Society of Gray Teenagers

Participation in persecution as alcohol brings temporary relief and increases self -esteem from the aggressor. But not for long

London journalist Joe Powers looks at the phone, she has 86 new notifications. Reads: “She would be ashamed!”, “Nittle!”, “In general, creature!” They call the doorbell, this courier brought a cake. On the box in large letters #to measure. Joe again looks at the phone - 200 new messages: “Direct!”, “Deal!”, “Creature” ...

A few hours later it turns out that Joe died. She began a terrible seizure - he beat her head, and then cut her throat with a fragment from a broken bottle. Investigators find the "senders" of the cake. These are women from the forum of "mothers". They come to one of them.

- You threatened a person!

- This is a joke, okay, I alone did it, but half the country ...

“Did you wish her death?”

- No, I didn't want to.

On the way back, one of the investigators tells the colleague: "Tomorrow, someone else will stick them out." It soon turns out that the dancer died, on whom, because of his incorrect statement on TV, they fell on social networks with millions of curses. It turns out that both in the first case of physical death and in the second pathologists find bees in the heads of the dead. Only these are not real bees, the real ones practically died out, and in order to prevent the environmental disaster, the Roy project was invented. According to this project, scientists created autonomous insect drones - ADD. Pathologists explain that in both cases it was the bees-ankd that climbed into the brain pain, and "this is unbearable, you will do anything here, even open your throat."

But the most interesting thing happens further: the whole country becomes known that the Bee of ADD kills precisely those people who caused a wave of hatred using a hashtag #death to you. Nevertheless, the intensity of threats, curses and curses in relation to a new one, the third victim does not decrease. Investigators urgently recognize its address, take it to a house for witnesses, tightly close all windows and doors, but the crod bees seep through the ventilation system, the victim beats in hard torment, bleeds and dies directly before their eyes.

I retold the plot of a series of the English fantastic series "Black Mirror".

He is consonant with today's realities and talks about a relatively new phenomenon: the persecution that adults arrange.

The fact is that the phenomenon of persecution itself was always inherent in adolescents, it was associated with childhood cruelty. With the advent of new technologies, the aggression of children received incredible proportions: almost every fifth child of 13 thousand surveyed Russian schoolchildren called himself victims of cyberbulling.

This study, together with a group of scientists, was conducted by a doctor of psychological sciences, corresponding member of the RAO, professor of the Faculty of Psychology of Moscow State University, director of the Internet Development Fund Galina Soldatova.

She talked about this at the lecture of the Department of Psychology "New":

-Children are actively mastering the varieties of online aggression, improving in flood or spam (unnecessary useless information), fliles (verbal aggressive reaction that violates the principles of constructive discussion), trolling or cheatics, often openly demonstrating a negative attitude towards another person. A striking example of expression of extreme rejection and hostility is the “walls of hatred” in VKontakte, organized by one teenager or group, united in order to entail, for example, Alena. This is already heatiness, which has turned into cyberbulling - intentional and regular harm (intimidation, humiliation, persecution, physical or psychological terror) by one person or group of people to another person using electronic forms of contact.

It is significant that there were more aggressors than victims - every fourth student openly admitted that he consciously poisoned, humiliated or offended another person.

The pursuers and victims of Cyberbulling are often the same children who do not know how to defend themselves, lonely, psychologically vulnerable. A comparison of bullying offline and bullying on the Web shows that it is almost impossible to protect on the Internet and it is almost impossible to protect its victims.

-How to reduce the risk of bullying for a child?

Galina Soldatova

Professor of the Faculty of Psychology of Moscow State University, Director of the Internet Development Fund

“Even at the very beginning of the formation of Internet technologies, and this is more than two decades ago, Virginia Shi had already been proposed 10 completely reasonable rules (by analogy with the famous 10 commandments) in the network, called Netical-network etiquette,” says Galina Soldova. - First of all, this, of course, is compliance with the rules of confidentiality in relation to passwords from their accounts: adults must protect them as the apple of the eye themselves and accustom children to this.

