Man returned to the world

Having lost two children, Irina and Igor Koneva were able to give a new life to the girl from the shelter, who survived the real hell in their own family. But for this they themselves needed help

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Sonya stood behind the curtain and tried not to breathe. According to other children, she realized that people came who could take anyone to their family. She could not have a family. Because the family is scary, painful and really want to eat. They should not notice her. No. She wanted to stay in the shelter. It was warm, then they changed her clothes and even fed. She did not need to ask raw fish anymore in huge, red -faced Volga fishermen and steal carrots in greenhouses. It was not necessary to hide from adults who hurt. No need to die. In her four years, Sonya did not really know what she would like in life, but she knew for sure what she would not want. She no longer wanted to go to such a family. And about the fact that there are other families, how did she know?

First meeting

“When we first arrived at the shelter here near Tver, the kids just attacked us:“ Are you my new mother? Are you my new dad? " - says Irina Koneva, the adoptive mother of Sonya. -And only our girl was hiding behind the curtain and was afraid to even look at the gifts (and we brought a lot-everyone, all). So small, so directly transparent. I beckoned. She came up. I am timilly like that. Well, when we recognized her story, we even wanted to help. ”

Sonya refuses the photo: Vasily Kolotilov for TD Irina gives Sonya syrup from coughing photo: Vasily Kolotilov for TD

Sonya was found already lifeless under a pile of old clothes in a foreign apartment, where there were no kids. Therefore, the neighbors called the police, surprised that there were children crying for three days. As the police suggested, she hid there herself, but there was no strength to get out when the alcoholic owners finally fell asleep. In three and a half years, she was 90 centimeters tall and weighed 10 kilograms. Doctors from the shelter managed to bring her to her senses and even ... undressing, which turned out to be almost more difficult. It seems that they didn’t change their clothes for the child in life: the T -shirt was eaten into the skin, and it had to be partially cut out, and partially soaked in chemical compounds. They washed, fed, entered into the register. But Sonya did not dare to say. And why? With whom?

It was a decent time while she believed that she was not wished to be evil, that she was safe

“For a long time we were not allowed to take the girl to him. According to the documents, somewhere there was her mother, who had to first deprive parental rights, ”Irina explains. - And we talked in the guest mode: Sonya came to visit, we played, drank tea, tried to talk to her. Of course, she said some simple things, but very little. I remember how already on her second visit to us when I took her alone (my husband lingered at work), she came in, looked around and busily asked me: “And de Dad?”

You know, we literally begged for this child. I said: "Come on, I will already do Sonya, I will find teachers, doctors." We knew that it would be necessary to do a lot so that it ceases to be like that ... well, scored, or something, frightened, but we really wanted it. When on the first night in a new house I leaned to kiss her before bedtime, as always made with her children, she recoiled in horror, pressed into the wall so that she merged with the carpet. Only the huge, horror of the eye ... and the time has passed, while she believed that she was not wished to be evil, that she was safe. "

Re -breathe

Irina and Igor Koneva literally inhaled life into Sonya. At first there were a long search for a speech therapist, since many speech therapists did not know how to help. And only one unique specialist discovered defects (paralysis of the upper lip, dystrophy of the tongue - displacement of the left of the norm) - and gave Sonya the opportunity to communicate normally with a new, such unusual, inconsistent family. Then the fight against asthma and district doctors began.

“It was with Sonya from the shelter or even earlier, we don’t know for sure. It was sometimes attacked by bouts of cough and suffocation. Of course, we called a doctor from the district clinic at home, Irina continues. - And over and over again they heard the same thing that all the children cough, that it's okay. But I put two children on the feet, I can distinguish “just a cough” from “not easy”. And when one of the doctors from the neighboring site once again told me that I would no longer call the trifles, and no one would go to us for a call, I just hit my palm on the table: just try not to accept my child. I will not let me ruin. I will do anything to achieve the necessary for Sonya. ”

In her four years, she was more like a one -year -old baby in skills and activity

And achieved. They helped in the regional children's hospital, where they got a direction by acquaintance. It turned out - asthma. Only one inhalations had to be done at the first stage of treatment for seven to eight per day. The feeling was that they breathed more through a nebulizer than just air. But then the girl was recovering. Now the attacks have almost disappeared, and Sonya can calmly engage in her favorite items at the usual and school school, where she goes to the theater studio - at dancing, stage speech and everything that artists are supposed to know. Sonya can live and breathe again.

