"You don't live here anymore"

Olga has a residence permit in a parental apartment, there is a father, brother and ex -husband. But Ole has nowhere to live with her son

Waking up in the morning among tables and computers in an empty office, Olya realized that this was the edge. Little Leva, curled up by a ball under a warm blanket, slept in a large chair in the directorship reception. They were allowed to live on the weekend in the office by a random acquaintance. Sympathized. There is nowhere else to go. Dot. She could not do it. To imagine that with a child in her arms it would wander around the restless in her native city, full of relatives and acquaintances, she could not even in nightmares.

The plan failed

When Olya sat on a train in Volgograd, she had a clear plan. At first, live with old acquaintances, arrange a lion in the garden and find a job. For three months, it was possible to accumulate a small amount, so as not to starve and not sit in the parasites before the first salary. I looked in advance on the job search sites for suitable vacancies. I was sure that a couple of months - and everything would work out. She can handle it.

Reality has greatly dispersed with the script. Getting a place in the state garden for a baby under three years old turned out to be non-partial business-they promised to find something after eight months. A private kindergarten cannot be pulled without work. It didn’t work out with work either. There were responses at the resume, but when they found out about the two -year -old son at the interview, they refused various pretexts. Some were not afraid to talk about the reasons for refusing to openly. In one company, it was innocently offered to write a letter of resignation with an open date. Like, you are suitable for us, but if you often take sick leave, we will give a move to the application. A week was following a week. From some acquaintances, she moved to another, then to the third. Until I was on the couch in an empty office in the center of Yekaterinburg - on the threshold of winter.

Olga's son is preparing for a daytime walk photo: Sergey Lostev for TD

Olya tells her story without emotions, almost without raising her eyes from the table. A thin, dark-haired, with thin facial features and blue-blue eyes-a pretty young woman who has lost faith in her own strengths, who is embarrassed to tell how she remained with her little son on the street. Friendly, sociable Leva is spinning right there - then asks to drink compot, then pencils. And when Olya begins to patiently explain something to her son, her face brightens.

Everything is like everyone else

Yes, was born in Yekaterinburg. An ordinary family - mom, dad, daughter and son. A good treshka in the center of the city, in money did not bathe, but did not pierced. Adults worked, children studied. Everything was like everyone else, and then in 2003 my mother died of cancer. Dad began to drink, and all the worries about the house and about dad went to Olya. And then in a common company I met a man. Fell in love. Meet. He was offered a good job in Volgograd, and he left. Not that he immediately called with him, but wrote that he was bored, he called to visit. She took a vacation and went. After separation, the relationship flashed with renewed vigor - and Olya decided to stay, so right away. I called dad that I would not return. He wished good luck and in seven years he never called himself, even when his grandson was born.

In Volgograd, life was established with varying success. Quite quickly there was a good job in Miratorg, where Olin, experience in warehouse logistics, came by the way. But relations with a man were bought. Olya loved and smoothed out all the corners, not noticing that she was beating for a relationship. When Olya found out that she was pregnant, Vadim began to insist that the child was not at the wrong time: there was no housing, only everything was working with work, a stranger city, there are no relatives nearby. You need to get settled and all that. And Olya surrendered.

Leva was born three years later, when his house has already been built. But this did not help. After the birth of the child, endless conflicts began. The husband was sitting without work, and Olya did not want to lose a good place and left the decree almost immediately. Dad remained with his son. But the unemployed husband not only sat with the child, but also rolled scenes of jealousy. I tracked the clock - whether Olga immediately came home from work. At first he simply arranged scandals and poured insults, then began to dissolve his hands. At first he fought only on a drunken bench. Olya endured. And this only raised her husband.

