?!” - I decided to experiment.
- The first rule , Anya instructs me, - Put a discreet but sweet photo on a special dating site. No depraved poses or too exposed parts of the body, otherwise instead of serious people you will get a bunch of horny beggars. The text matches - smart, a little timid and don't write the price, you're not a prostitute.
- The second rule is that the first meeting is only tea/coffee, somewhere in the center and nothing else. All offers “to visit” or “out of town” or directly to the hotel - delete without answering. Serious men don't offer this.
- The third rule - remember, you are at work, you are selling yourself, and he is looking around whether to buy. Be natural, slightly inexperienced and charming. Of course, in the end, everything will be decided by the “spark,” but it’s you who should interest him.
- The fourth rule is that at the first meeting you must discuss the terms of your work, or your relationship, as you prefer. From the price for the first bed “test drive”, it should be high so that lovers of one-time sex fall off immediately, to the monthly maintenance, the number of your meetings, sexual preferences, the format of your dates and in general everything - everything - everything in as much detail as possible.
- The fifth rule - if you like him, but does not talk about the terms of the deal - ask yourself. They are often afraid of scaring you off or are not sure that you agree - so the first word is yours.
- Sixth rule - if you agreed on a “test drive” at the next meeting, agree only to a decent hotel, but not at his home or somewhere else. The hotel is safer. Do you know how many girls who broke this rule got into trouble? Even if you really liked it, it’s still a hotel.
- Rule seven - take the money before the meeting and immediately put it on the card. Even if he wants to ditch you, he won’t be able to take them away. Take a minimum of money, documents and cards with you; if you lose them, it’s not a problem. Every day new idiots write on our forum how they used it and didn’t pay for it - Anya snorts.
This Saturday, after our conversation, I have my first meeting in a cafe on Chistye Prudy. He's about forty. A beautiful expensive pullover, jeans, a great haircut, well-groomed hands, a toned body - and I expected fat bellies to write to me! He has a great sense of humor, he is smart and interesting, a pleasant conversationalist and a charming man. After half an hour I’m ready to forget that this is not a date, but an interview.
He has only one drawback.
He is married.
Vlad believes that a kept woman is more convenient and safer than a mistress - there are fewer demands and more reason in the relationship. Of course, like everyone else, he wants to fall in love a little, he likes that I am an aspiring journalist, and he understands that it is difficult to make a living from this. He probably sees himself as a rescuer of gifted girls taking their first steps in their careers. By the way, according to the questionnaire I am 26 years old, he did not ask about my real age. But with the questions “why do you need a kept woman?” and “why are you looking for a job like this?” - we exchanged.
- Let's discuss the details of the deal?
“Of course,” my heart beats like crazy.
- I would like to meet during the day, twice a week, for three to four hours, can you? Sometimes in the evening. I spend my weekends with my family. We will have dinner, have sex, and from time to time, depending on our mood and desire, we will go somewhere. Meetings at the hotel. Payment for a month in advance. I don’t need any special sex and you shouldn’t be afraid of me, I’m not a pervert. We’ll try it for the first month, and then we’ll decide how permanent this is, okay?
- Okay, - eyes on the floor.
- How much money do you want? - he asks calmly.
“I don’t know, I thought you would offer,” I answer honestly.
- No, I don’t play such games. You're counting on something, right? - he frowns.
- Will 150,000 a month suit you? – I blurt out the first number that comes to mind.
- Agreed. Gifts for holidays are not included in the amount! – he tries to joke tensely.
He pays, takes me home, and somehow clumsily kisses me on the cheek goodbye. We both feel terribly awkward - when I get out of the car, I breathe a sigh of relief and think that he probably did the same.
This morning I received an SMS: “I flew away on a business trip for three days, let’s meet on Friday?”
The kept woman, as a heroine of our time, has also become the heroine of works of art:
“Kept Woman” (film, 1998);
“Confession of a Kept Woman” (film, 1992);
"The Death of a Kept Woman" (book);
“Kept women do not leave of their own free will” (book);
“Confession of a Kept Woman or How the Steel Was Tempered” (book).