Talk to me

The conversation breaks together with life, and we still do not understand what caused

She comes home, lies on the sofa, covers with her head with a blanket, listens to music and cries. "Mom, nothing happened, everything is fine, do not touch me, okay?" Lies in an embrace with a laptop, corresponds with someone. Just open the door, and the lid slamms. With whom does she lead the dialogue except herself? What is he thinking? What closes to the lock, turning off the computer? 15 years, a good gymnasium, only five, no comments. Where did these tears come from every day from which it gets scary?

He returns home, throws a backpack, closes in the bathroom and does not go out of there for hours. It does not react, does not answer, sometimes it just rude. Last week, the neighbor saw him sitting in the window of the 15th floor, he hung his legs, looked down and laughed. How, why, why was he there? And what questions does he ask himself, what is the answer to?

He is just from school, stands in the corridor, somehow looks strangely and asks: “Mom, would you like to live on another planet? Well, on the one where all the people would be kind? " He who offended him will not say, and in general he never complains.

He sat in the window of the 15th floor, hung his legs, looked down and laughed. How, why, why was he there? Twisting this quote is real stories from the parents of adolescents. Parents who were confused. “We were not like that,” they say to themselves and write on the forums: it was easier with us. And how to protect them from mistakes? How to find out what they think about, what they are talking about with themselves? "

The internal conversation, which some parents are trying in vain to grab and pull it to the surface, and some do not even notice, does not stop at the moment when the teenager slapped the computer lid irritably. He always goes: in the morning, during breakfast, on the way to school, in the gym, in the dining room, in the lessons, in the yard, in social networks.

And sometimes he leads to farewell to life. The conversation breaks together with life, and we still do not understand what caused. The underground river, flowing under a seemingly well -known route, remains underground.

Russia at one of the first places in the world in teenage suicides and depression. Only last year there were more than six hundred (600!) Suicides. Unhappy love, school persecution, indifference around (well, they drove a backpack, what a nonsense, let him understand). And also - there is too much conversation with oneself, the same conversation that has no one to share with.

Russia at one of the first places in the world in teenage suicides. Over the past year more than 600 The teenager may not slam the laptop cover in Sweden to twist this quote in Sweden: he can try to “decipher” his thoughts and send a question to a hot line called “children's rights in society”. Talk, get advice. In Russia, there is also such a format, but too few people know about it. The Foundation "Your Territory" was created just taking into account the Swedish experience. In just a year - from July 2014 to July 2015 - more than three thousand teenagers turned to the chat for help. Perhaps this online conversation saved one of them from a terrible step,-the virtual interlocutor took his hand, grabbed at the very edge.

And the virtuality here is a very important characteristic. Next to a desperate teenager is a stranger, a mask man who can be laid out anonymously without fear of anything. And which can help. He is simultaneously on your territory, and does not encroach on it.

Now the fund can hold 400 consultations per month. But in fact, much more is required, but there is not enough funding. We need money for the work of staff, to train new employees and several dozen volunteers. Yes, the total amount seems unbearable: two million 335 thousand 188 rubles.

But no one says that everything should turn out to be one jerk. Gradually, step by step, and will be typed.

A little more than two weeks remain until the New Year. Remember how much you usually spend on a gift to a friend or colleague, and give this amount to the “Your Territory” fund. Maybe each such translation next year will stop the teenager from step into the abyss.