Igor, Irina and Sonya look at the photographs from the Chechen business trip to their son Vladimir. He died in Chechnya in 2001 Photo: Vasily Kolotilov for TD

“We were given a child from the shelter who could not speak and was very behind in development - in her four years she was more like a one -year -old baby in skills and activity,” Irina admits. - In the documents, as a sentence, there was a diagnosis of F7x.8 (mental retardation with other deviations). But we gave her so much love, we invested in her so much that she just came to life. You know how revived. "

The second life

But not only the Korseenes breathed a new life into Sonya. She also revived their family in the literal sense of the word.

“Sonya was not the first child whom we wanted to take to us,” recalls Irina. - A wonderful girl also came to us to visit her, but then she decided to take her distant relatives. And you, you see, just physically needed to give all that unspented love that remained after Lenochka and Volodya. ”

Knevs lost both their native children. Vladimir died in Chechnya in 2001, being sent there under the contract of the Internal Affairs Directorate. On the night of September 28-29, 2001, at about 21 hours, the militants attacked the temporary department of the Kurchaloevsky VOVD, the personnel were raised in the gun, a fight began, Vladimir died in battle. In the battalion of the Patrol and Service Service of the police department of the Tver region, a memorial plaque was installed in memory of the feat of Vladimir. He was 25. And Lenochka passed away in 2007 at the age of 20. For more than three years, parents sought punishment of the driver guilty of an accident.

Lenochka searched for four days. Buried only on the seventh

“I had wonderful children, kind, honest, responsible. All this will tell you who knew them, ”says Irina. -I remember, I came to the teacher of Volodka, he was a three-year-old, I tried to somehow fix it, or something. And she says to me: God is with them, with an assessment, what kind of golden guy. And this is true. Helen simply adored him, although the age difference was 10 years old, almost looked at her mouth, he was an example for her, authority, adviser. Therefore, no one was surprised when, after his death, she decided to follow in his footsteps and go to study in St. Petersburg at the Academy of the Internal Affairs Directorate. Inwardly, I had a rejection of this decision of her, but then they convinced me, they even came to us from the Internal Affairs Directorate, said: “She will have work immediately after such a study. And what other university will give her? " Well, I listened ... "

Vladimir in the army

Lenochka searched for four days. Buried only in the seventh. Thank you, at least the employees of the department where Volodya served, helped with the transportation of the body from St. Petersburg to Tver. Neither the police, nor the employees of the morgue where the girl got after the car was shot down at a pedestrian crossing at the green signal of the traffic light, they did not bother to inform the family about the incident, although the mobile phone all this time lay in the bag and sober up. This Irina unsuccessfully over and over again drew the number of her daughter, with whom she called up every day at eight o’clock in the evening after all affairs.

“I felt great guilt in front of my daughter,” she admits. - After Volodya’s death, I fell into such a state. The words simply cannot be explained. What I just did not do-and went to psychologists, and to psychotherapists, and for some meditation. Nothing helped. I seemed to die. And Lenochka I did not give all the love that she deserved. I was ashamed and scary, but I could not do anything. I even turned away from God then. Because I did not understand why. And Lenochka - she regretted me. She went to psychology. I wanted to help me. But I haven't saved it. Therefore, it was so important for me to prove the driver’s guilt. After all, they even offered me money so that I would not sue. They wanted my Helen to look guilty, I could not allow it. It was a matter of honor. ”

The death of her son hit Irina's health greatly. After several prolonged serious diseases, she was given the second disability group, but in spite of everything she regularly went to court hearings, where she invariably faced the disrespect and rudeness of the defendant’s lawyer. The man who, knocking down the girl, got out of the car and checked if he damaged the bumper and wings. All the witnesses with whom Irina was very lucky told about this in one voice. They survived and testified, although they were put pressure on them. And let the plaintiff disabled the costs of traveling to court, Irina was enough victory. At least she defended her daughter's honor.

