Baba became a mother

Alena had no toys and lullaby for the night: drunken parents arranged orgy houses, and the girl looked at all this. In the Orenburg Foundation "Preserving Life" they are trying to return Alena childhood

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- Do you want me to draw a pussy for you?

Five -year -old Alena smiled at the psychologist of the Foundation "Preserving Life", but did not joke.

- Pussy? - asked the dumbfounded Svetlana.

- Dad likes it when I play with his pussy. Come on, draw!

The Alenin dad has a diagnosis of schizophrenia, mother is an alcoholic. Kolya found Irina on the street and brought home. I decided that he would fix it, make a person out of it. Kolya has no parents, his life was only interested in a distant relative, a pensioner Tamara - she sometimes went to visit him. On such days, Kolya hid Irina in the closet, did not want Tamara to see her. And once he just said on the phone: "I had a girl."

“I rushed to his house, and there are drunk mom and dad on the floor, on a pile of dirty laundry, and a monthly child between them,” says Tamara. - I was horrified by the conditions in which he was! The girl was white as a notebook, I called her a Snow White. Then I only realized that it was from hunger. Mother never worked, and Kolya received a disability pension. He was hardworking - in the summer he collected strawberries, sorrel, blackberry, rose hips - walked through the forest for hours, in the heat and frost, and Irina drank this money. ”

Alena and Tamara Photo: Evgenia Volunkova

The girl was called Alena. Tamara found a crib, bedspread, clothes, bedding and everything necessary. I was worried that the child was not registered - the mother had no documents. She took Irina's hand and led the instances - restore. The process dragged on - Irina was often drunk. Nevertheless, Alena was registered.

Alena never had toys, no one lied to her and did not rejoice at her first step or first word. She did not crawl around the room - no need for anyone, the girl sat in the crib all day. Instead of a lullaby - a selective mat, instead of kisses - swearing: “Again, BL*b”. And a lot of cigarette smoke, very dense, not allowing to breathe.

Mom and dad smoked right in the apartment. They opened the balcony - ventilate, a bed stood at the balcony. At three months, Alena caught a cold. "How is Alyonushka?" - asked on the phone by Kolya Tamara. “Three times better,” he answered strangely.

“I rushed to them, and there people with machine guns, a police car, a senior pediatrician of the city, and guardianship authorities. Alena was not shown to the doctors, they did not take to the clinic, and they decided to visit the audit. Irina did not want to go to the hospital with her child, because there you can’t drink and smoke there . By and large, she did not care whether Alena is sick or not, she would die or not. ”

Irina did not want to go to the hospital with her child, because you can’t drink and smoke there

In Alenins for nine months, Tamara noticed that the girl did not stand on her legs - they cross her. The hospital said that a little more, and it was not known if Alena would have gone. But she nevertheless went through Tamarine efforts - in a year and seven months.

Irina often ran away from the house for several days. When Alena was 11 months old, Kolya called Tamara: Irina was found in the park, she and Alena slept there on the ground. When the girl was four years old, Ira ran away with her again. The police found a sleeping woman at a stop, the girl ran around her mother.

But the worst were orgies.

“I somehow went in, and there is some Nadia. I was surprised - who is it? And Kolya answered me, they say, a friend, came to visit. Another time I go in: Kolya and Nadia are lying on the bed together ... Alena said that they were dancing at night, let her sleep. I complained: my mother and dad were frightened, Aunt Nadia Naked danced with dad. I cried, said, I do not want my mother to be drunk, my mother is drunk - angry ... "

Alena photo: Evgenia Volunkova

Tamara did not play from the girl what was happening in their family, but from the fragmentary stories of the child she knew that different men and women go to them home, drinking, walking around the apartment naked. She was afraid to imagine the worst.

Once Irina ran away from home again. Kolya went out into the yard and began to scream into the void. He was taken to a psychiatric hospital. Alena was left alone. Tamara took her to her and decided to arrange her in the kindergarten. It turned out. The girl was used to her, she began to call a woman. Then they wrote out dad, my mother returned.

And after some time, the lost Tamara brought Alena to the Foundation "Preserving Life".

