Three legends about modern youth

Hello, the tribe is young unfamiliar.

The problem of “fathers and children” has not been invented by us! The generation of my parents (“dudes”) experienced all the charms of parental and public conservatism, multiplied by official ideology. Subsequent generations had already been easier, but without conflicts did not do at all times.

Tell me, well, which of the representatives of my generation, passing with a girl or a guy, did not hear behind him the hiss of the “Revolutionary Tombhonal” (the so -called groups of old women, which were the necessary attribute of any courtyard of the Soviet era), among which they “blossomed the most soft expressions!”, “Lost completely shame !!” And so on how many articles have come under the authorship of the venerable publicists of teachers, in which young people were accused of all sins and a variety of ways of educating (except perhaps bodily punishment) were offered that I wanted to shout “Remember myself!”. But no one remembered! In all cases, the older generation became the initiator of the conflict.

In most similar moments, young people who have undergone unreasonable aggression tried to quietly slip past and hide from the eyes of harsh judges. In some cases, in his youth, in ardor (and then only in the order of self -defense!) They responded with sharpness to sharpness. Times are going! The style of relations between young people and between them and the older generations changes, but conflicts continue to arise from scratch! And at the same time, there is no one to intercede for the youth, regardless of who attacks them, Lee's grandmother sitting at the entrance or the venerable writer publicist! So (may my former and current students forgive me) will allow myself to act as an uninvited lawyer. I will try to refute the several of the most common now legends about youth.

Legend 1. Modern youth is dissolved. I answer, no more (and, perhaps, less) is dissolved than the youth of the period of “stagnation”, “perestroika”, “dashing 90s” and the first half of the 2000s. It was a revelation for me that now in order to start a relationship with a girl, it is necessary to offer her to meet! And then she becomes your girlfriend, and you are her boyfriend. Such definitions were also widespread in our time, but the author of these lines did not hear something about the proposals. As for the spread of the so -called. “Civil marriages”, then the fault here does not lie on the youth. Their parents look at such things much more condescending than in Soviet times. But it is considered much more sin if young people decide to register their relationship, but at the same time they will not arrange a magnificent event (calling the “wedding” this disgrace does not turn) for the whole relatives. Here youth are where it is easier to run into trouble!

Legend 2. Girls come to study in the city just in order to get married there. Complete nonsense, easily refuted by statistics. They come to the city for completely different reasons, far from the matrimonial: to learn, get a profession, find a good job, etc. From the stories I knew, it turned out that 60 % of students of a pedagogical university who came to study in a city from the region are married to their school friends! Not necessarily for classmates, but, at least, for fellow villagers. With the townspeople (as it is not customary to think otherwise!) They find family happiness about 20 %. The remaining 20 % come closer while studying with the same young people as they, who also came to the city to study or work. True, over the past five years, the picture has changed somewhat. The share of citizens in family preferences of immigrants from the region remained the same. The share of villagers decreased to 30 %, and the share of the same villages from other villages and areas that came to the city and increased to 50 %. I associate this with the development of social networks that give great opportunities in terms of communication. But in any case, the Italian proverb “Tarakaniye is nicer than everyone!” Works.

Legend 3. Modern youth is mercenary. Even greater nonsense than the previous one. For self -interest, some pragmatism is mostly accepted (about which I wrote in the previous article). But the time is now! By the way, the rich grooms of modern girls are by no means quoted. Here, after all, the role of emancipation cannot be discounted. "We, like, do not need someone else's!" - the majority of young beauties argue. We ourselves want to achieve everything, realize ourselves, we want to get something. Of course, there are a lot of pitfalls here, but where is self -interest?

Here are the three main accusations (which I, at least, I hear most often from the lips of the older generations). As you can see, all three are easily refuted! And the representatives of the older generations can only treat the traditional (and is unlikely to once again be heard) “Remember myself!”.

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