“But the condition was still terrible. Both children were taken from me. Such was the emptiness in the shower. Unbearable simple. I didn’t want to live. I wanted to go to the grave to my son, to my daughter. And lie down. Lie down with them. And only the thoughts that “well -wishers” will surrender me to the crazy house immediately, stopped. After all, there was so much evil around. Permanent courts, some instances. Not only in the Lenochka case, after all, the internal affairs department of the Tver region refused to increase the size of the pension in the occasion of the loss of the breadwinner for the deceased son-veteran, and Igor (who raised and contained Volodya all his life, although he was not his own father) and completely refused to appoint this pension. Mom also died. If it were not for the Mother's Right Foundation, we would definitely not have coped. There would not be enough strength. And there would be no horse, no sonechka ... "

Mother's right

Knevs turned to the Mother Law at the end of 2010. Irina accidentally learned about the existence of this organization. And I wrote there, rather, by inertia. Not expecting an answer. And the answer followed immediately. A day after contacting her, a package with recommendations on the necessary steps (collection of documents, samples of complaints and appeals to various authorities, etc.) was sent to her by the post office. A week later, two lawyers of the fund also connected, and the third lawyer went to meet Tver. It just so happened that all the few employees of the fund, including the chairman , were engaged in the history of Korse . After all, it was she who, in their first letter, read notes of such despair that could not remain unanswered.

Irina helps Sonya put on a dress for a festive Christmas tree photo: Vasily Kolotilov for TD Irina throws Sonya Sonya for a festive Christmas tree photo: Vasily Kolotilov for TD

“We simply have no strength to achieve justice, we are squeezed morally and physically. We can no longer fight about closed doors. They wanted to contact the president, but learned about your organization. We ask your help very much, ”Irina wrote.

The fund immediately entered the struggle for the rights of Irina and Igor: a lawsuit was drawn up, lawyers “Mother’s rights” filed a court, and numerous court sessions began - exclusively at the funds of the organization, that is, free for horse. The process was delayed, since the defendant, who missed the deadlines for filing an appeal for a court decision, made in favor of the Korseevsky district court of Tver, was not too lazy to spend the time, effort and money of taxpayers to restore the deadlines for filing an appeal, and a second hearing was followed. However, it was also crowned with the victory of Fens “Mother's Right” in the interests of the Korse , which were restored in the rights to all the assigned payments. But it was not only in this victory. The fund helped Irina to realize the most important right of the mother - to live for the sake of the family, and not for the sake of litigation.

“I am insanely grateful to the“ mother’s right, ” - this is again the words of Irina. - I always say that the fund appeared in my life for no accident. And at such a moment. You can’t even imagine. Hands dropped. I didn’t want anything anymore. And although I understood that the years have gone, I still did not dare to adopt. Will I cope? Will there be enough strength? And here is the fund.

The fund helped Irina to realize the most important right of the mother - to live for the sake of the family, and not for the sake of litigation

The point is not that they took on the entire load in the court. And completely free! These are just unique people themselves. I really did not believe that such were left at all. Sensitive, indifferent, decent. They just supported me that they returned faith to a person. Hope Dali. And I decided. "

When at the end of 2012 Irina once again called the fund in her case, her voice was simply not recognized in the tube. If earlier the intonations were either simply absent, or they only talked about the extreme degree of despair, now at the other end of the wire a real, recognizable, tangible person, full of emotions and hopes, has appeared. The extinct voice came to life. The man returned to the world.

“The Mother's Right Foundation saved more than one of me. And not because he succeeded in payments or proved the responsibility of the perpetrators, as in other cases. This fund does not just defend our rights, it brings us back to life. God forbid anyone to survive what the mothers of the dead children are experiencing. This cannot be conveyed in words. And when in this situation we are faced with the injustice of various instances, when we see all the indifference, all this desire to get rid of us, we simply cease to believe that there is a way out. We stop believing in people. And in the fund we meet with a completely different attitude. And this may be even more important. Attention, participation, help, human heat.

Sonya with Irina on a Christmas tree in the city library photo: Vasily Kolotilov for TD

If not for the “mother’s right”, I would not dare to take Sonya. And this happiness would not have found this after so many years of nightmare and darkness. This fund simply cannot cease to exist, it must live. In order for others to revive life - such as us. "

... Every year, from three to five thousand of the same mothers and fathers as Konva, they contact the Foundation “Mother's Right”. These people remain under the care of the fund forever. At first, the fund helps them find and punish the law of the guilty of their children, then helps to recapture pensions and payments from officials - because our officials love to save not on themselves, but on the most disadvantaged - those who cannot raise their heads from grief ... The “Mother's Right” Foundation approves the belief in people that even the poorest person has the right to justice. What are people who will help if you find yourself in trouble. The fund’s website says that they provide free legal assistance here. In fact, lawyers of the “mother’s rights” return people such as Konva to life.

The Foundation "Mother's Right" helps its wards for free, but for this it needs your help. Please issue a monthly donation for any, even the most symbolic amount, so that the fund continues its work in the new year.