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Casters and sponsors: a form of compromise between family and prostitution
The pairs arising and endangered make up one of the primary levels of the process of sociality (primary cells of society preceding the family). Their forms are extremely diverse, some of them are borderline.
Among the latter are couples consisting of containers and their sponsors. I touched this phenomenon in my book "The Life and Being of the Youth of the Russian Megalopolis" .
Such steam is based on a purely rational market logic mixed with sexual attraction (at least on one side). For girls who choose this option, this is the path of temporary solutions to material problems. One of the heroines of my book came to St. Petersburg without normal means of existence and failed in entrance exams. And then a sponsor turned up, which solved its material problems for a couple of years. Then she learned to live herself, and they were tired of living in the regime, contract restrictions, which initially did not bother her at all and seemed almost paradise. Recently I heard such a conversation. A 40-year-old woman in a condemning tone spoke of her young colleague groaning about the lack of money:
- ... And I tell her: “You find yourself a sponsor! He will rent an apartment, give money for life - and all your problems are resolved! And she, a fool, says to me:“ What are you? I'm not like that! "
On the male side, this form of relations is a way of satisfying sexual and some related problems with their purification of the difficulties and contradictions of a real novel or family life. As a result, a hybrid form of relations arises, which occupies an intermediate position between prostitution and the family.
There is a demand - there is a proposal. Here you have a specialized market for containers and sponsors. It formed its own modern infrastructure in the form of sites, communities, etc. And the social structure of this market is represented by a slogan of one of the sites : "Luxurious women are successful men."
The standard female request goes in the form of a phrase: "I am looking for a sponsor, a rich, successful man. I am ready to become a keeper, a mistress." Following the individual clarifications of the search purpose, for example: “educated, educated, good is good. Only worthy relations and joint trips based on respect, sympathy and solid, mat. Support from a wealthy, educated gentleman! It should be good and calm ...” On the Cinderella’s website, the sentence: 18 years old, while learning. I have been looking for a generous and good guy, a man, a man, a man, a man. For a relationship, I will take care of myself, beautiful things and expensive gifts.
The male version of demand: "I am looking for a keeper, a mistress, a beautiful girl. Ready to become a sponsor." The 39-year-old man reports: "A girl is wanted for a constant relationship. About herself: idle, adequate, without material and housing problems, I guarantee moral and material support."
The Village magazine tried to figure out this topic, but due to the complexity of establishing contacts, he limited himself to small notes.
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The Village decided to study this phenomenon and understand why thousands of girls are looking for sponsors, and sponsors are kept.
<...> “This is not a novel and not love,” one of the resources reports with capsloc. “The basis of these relationships is your needs and willingness for long -term relationships on a financial basis.”
“The keeper should create a feeling of maximum visual and spiritual comfort. You pay not for a person, but for the most harmonious replenishment of what you lack, ”the explanation says on one of the sites. The agency offers such a girl not to be confused with his wife, mistress, girlfriend or capricious daughter. It “does not need to ask, wait, understand, accept, seduce, achieve”, she is enough to pay regularly.
<...> "Dmitry writes that he is ready to become a sponsor for the student:“ I am tired of the scenario of relations. Anyway, you have to sponsor, only instead of cash, the money is invested in restaurants, gasoline, surprises as well as a waste of time and attention. I want to simplify everything: I give money and get what I want without the minuses of the relationship (betrayal, brainwashing and TD) ” Saved.) "<...>
The 40-year-old Alexander publishes on VKontakte an announcement about the search for a companion: “I will take a beautiful girl for maintenance! I will help with housing! Younger, by! ” In a conversation with The Village, he says that relations with his wife were not the same and he would have “had kicked it out for a long time”. At the same time, Alexander does not get divorced so as not to injure children. “In the XV in Italy, courtesans appeared, they were very educated, and they were respected. I'm not looking for just a girl for intimacy, I need one with whom you can talk on different topics, ”the potential sponsor explains. He does not reveal the sphere of his classes, but claims that he lives in a closed village. The former keeper, according to Alexander, lived in his apartment in Moscow and received a car as a gift. "<...>
28-year-old Elena, a cook from the Primorsky Territory, is looking for an “adequate man”: “Golden mountains and trips abroad do not need, parties and chic restaurants too. I am for calm quiet evenings in a home environment or walking in the park, ”says Elena. According to the girl, she counts on financial assistance only if you move to another city and explains: "Money is just papers." Elena decided on the status of the keeper (“you can also be a married man”) due to the fact that ordinary serious relationships do not develop. After the divorce, she had two children left. “I don’t need ordinary Russian men, everyone is looking for without children, with a car, without problems and worries,” the girl is sure. <...>
Comments:
Evgeny Lazarevgeny Lazarev
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There is experience in such practice, only experience. No fears, no complexes. On the contrary, this form is the most honest, the most open and most understandable, in contrast to “classical relationships”. I deeply support this story and wish all participants in this market to find what they are looking for. You are well done guys.
Anya Kitbalanegia Lazarev
For such practice, there is an unwillingness to complicate your life and desire to get money/have sex. This cannot be called relationships at all, this is cooperation. Even contracts conclude - well, brilliant ...)
Only at some point can it be even more from this from this even more than from the brain ****** of the so-called loved one. Well, the truth and convenient unions for life I do not exclude)
Deidei
It is funny when girls from the “Twelve on a Dozen” category on such sites or communities require a long -term relationship of a mid -level manager in the Big4 company department in Moscow.
moscow_1980andrandry
You say so, as if it were something bad. It’s easy for the young, all the pearl gates are open to them. And what can a person really offer on the threshold of the 50th anniversary? Intelligence and life experience? But a rare beauty will be seduced by this.
Lena Justlena
40 -year -old Alexander, who would have long thrown his wife, but worries about children. Or maybe you are worried that after the divorce the wife gets a lion's share with the children and then it will not be up to the containers)))
Roman Yakushin
I have a classic container below my floor. An interesting observation when the owner comes to her, she makes loud erotic special effects. When "guy for a relationship" - sex becomes soundless. The owner gave her both the car and the apartment, but still, somehow sorry for it, she cries very often. I don't know if it is worth it?