Center of the Universe

Lyudmila resembles a planet, around which satellites rotate - daughters and grandchildren. And to maintain a fragile equilibrium for this system has been helping for 13 years "aist"

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Lyudmila and her pregnant 17-year-old daughter Anya stood in front of the door of the Operating Gynecological Department: the girl was expected to abort, but she could not take the last step. "Come on!" - The mother was determined. What shisha to raise a baby in a 20-meter small family, where Lyudmila lived for one salary with two minor children-Anya and Natalya, neither she nor her pregnant daughter represented. Lyudmila was sorry for the time and effort spent on the collection of certificates allowing abortion in the late stages, sorry for herself, sorry for the trembling Anya, who cried and still did not dare to cross the threshold of the operating room, sorry for the missed opportunities of her daughter and her ruined youth ...

Dasha photo: Fedor TELKOV for TD

It was 13 years ago, now the daughter of Ani, Dasha, is studying in the sixth grade of one of the schools of Yekaterinburg. Girls might not have been if, then, in 2006, Lyudmila and Anna did not encounter a clinic with the head of the Aistenok public organization, which helps women who fell into a difficult life situation. Then Larisa Lazareva met Lyudmila and Anya several times, persuaded them to preserve the baby, explaining that there were no hopeless situations. ( The names of the heroes of publication were changed at their request - approx. TD ).

Everything holds on it

Lyudmila Fedorova is 50 years old, she is a nurse with extensive experience. An energetic, slender woman. He speaks and moves at the speed of a machine -gun line. It controls everything that happens around. "Put on the headphones!" - Grandmother says strictly to her granddaughter so that she does not eavesdrop on the conversation. Obviously, the demanding grandmother is the axis of this family, which makes everyone move and rotate around him. And when someone begins to move not in a given direction, the “axis” is angry and perplexed.

Daughters Anna and Natalia Lyudmila lifted one. She parted with her husband when the girls were seven and five years old. “All my life, like a wave, I worked in three works to grow them, so that they did not need anything. The husband did not help, he did not pay alimony, - Lyudmila chop the air with her hand. “I don’t understand what I did incorrectly with my daughters, maybe I paid little attention to them because of work, but they present and present me with surprises.” By “surprises”, the grandmother implies both unexpected pregnancy of both daughters and communication with unreliable men, as well as problems with study and banal conflicts of “fathers and children”.

Lyudmila Photo: Fedor Telekov for TD

Anna and Natalia are completely different in nature. According to the mother, Anna is soft, compassionate, and Natalia, on the contrary, is fighting. But their fate is nevertheless similar: Anna became pregnant at 17, Natalya - at 19. The fathers of children in both cases chose to end themselves. Anya gave birth to a daughter Dasha, Natasha - her son Nikita. “When this happened to Anya, I was yielded like a butt on the head, when with Natasha, I already knew where to go - to the“ aist ”. There, both times we helped a lot, they took under the wing. In addition to psychological support and tips, they gave food, clothes, diapers, ”Lyudmila quickly lists. “Without their help, we would definitely not have survived.”

Lyudmila says that she always completely controlled the life of her grandchildren: she appeared in kindergartens and schools of Dasha and Nikita almost more often than their mother, made crafts with them, checked the household. She drove her grandson to the group of daytime children at Aystenka so that Natasha could finish their studies and find a job. Active grandmother is sure that without her the girls would not have coped.

Three single mothers in one apartment

At one time, the whole family is a mother, two daughters, a grandson and granddaughter lived in a 20-meter apartment: a 12-meter living room, a bathroom and a tiny kitchen-corridor, where, in addition to a couple of kitchen cabinets, a small two-tier bed also managed to squeeze. Later, when Natalya graduated from the Higher School of Police and began to work, she and her son moved to housing nearby, and Anya and Dasha remained with her mother.

Three years ago, Anna met a man and began to rent a room in a hostel with him. Lyudmila was categorically against. Dasha remained with her grandmother. According to the mother, the chosen one of the daughter often drinks, uses light drugs and does not work anywhere. Anna, a teacher in kindergarten, contains both of them. “She bought a TV, a laptop, and he pulled everything in a pawnshop. She regrets him that nobody needs him, and I say: “Are you - Mother Teresa - to feel sorry for him? It’s better to regret your child,” Lyudmila indignantly.

Dasha photo: Fedor TELKOV for TD

Anya was not going to throw a roommate, but a couple of days ago he appeared drunk home and beat her strongly. Anna was hospitalized with injury and hematomas. Doctors had to conduct an operation to maintain her vision.

Lyudmila is angry with her daughter, but she regularly runs after work to the hospital - to visit, bring dinner and the necessary medicines. After discharge, Anna will move back to her mother. She wrote a statement to the police to the cohabitant and does not intend to take him (at least for now).

Apples from orange

The younger grandson of Nikita is already eight years old, he is a second -grader. In many ways, it looks like Lyudmila - also sharp and fast. He often runs up to his grandmother: flies into the apartment, asks for money, and having received a trifle, tries to smack on the cheek. The grandmother is trying to be strict with the grandson before strangers, but he melts from the kiss - smiles at the corner of his mouth, then he caught on and again embraces the severity. While Lyudmila is invented by the boy, he runs away with his friends to spend prey in the nearest store.

Dasha, who will turn 13 years old in a couple of weeks, looks at all 16: for her age, high, eyebrows and long hair dyed black: saw a photo of her mother, where she was painted black and decided to become similar. While the paint was bred with a girlfriend, a stain on a light carpet in the room was placed. For this it flew from my grandmother.

Dasha is very waiting for her mother home. I am glad that they will all live together again and sleep on an old bunk bed: Dasha from above, Anya below.

According to the girl, they often swear with their grandmother, mainly due to their studies. Dasha skips lessons, brings deuces, the reason is a difficult relationship with classmates. Lyudmila is sure that the granddaughter "does everything to her spite."

The unwillingness of the eldest daughter and granddaughter to study outrages Lyudmila the most. She, not without pride, tells how much she studied herself, how she did everything possible to learn her younger daughter, and hopes that the eldest will also continue their studies at the pedagogical institute.

Dasha and Lyudmila. Photo: Fedor Telekov for TD

Lyudmila non -stop cranes of grandchildren and daughters, but deep down knows: they are the meaning of her existence, her engine. Blaps and worries do not make Lyudmila weaker, on the contrary, they do not allow reducing speed, make you stay afloat and feel life itself.

Despair and fatigue, according to her, roll about one or two per year. In moments of weakness, Lyudmila runs to the “aist” for a consultation with a psychologist. “After the conversation, you will come out calm, inspired. Of course, then it is addictive again, but for some time there is enough “recharging,” the woman says. - We got out and no longer need material assistance from the “aimen”, on the contrary, we carry our things to the warehouse, give others to others what the children grew out of. And psychological, emotional support is always by the way. ”

Anya and Anya and Dasha occasionally go to psychologists in the "aist. Perhaps, after Anna’s leaving the hospital, they will again sign up for a consultation and will surely complain about Lyudmila's severity, about endless reproaches and nit -picking, not understanding that this is just love. And that children and grandchildren with their problems need grandmother even more than her to them.

The interregional public organization "Aistenok" over 15 years of existence helped hundreds of women not to abandon their children. And 503 children, thanks to the help of their specialists, have gained foster families. Now the Aistenok constantly accompanies 600 families - these are foster families, single mothers, women in a difficult life situation. The employees of Aystenka are grateful to everyone who helped them over the years, and will be very grateful if you help too. Thank you!