Men vs women

I would like to talk about the problem of modern men and women. I urge to express my opinion.

I accidentally raised this topic in a commentary on a post about “male heeled shoes” and having received an interesting comment in response, I decided to write a separate post, maybe this topic will also arouse your interest. I say in advance that I would not want to get reproaches in feminism! Or that I insult men. I do not belong to the number of ardish feminists and in no case do I want to hurt you, dear men. I just want to illuminate the problem that, in my opinion, is clearly present in modern society (Ryskaya on the Internet on this topic, I even saw a coursework. Written on the topic of the changing role of a man in society!)

Increasingly, Zhenya complaints are heard "The men are smaller." Or such jokes appear:

• Why are men like shrimp? Because everything except the head is delicious;
• Why are men like video recorders? Forward, back, forward, back, eject!
• Why are men like dolphins? Because they say that smart, but no one can confirm this;
• Why are men like snails? They have horns, they will get slut and drag, plus they think that the house is them;
• Why are men like a microwave? Because it warms up in 15 seconds;
• Why are men like spermatozoa? Because only one of a million is needed;
• Why can't a man be beautiful and smart at the same time? Because then he would be a woman;
• Why are men worse than batteries? The battery has at least one positive side;
• Why don't women get married anymore? Because having fat in the refrigerator is better than a pig in the house;
• What is the difference between a man and a cup of coffee? No. Both nervous;
• Why is the male brain quoted above, eat female? Because he is more rare ....

There is no doubt that “male” and “female” cultures, traditionally clearly divided, are close and mixed: women devote more and more time to professional work, and men give more and more personal time to home life.

I believe that the line between the floors is erased. Women perform more and more male functions. And men acquire more and more “female” character traits.

Almost all women are now working (except for those who are lucky to marry a man who is able to provide for a family without reproaching a woman, that she sits on his neck). For example: I am in my third year. Few of my classmates work: only I, and several of my friends. And not a single young man. Only someone worked in the summer. Of course, an even big problem to find normal work for a half -time, but we did it)

Some of them earn more of their man. Some are not - not the point. But so far, many of us meet with a woman's discrimination at work: some employers will better take a man than Zhenya. Or they pay a man more than a woman, provided that they are in the same post. And despite the fact that a woman also works - she continues to perform the function of the guardian of the hearth - i.e. For the most part, she monitors the house and raises the child (although, I will fairly, I myself can’t cook, for example, I don’t know how, but many of my friends, they love to cook and make dinner better than they will give it to their girlfriend. And this is fine =) I love men who know how to cook)

Men are becoming more emotional (although this has been considered the female "Opulland" for centuries). Just do not think, in no case do I refuse men in the right to tears, to enforce tenderness and, in general, to emotions. But I have enough examples of young guys (!!!), who are very hysterical and touchy. Or gossip. Or whiner. Too pryd. Not to mention lines and loafers. Again, metrosexuals. Of course, this is wonderful that men care about their appearance! Care for themselves, etc.! I am with all my hands for. But sometimes it crosses all the boundaries.

Many men (and in general already women) have a distorted concept of a “real man”. Due to sexual confusion, many believe that the signs of an overwhelming man are

• Availability in the behavior of any hint of “femininity”, a ban on emotionality, that is, extreme restraint in the manifestation of feelings (primarily such as tenderness, love, trusting, affection),
• a constant desire for achievements and social status, self -confidence,
• aggressiveness,
• intolerance to homosexuals,
• High and "reckless" sexuality.

That is, the image of a brutal man is created.

But all these characteristics are too hypertrophied. Why? Because it was these features that have been characterized by a man from time immemorial. And now they have no choice but to resort to the same features, normal for the Middle Ages, but not for the modern world, to be considered a man. You can also add a love of drinking and enthusiasm for technology.

Studies conducted in 1995 in Sweden by B. Bergsten and M. BEK-vikling showed that most often the “ideal” includes “twelve characteristics. The order of the most commonly mentioned qualities reflects their significance for answering men and women. From the point of view of men themselves, the ideal man must be honest, well-educated,-it’s cheerful,-delicate,-reliable, responsible, responsible,-responsible,-responsible,-responsible,-responsible,-responsible,-responsible,-responsible,-responsible,-responsible,-responsible,-responsible,-responsible,-responsible,-responsible,-responsible,-responsible,-responsible,-responsible,-reliable “I energetic,” I am confident, “is calm,“ resourceful, “is capable of empathy.

From the point of view of women, the modern ideal man is honest, - delicate, - capable of empathy, - well educated, - resourceful, - is cheerful, - energetic, - is responsible, - fair, - generous and reliable.

As you can see, men and women draw an image that is very little consistent with the norms of traditional masculinity. It does not have primarily “avoiding any hint of femininity” and “prohibition of emotionality”.