Olga with her son during a walk photo: Sergey Lostev for TD

Return home - to dad, to the parental three -wing - Olya thought a year and a half ago. She wrote to her brother that her husband was beating, and she wants to go home, her brother answered right away: "Of course, come." And Olya began to quietly gather. I bought a ticket, at work I agreed on vacation. But after a couple of days, the brother sent a completely different message. He wrote that she had nothing to do here - we are adults, each has their own family, understand for yourself. Olya was taken aback, replied that their new families could not cancel kinship in any way. But I felt that my brother did not hear her. And then a repentant husband arrived with an apology and oaths to improve. And Olya remained in Volgograd.

But nothing has changed. My husband did not want to look for a job, was annoyed at the child and beat Olga now on a sober head. Once he hit so much that Olya, curling up an hour on the floor, understood that next time he would make her disabled or kill her. She could not stand it and in tears she told her friend, and she immediately said - move to us, stop enduring it. Olya grabbed Leva and left what she was. When the train drove away from Volgograd, she finally exhaled.

In search of the fifth corner

Olya opened the door with her key and went into the house in which almost her whole life passed. Here they all watched the TV together, celebrated family holidays, cursed, shared joy and buried their mother. Now the house was a stranger. Dad appeared on the threshold and first was delighted with his daughter and grandson. He said: "Stay and live." And after a couple of hours, brother and wife and children returned home, and the situation was heated. The wife began to defiantly collect things and shout that she would leave if Olga and Leva would live here. The brother tried to reduce the degree, calm his wife, said that it was impossible to take and put his sister and his nephew out into the street. Olya also tried to reach the daughter -in -law, calling for her maternal feelings. And only his father eliminated - silently went into his room and closed the door. Then Olya took Leva, slapped the door and also left.

Wandering continued. A cousin was found in social networks, with whom they had not seen for 14 years, from my mother’s funeral. Having learned about the situation, without much enthusiasm, but still called to visit. Olya and left Kuzina lived for almost three weeks. Silmary guests did not like her sister's sister, and he was not embarrassed, he was indignant - why should he tolerate them? The sociable Leva was spinning around all the time, dangled and started games, interfering with lying on the couch by the TV. Olya tried to spend less time at home. First, they slept with the left on the floor in the room, then in the kitchen, and in the end they moved to sleep on the balcony so as not to interfere with anyone. In the end, when Olina was in the store, the husband came close to Olya and almost hissed: "Get ready, and so that you are not here in two days."

The next day, Olya admitted to herself that she has exhausted all the resources, and wrote a letter to the Aistenok - the organization of assistance to women who found themselves in a difficult situation. After a day, the coordinators of the Aystenka settled Olya and her son in a crisis apartment.

Olga in one of the courtyards of Yekaterinburg photo: Sergey Lostev for TD

Olya has been living in a crisis apartment for two months. It is admitted that she expected much worst conditions-something like an overnight stay or a hostel with two-tied metal beds and a specific asocial contingent. In fact, it turned out to be a large five -room apartment in an ordinary residential building. Ole with the left got the most cheerful, light bedroom. White wallpaper with a lilac pattern. Organza curtains. Two sofas. Large wardrobe and a crib. You no longer need to sleep with a two -year -old baby on the floor, on the balcony.

Leva goes to the “aist” to engage in a speech therapist, and Olya - once a week to a psychologist. With a psychologist, they drew up a plan of action, how to achieve a result and believe in themselves again. Become independent, find a good job, achieve a kindergarten for a son.

“I don’t know what would happen to us, if not this help. I always coped myself and was sure that I was strong and this time I would do it. It turned out that this is not so. ”

Sometimes a woman reaches a point behind which only an abyss. And it is so important that on the edge of this abyss, someone extends a helping hand. He simply supported, returned a sense of security and self -confidence. “Family territory” - the project of the public organization “Aystyok” - just the very hand of goodness, who will not allow women with children who find themselves in difficult life situations to fail into the abyss. Let's help together those who do not have enough strength to cope with their trouble on their own, who do not have family support and friends. We collect money to pay for the work of a psychologist, educator, psychotherapist and utilities in a crisis apartment, so that such as Olga, there has always been where to contact.

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