We must be careful about what we post on the network, to talk about it with the child, since today the reputation on the Internet is as important as in real life, and, moreover, it can directly affect real life.

It is strictly not recommended to upload credit cards, mobile phones, an exact address of residence, photographs and videos to social networks, which in some way can compromise their author. Also, if we are talking about children who are just starting to use a social network, parents should help them with filling the profile, deal with privacy settings, and further “confuse” with their child and regularly show interest in his online active.

Another important point that is worth mentioning is the use of parental control systems, both built into the operating system on an electronic device and offered by third -party developers. As the simplest example, we can cite the functions of parental control, built into antivirus programs. They help parents track the network activity of their children, block dubious pages, search queries and advertising banners. In general, starting from a very young age, parents should teach their child to critically relate to information on the Internet. No need to be afraid of an open dialogue with a child: you can carefully and tactfully ask him about what you saw and read on the Internet, discuss these topics together. It is much better if the child receives competent comments from parents than from peers or random acquaintances that he met on the network.

Finally, I want to say that all parents should regularly talk with children about their life on the Internet and learn to be an example of a responsible online user. This means a regular increase in their own digital competence and compliance with all the rules of conduct on the network that they previously installed for their children. The best way to keep abreast of what is happening with the child on the Internet is to regularly visit the social network in which he communicates, to talk with him about the events taking place in his virtual world. At the same time, you should pay special attention to those whom the child adds to friends, what information is divided on his page, what pictures, audio and videos accompany posts on his page.

Many psychologists argue that the child who becomes on one side with the aggressor can stop adults: to offer him to imagine himself in the victim’s position, to explain that such behavior is unworthy, because “seven of one is not beaten,” and so on. A child who has received traumatic experience as a victim can often not do without the help of specialists, here parents can feel their own helplessness. How to help? In each case, everything is individually, the general advice is simple: you need to be friends with your child in order to find out in time that someone is psychologically pressing on him, you need to urgently leave the account, where he is humiliated, insulted. To be with him together, to find everyone who is spiritually close and significant for the child, look for support from them.

But what to do when adults are arranged? Such hatred attacks have recently have practically no restrictions. Neither the reputation of those to whom it is directed, nor talent or fame, stops - just recall the gigabytes of rudeness and curses to the ascetics of Chulpan Khamatova or Dr. Lisa.

Even reports about death - recall once again Dr. Lisa, satirist Mikhail Zadornov and many others - turned into a gong for hunting. At the same moment when a message about death comes, all kinds of “I hope he is already in hell.”

Even the age of the victim does not stop: for example, threats and insults against a schoolboy from New Urengoy after his report in the Bundestag. It was as if the fantastic series “Black Mirror” before our eyes turned into reality and not the fact that someone would stop the message that the Killer-pancies are physically killing all whom they are poisoned.

Dmitry Leontyev

Doctor of Psychological Sciences, Professor, Head of the International Laboratory of Positive Psychology of Personality and Motivation of the Higher School

- Half up adults today is no different from adolescence. In the nature of this phenomenon lies an acute deficiency of self -regulation, the lack of personal responsibility in people. It is formed by culture, a family, the environment, the values ​​and meanings that people set for themselves. We now have a model of voluntarism in culture. It was voluntarism that became literally a national idea. It refers not only to the mechanisms of state power and management. In various forms, he manifests himself at all levels, from top to bottom - this is the unwillingness to limit his immediate desires.

All social taboos flew in the era of postmodernism, as it turned out that value systems were relative. Postmodernism gives rise to non -criticism of its views, and authoritarianism is a desire to impose them on others. The position of such people: "I have the right to freedom of opinion and its expression, but they have no disagreements with me." And more and more people become people who consider their own opinion the absolute truth.

This model of behavior is broadcast by the leader and power structures, television, and people seek to behave in the same way in everyday situations. If you prove your case without hearing a draw of arguments, then you are strong. And he must suppress everyone who has a different position.

