In grief, in joy, in striptease

Striptease is often equated with sex workers and condemned. Therefore, some of them are silent about their classes to relatives, friends and even partners. Most girls change the profession when they get married: their men often insist on this. Is it possible to stay in this work and build a healthy relationship? Last year, photographer Anastasia Evsinekina found a family of striptezers in Smolensk, perfectly combining marriage and a specific work, by the standards of others. A year later, a correspondent of Samizdat Nina Abrosimova met with them to find out how they live now, and found that this is the strongest couple of all whom she knew. We tell the story of true love.

A banner with half -naked spouses Silaev hung for six years on one of the central streets of Smolensk. It was an advertisement for the Catherine cafe, where they danced striptease. Ruslan and Lena were shot for all banners of this place. “We did not do it for them, but for ourselves: we were recognized - we were ordered. Now everyone who at least once visited some kind of institution knows Lena. There are few stripperings in the city, you can count on the fingers. Especially few who look worthy, ”explains Ruslan.

Elena and Ruslan are married for ten years. Over the years, they spent exactly three nights. The rest of the time is together. They only go to rest together. They do not get tired of each other, they say: "There is no such problem." They have one for two VKontakte page, and I do not immediately understand which of them I correspond with (however, their friends also do not always understand). When Elena needs to leave for a short while during an interview, she remarks: “You can ask me about me, he knows everything.”

At the time of their acquaintance, Elena for two years worked as a stripper, and Ruslan only tried to get a job. He was nineteen, he graduated from a technical school, studied at the university and was looking for night work, because he already had a daytime. He was not taken to striptease, but they offered to join Gow-Gow on Thursdays. They promised 250 rubles for the exit, that is, something about a thousand per night. He agreed. Two weeks later, Elena's partner, with whom she danced, suddenly left the team, and Ruslan was asked to speak instead.

The administrator of the institution then advised Elena, who was left without a partner, to agree with the new one. The girl lent his phone allegedly to call, wrote down her number there and informed him of this. “There were a lot of thoughts that a cool stripizer wanted me to offer me,” Ruslan chuckles. At the meeting, Elena explained that she could pick him up, since she needed a partner for the future. Ruslan liked the idea, and they began to train in a cafe during the day. “First of all, I weaned him to jump, as he was used to ballroom dancing. And then it goes, it is-hoba! - Draised. Then she showed how to climb the pylon. Well, everything that she knew how to, ”says Elena.

Her then young man was jealous to Ruslan and began to "drip on the brain." Initially, the girl did not have plans for Ruslan, but after regular accusations that he, her “spare option”, began to look closely at him. “My young man was not purposeful and did not want to work. I already told him so much that when I find someone worthy and reliable, we will part, ”Elena explains. She threw her boyfriend, and the very next day the guys got together. “Two weeks later, I admitted that I love her, and hoped that she would say the same thing, but heard another:“ I want to marry you, ”Ruslan recalls. “He was very upset, but made an offer,” Elena smiles.

The spouses saved up for the wedding for two years: she cost them 175 thousand rubles. All money earned themselves. Elena recalls: “They collected in parts: we will order the cake, then we go for costumes. They guessed with the rings for a long time, they took them six months before: they waited for the action, and the seller made an additional discount. ”

Girls are usually leaving work when they enter into a serious relationship. Most often, their partners insist on this. But Ruslan did not even think to ask his wife to do something else. “If I wanted to say so, I had to be ready to provide it,” he adds.

The couple did not disdain the work: “This is money, we never refused them. It didn’t matter where to go. We danced in the saunas, in country houses. They danced even in the country without a summer house, where there was simply a piece of land and the car stood on it. ” In 2010, they began to "feed" them - call once a week to his sauna - the owner of the Catherine cafe. He dreamed that the institution had an erotic show. The man asked the silanies if they could organize it, and offered a salary. The couple agreed and cooperated with the local ballet choreographer - he brought another guy and two girls. “There were many who wanted, but what is striptease with them? The boy needs to find textured so that he does not look wretched and funny. Everyone wants to look at the pumped up men who dance sexually, and not like gays. And it is difficult to find a girl, because the city is small and everyone is shy, ”Ruslan explains.

By the way, Elena's mother still does not know that her daughter is dancing striptease. “All relatives are in the know, but they do not devote her: they understand that she is an elderly and a little different views. I do not think that at the moment, given that we have been married for so many years that we are a strong family, she will begin to condemn us, but nevertheless she will be unpleasant, ”says Silaev. “Well, she would have scolded us, and what's next? - inserts Elena. “Then we learned to earn ourselves.”

It happens that you are dancing and the client still managed to kick. Well, like a dog, roughly speaking

In the best months, the family received 120 thousand - very decent money for Smolensk. This amount consisted of an official salary (37 thousand each), tips and part -time jobs. Silaev believes that 120 thousand is a “penny” compared to similar Moscow earnings.