“*” Again homosexuals. There are more and more of them. And why the best male representatives fall into their ranks. Or maybe they become so, already becoming gays? When men partially go over to the side of the woman, the male features in them are slightly smoothed out, and the female manifestations appear a little more. But they are combined in red and harmoniously.

Why gets more and more gays? Someone believes that due to the perversion of the modern generation and sexual licentiousness. But, as an example, I will give, for example .. mm. Cescaridze. The shocking dancer, the smartest and intelligent person (I somehow had a chance to meet him and my girlfriend, a friend, communicates with him very well) and an amazing man. Age is 30. What is the “licentiousness and perversion” here? Someone says that they were just born like that (i.e. the mistake of the Lord) or is it all from the expanse, psychologically injuries, unconsciously, etc. This is more like the truth, often it is. But for example, I think that, firstly, men of men understand better and therefore can be easier to build relationships, and do not seek women, try to understand our logic, etc. (well, roughly speaking, laziness is a man to seek). And secondly, we are just women, we become more and more like men. So they are looking for femininity in their own kind.

Who is to blame and what to do?

Again, someone believes that we ourselves are to blame (women). Still, it is mothers who are engaged in raising their sons, and they bring up mumbled. Certainly! I do not argue! There are such examples of mothers and sons. But firstly: who prevented men from bringing their share in the upbringing of their son in order to make a man out of him. And secondly: stains. A lot of divorces. Women become single mothers. And everything is superimposed on DRGU: the need to provide a family, bitterness for men, the reluctance of the father to help in raising a child (God forbid, if money), etc. So that both are always to blame.

And, of course, feminism. Many people still do not want to notice the obvious and stubbornly repeat: "What they say, nothing has changed, we are still the same as before. Just the women were completely obsessed with feminism and, in general, grandfather Freud was right and they envy us that we have a member." On the one hand, I agree that some women are completely focused on feminism, and I do not think this is correct. But on the other hand, I do not also think that the current trend in “appreciation” of women, i.e. That women become similar to men - takes the origins from feminism. Feminism was popular, there was a boom, but it has already passed.

It's just a natural process. It is natural that women become a dominant floor on the ground. We are not to blame for this. And not even a man. And nature. She just created us like that. And now it is already impossible to hide it further. A woman is more hardy than men physically and morally, I think no one will argue. And in our time, when physical strength is not so important, this is an unconditional advantage of a man (strength) is no longer a decisive factor in dominance. Women are more flexible, we are easier to adapt.

For example, one of the leading geneticists in the world, Professor of Oxford University Brian Saikis made a sensational statement that a maximum of 125 thousand years of men would disappear as a biological species. Perhaps this will happen much earlier - genetic changes in the human body have recently accelerated. The studies conducted by Saikis confirmed that the Y-chromosome included in the biological code of the man is quickly destroyed because It is an archaic structure that is not able to restore the damage to it from the environment. As a result of the chromosome, it has already suffered serious and in the next centuries will not be able to fulfill its function and determine the male gender at the embryo. Forecasts show that the final “death” of the chromosome will come after 125 thousand years. Brian Saikis believes that the disappearance of a man is not a tragedy. Since the existing technology allows to maintain the development of mankind at the expense of resources of only the female body. Genetic engineering theoretically allows you to create an embryo only from a female cell into which the core of another woman-donor is implanted.

And if in 2012 the end of the world does not come, then I will not be surprised that this will happen. =) And this is normal. For example, a family. It used to be a cell of society. Basic. What do we see now? A lot of divorces, even more families that are kept "because of the child." (always considered it nonsense, just people are afraid of changes). That is, the family loses its value. If women could also pregnant themselves, then the role of a man would have lost his value even faster in society. Unfortunately.

And the modern writer Yanush Vishnevsky published an interesting book “Why do you need men?”. This is a small book consisting of interesting facts accompanied by beautiful author's text. Vishnevsky refutes stereotypes and exposes myths associated with the superiority of men over women. For example, it is believed that a man is smarter than a woman because His brain weighs more. But isn't it logical at least that women in principle weighs less than a man (average) ?? =) As well as scientists have proved that even though the brain of a man is more, but in the female brain there is more directly gray matter. Unfortunately, I can’t find a link to her on the Internet.

I probably wanted to write this post a little differently, but how it happened.

In conclusion, I want to say that now the truth is clearly observed the erasure of the boundaries between the female and male sex. I don't know why this is happening? I can only assume this well or bad. And I don't know exactly how to fix it and whether it is necessary to do it. I do not want to blame only men of getting worse and “smaller” and I do not want to blame women of “for which they fought for that and ran into it.” It's just that. Thank God that in my life for the most part it is surrounded by normal men and sincerely hope that someday I will find a real man with whom I will feel like a real woman.