Moreover, this is done absolutely sincerely. Psychologists are well known for primary narcissism as a stage of infant development, when we do not notice where I am and where others, the whole world should obey my desires. When we grow up, this stage remains in most people in the past, but some people cannot overcome their now secondary narcissism: the whole world is obliged to agree with me.

In addition to the individual, there is also group narcissism, when the group believes that the opinion of its own, of course, is correct, but everyone else is not. And this is transferred to relations between groups of people, cultures and societies. The consequences can be the most sad.

- It happens when the persecution lasts several days. All conceivable and unthinkable injuries have already been inflicted, but it does not stop. Why?

- People do not have enough internal resources to restrain themselves, to control themselves - for this we need a certain psychological maturity. Zhvanetsky owns a wonderful phrase: "Calculate up to ten to say stupidity to say a smart thing - up to a hundred, and to make an act - up to a thousand." But aggressors will not be able to do this, because they are not in the wretches with themselves. They cannot live calmly in the presence of other opinions, and they urgently need to be destroyed, if not physically, then at least morally. They need this for self -affirmation: to prove that others are even worse. Through injury and aggression, they temporarily acquire a higher self -esteem. What happens in psychology is called "adjustment from above." That is, the opportunity to take in relation to the interlocutor or opponent a position from top to bottom helps these people for some time to cope with their own inferiority. This is an unstable sensation, it does not help very much, but it can temporarily give relief - like alcohol.

- Your colleague Alexander Asmolov told me that we had a killer slang today. And that people with an open consciousness, an open soul, without armor, are almost all injured today, neurotic, sick. By the way, this is clearly visible today in the choice of targets for bullying.

- Hatred is always unevenly distributed. People who understand the complexity of the world, take responsibility, are not very inclined to hatred. Hatred is a consequence of some inexperienced internal conflicts, unreflected, accumulated aggression. She is seething in her soul, hesitates, she must be thrown out somewhere. But those who experience it are not capable of inner work with their experiences. Open, free people, therefore, become targets for them. Aggression, of course, goes not only at them, it also pours to the villains. But the problem of bullying victims is most often that they, as a rule, are not the cause of aggression. They are just a reason for the sewage to the fact that the aggressor has gathered and seething the throat. That is why arguments in defense of the victim do not act in the persecution.

I do not watch TV shows, but what you told me reminds me of Julia Daniel’s book “Open Murder Day”, written in the 1960s. There is a day when the government gives official permission to kill everyone who does not like. This is the same plot, we came to it.

- With the only difference being that now we have been allowed all days, and you can collect your swarm over the Internet at the same second. Remember the film by Roland Bykov "Scarecrow"? There her peers harshly poisoned the girl. And today, adults poison schoolchildren. Do we have a society of evil children? Gray teenagers?

- Yes, this is very rhyme with what is happening, - "adult children" are becoming angrier and everything is more infantile. On the child, they put a “alien” marker and pour on it all the accumulated claims to the world and to everything that happens in their unbearable hard life. The bearers of adult consciousness in our minority, therefore there is a feeling that all the limiters flew.

Everyone has an opinion, but not everyone has their own, based on the internal work done. As the great philosopher Merab Mamardashvili said, "the opinion that the internal work is behind is not equivalent to the opinion, which is not worth any work." In the latter case, we find not the result of work, but “uploaded content”, not provided with a gold margin of understanding and thinking.

“Suddenly, millions of people write how they hate you is like a mental illness,” says one of the heroines of the series “Black Mirror”. How to survive injuries?

- You know that psychologists do not give general advice. What can I say, without knowing anything personal about the person whom persecution touched? Only the fact that this mosque will certainly pass. We must look for those who are close in spirit, and most importantly - to understand that if most with crowds with such aggression are piled on them, this does not mean that they are wrong. You need to understand that they are not a reason, but a reason for the accumulated aggression.