However, the spouses never thought about moving to Moscow. Firstly, they do not see the point of earn more: “Why? To spend more? " Secondly, in Smolensk they have a four-room apartment with an excellent repair in which they live three-with the mother of Elena, and in another city, respectively, you will have to pay for housing. Thirdly, you can’t work together in Moscow: there are no mixed clubs. And in the province, almost all clubs are mixed, that is, both male and female striptease. Because otherwise you can’t collect a large audience. Ruslan explains: “We will not work apart. This is such a specific work, always associated with jealousy. And so I am at her side, she is at my side. ”

Silaevs explain that the private dance is performed in a closed room, and in theory, striptezers can have sex with the client - they will not interfere with them. “The client is always ready. It doesn’t matter if this is a girl or a man. It seems to me that girls are sometimes even more ready. It happened that they came in, took off their underpants and showed: they say, we are naked there, ”says Ruslan.

Elena notes that they were jealous (and are still jealous) of each other if someone lingers in such a room. Ruslan, for example, can sometimes carefully look under the door: “We have the same thought: suddenly they liked each other? And you begin to be nervous, mutter. But everything is in moderation. There were no tantrums, scandals, there were no divorces. ” He tells that Lena only once - on March 8, when he was in time and was absent for too long - she managed to get drunk and fell from the bar stool. And another time-when some visitor scratched him-she pulled an expensive belt from her companion in revenge and took it to herself.

I ask if they have a free relationship, and they laugh: "No, the most traditional." Silaevs do not authorize betrayals. They explain that the matter is partly in pragmatist and that they are unlikely to get something that cannot be obtained at home from communication on the side.

With clients - even with those who invitingly pulling his underpants - Ruslan and Elena behave impeccably politely. They explain that rushing to defend their halves in the club is stupid. “There are you snort, you won’t get anything, and tips are a lion's share of earnings,” says Elena. She does not allow herself to touch, but if she understands that the client "does not leave at all, then to the knee - for the sake of God." “In general, you can’t touch it,” she thinks. “But you can touch differently.” You can stroke the thigh, or you can roughly grab it by the ass. It happens that you are dancing and the client still managed to kick. Well, like a dog, roughly speaking. If I know that he can do this, then I try to dodge, a little to move away during the dance. ”

Ruslan and Lena, in turn, also risk violating other people's personal boundaries. Therefore, some guests ask them to behave more modest. For example, friends who order dancing for the bride on the bachelorette party. “We can dance hard. If the girl is supple - undress her, put in all poses, imitate sex. It will be with the whole room, and a person has a wedding soon, ”explains Ruslan. - Many are calmly following the occasion. I feel a person well: I pulled the T -shirt - do not mind? - He took off his T -shirt. We have stripped a naked more than once. You see, there are such women - they want to be naked on the stage, but they themselves cannot afford this, but here it seems that she has nothing to do with it. ”

“Sasha, stop warm your ears, go,” Ruslan throws a man who quietly settled with his bag Reebok at the next table and obviously eavesdropping. We are sitting in a recreation area in a fitness club. Elena and Ruslan in tracksuits - they periodically interrupt the interview and go to the simulators to check their wards.

They quit the Catherine cafe at the end of 2017. “For the past two years, I went to work from under the stick. I never liked it much, it was always a source of earnings, ”said Ruslan. “We were going to work out for another year and leave, we were no longer interested.” Silaev explains that it was scary to abandon work, although it was not the only one: they both worked as a fitness club, and Elena was also in the beauty salon. In addition, there was a “freelance”: their departure is in a private order of three thousand rubles - this is one dance. Each next is plus one and a half thousand. The spouses, in principle, understood that without striptease they could earn the necessary 100 thousand.

We can undress it, put in all poses, simulate sex, and a person has a wedding soon

They do not want to spread about the reasons for the departure - it was forced. From the story it follows that they had a conflict with the director and there were two options: "bend and stay shit or leave." They notice that Ruslan then tried to cut the salary, but they did not raise Elena, although they planned. In addition, Silaeva was promised to enlarge the chest at the expense of the company, but in the end they did this to the “other girl”. Ruslan thinks that there was a subtle calculation: the leadership wanted to keep the employee. And I am sure that now she feels obligated and will work for another five years. “They promised me to her. But then the chef looked: if I have a small, but beautiful shape, then that one has only arising, they really needed hints, ”says Elena. As a result, Silaev “did everything themselves”: for 140 thousand Elena gained the desired size - 2.5.

Spouses are satisfied with all changes. They say that now they earn much more, and besides, "they learned what weekends." During this year, they had already managed to go to the Dominican Republic, to Cyprus and in Morocco - in burning tickets. Now they even think to live a little outside the city. “There were times when I sat at home and sobbed, because I had three works and I really had to visit all three in one day,” says Elena. Ruslan continues her thought: “We were condemned out of envy. They thought: they go to rest three or four times a year? So they were fucking there! Started for money! Those who are familiar with us were aware of how much we worked. ”