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"Do you want me to draw a pussy for you?" - The first thing Anna Interova Director heard from Alena.

“I was taken aback. And then the grandmother said that they want to drive Alena out of the kindergarten, because she teaches children to draw pussy and imitate sex, ” recalls Anna.

However, Alena Sadik often missed, because she was sick a lot.

“How not to get sick there? - says Tamara. - There is no refrigerator at home, there is really no food, the water is cold, cigarette smoke throughout the apartment. She caught a cold - there is no medicine, she is not treated. She is bronchitis, and what she was not sick. When Alyonushka began problems with the bladder, I wanted to go to the hospital with her, because my mother did not care. But the doctors did not allow: I am not a relative. I turned to Ana in the fund, and they helped me go to the hospital in their connections. ”

Mom and dad took Alena from the kindergarten drunk. The educators were worried. And once, when Irina once again at the half -bent came to the kindergarten, she did not give her a daughter.

“First, she was taken to an infectious diseases hospital. She stayed there for ten days, then got into the shelter. In the shelter, she went crazy with horror. He will grab me by the throat and shouts: "Baba, take me!" She was bad there. It was necessary to do something. I was not going to take the child under guardianship. I have diabetes, I need to treat the child, raise, the school is ahead. And it is specific, the behavior is bad, illness, ”Tamara recalls.

Alena want to drive out of the kindergarten because she teaches children to draw pussy and imitate sex have sex

And yet she decided. She made out custody, arranged Alena to school. At school, the girl did not succeed. She was very lagging behind classmates and could not sit still. “Right in the middle of the lesson I got up and left the class. I poorly understood the tasks. They say to her: write, and she draws, ”and Tamara again came to the“ Preserving Life ”fund.

The Tamara Foundation was advised to transfer Alena to home schooling. The psychologist regularly began to study with the girl. Tamara says, if it were not for the constant support and help of the fund, she would probably not have coped.

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- Do you photograph me?

The game in the fund with a psychologist ended, Tamara helps the girl put on a sweater, she mutters me from under him:

- I have a dog! She is there in the car! I love her! Let's go photograph more!

Alena’s small palm lies in my, fingers are tightly compressed. The girl goes along the road and jumps. Bright skin, snub-nosed nose, dark eyes, a hat with pompons ... An ordinary little girl, but something is alarming in her.

- Take a picture of me like this!

Alena hugs her gray shaggy dog ​​and carefully looks at the lens. And then I understand that in Alena is so unusual: she has a childish smile, but not at all a childish, concentrated look.

Now Alena is seven years old, she does not talk about pussy and does not remember what mom and dad were doing with her. The difficulties in behavior remained: the girl is poorly socialized, cannot find a common language with other children. And even in everyday life it is difficult for her: Alena hardly shods and dresses, she can put on a boot on the wrong leg, does not know how to play.

Alena and Tamara Photo: Evgenia Volunkova

The psychologist of the Foundation “Preserving Life” Svetlana Zayutdinova says that working with Alena is not easy - hereditary diseases have been superimposed on the psyche crippled by parents. Alena had no childhood at all, the very happy one who forms a person who is firmly standing on his feet in a child. And to fix everything that killed Alena for years will not work quickly. But still the girl is changing, and with her grandmother.

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The car with Tamara, Alena and the dog drives away from the side of the road. The girl waves her hand. After 15 minutes, Aikido will begin - Tamara carries a daughter there to develop discipline. Life is slowly getting better, and, most importantly, they finally love Alena. Baba became a mother.

The Orenburg Foundation "Preserving Life" is the only one in the field that helps children - victims of violence. Fixed families often refuse such children, because parents simply do not understand what the child’s desire is connected with, for example, “draw pussy”. Fund psychologists work with children and help them forget the horror experienced. The Fund conducts training seminars for parents, psychologists, specialists from guardianship and trusteeship bodies. The more money we collect, the less children will return to the orphanage, the more children will be able to survive the injury and become happier. If you sign on regular, even small donations, we will all be able to collect 1,900,040 rubles together for the work of the fund for a year.