A large bride

Julia Shuldeshova is 39 years old, she works at the aerospace lyceum in Khimki, and she has 10 children - two blood and eight receptionists. The story of this large family is, of course, the story of calling, the same one that leaves no choice and drags a person through life, even if he bursts

Julia is well known in social networks: she always helps someone. And she is very cheerful. It is a pity that I can’t put a smiley in the text. I would put them through the paragraph - so often Julia laughs.

We are talking, walking with the baby. If the eight -month Yulechka is sleeping, then mom is in touch. If he doesn’t sleep, they are all alive, and I also humbly wait for the baby to subside. Yulin's story stretches for several days.

Denis, typhoid and boots

- At first I was an elementary school teacher, then I retrained to the psychologist, then went on maternity leave, and then became a social teacher in our school and have been working for them for 11 years.

- Who is this - a social teacher?

- A person who returns difficult adolescents and those who abandoned their studies for other reasons. These are mainly children of alcoholics. Sometimes it happens that mom is sick, but there is no dad, and the child should take care of his mother. And it happens that in normal families, children do not want to study. In general, we work with families in crisis. And we go to the courts, if necessary.

- And how did you meet your first adopted child?

- I led the elementary school class and was listed as a psychologist. I made friends with the boy, who remained in the fifth grade for the third year. This boy had a friend Denis, who did not go to school at all. He was 13. He was listed in our eighth grade, but he could not really read or write, although he was somehow transferred from class to class. He did not talk to anyone at all. But with my new friend, a five-grader, he talked, because he fed him.

Once, at my persistent request, the fifth grader Denis brought me to me. And I suggested: “Let you go to my office, - and I had a cabinet two by two meters, without a window - and we will study, only you and I, no one else.” For two or three weeks he went to my office, then disappeared. There is no day, no, then he comes and says: “I could not come, I had no shoes.” How so, before they were and suddenly disappeared? “Because grandfather went to work.” They and grandfather had only shoes for two. I walked around a week - and again disappeared. I call him and hear: "I'm sick." Then I remembered that he was already falling in a hungry fainting, and realized that I had to come to his house with groceries. Brought products, called an ambulance. Denis was taken, and I felt sorry for the products. I did not want them to disappear there. I looked, but they are not!

- Who stole the products?

- It turned out that there was another child in the apartment. Galya, the sister of Denis, eight and a half years old, she hid the products in the far corner of the two -tier bed, lay on the bag, covered with a blanket. I was in shock.

It turned out that children have one mother, who has long been deprived of parental rights, two different dads in Tula and Tver. And grandfather-Opek.

- And what did Denis get sick?

“Typhus.” They even wrote about us in MK, because it was the third case of typhoid in Moscow after the war. To Denis, no one was allowed into boxing, except me, it is very contagious. And the doctor told me that, they say, you were so much in his apartment that it was too late. I have not become infected. For a month and a half that he spent in the hospital, we made friends, and I brought Galya to school, she had not studied anywhere before. I was from both children as a teacher and took them to the cottage. After a year or two-I don’t remember exactly-the grandfather-Opekun died. There were nowhere to put the children. Well, and I issued custody.

- Did you live alone?

Julia with Julia photo: Julia Skorobogatova for TD

- I lived with my family, mother, brother and father, I did not even have a hint of my husband. The difference in the age of Denis was not very large. He was born in 1991, and I am 80th. Some even joked that I was raising my husband.

Denis was 16 years old, no one needed him, especially since he was a very difficult guy. At 13, he told me that he could drink a bottle of vodka from his throat, and was surprised why I did not admire. At the age of 13, he had a strong alcohol dependence. If I saw him now, I would probably not dare to take such a child.

The boss of the guardianship told me that in any production there is a marriage and Denis - a human marriage, you will not make anything good from him. And so Denis could be given to me at any moment. But Galya was not given. They gave me for the summer under a temporary custody, and we left for the village.

And then in the custody they found a blind girl of 15 years old, who had no parents, only grandfather, and grandfather had a two -room apartment. When her grandfather died, they said to me in custody: “We make a girl on you, and you can live in her apartment, you are with three children.” Then there were no foster families, only custody. I agreed.

The idea of ​​salvation, or how to find a husband

If you, dear reader, are sure that any groom will run away from the bride with adoptive children overnight, then you are mistaken. This is an amazing story, and I ask Julia to tell in detail how they met a future husband.

“We met very strangely,” Julia laughs again. - Denis “led” for a walk, and so as not to take away at all, I went after him. In his companies everyone knew that I had come for Denis and just wait for him to deign to go with me. Imagine: there are “dirty punks”, as they called themselves, and I am from school-in a three-piece suit and heels.

On one such day, a young man comes up to me and invites you to drink tea. Actually, I don’t meet on the street, but for some reason I decided that since I would still wait for Denis, why not. I told the young man what I am doing here. We drove Denis together. Then I asked him: “Well, I am a teacher, I saw a decent guy and immediately met. Why did you come up to me? " He said: "You looked so wildly there that I wanted to save you." Do you understand? I saved Denis, and Oleg saved me. With this idea of ​​salvation, we were attracted to each other.

And I immediately say to Oleg: "I and children are inseparable, for life." He says: "And I dreamed of making a commune all my life." He has a cousin with his sister - psychologists. When he was a teenager, they took out mentally retarded children to the camp, and he was an assistant to the counselors. And he was obsessed with the idea that such children were a pure sheet. And I was obsessed with Denis: I had to pull him out. And Oleg told me: "I will help you in everything."

The next day, the guardianship informed me that I needed to spend the night with that blind girl, from Julia. And I was afraid to stay with her alone: ​​she was almost a mowgli child. She was 15 years old, they meowed with the cat and walked on all fours. But I agreed because I really wanted to take Denis and Galya. I was young, I could turn the mountains.

Julia shows the first Yulin Zubik photo: Julia Skorobogatova for TD

But in the evening it became scary, and I asked Oleg to spend the night with us. And in the morning the social teacher of the school called to whom Julia was attached, and Julia said to her: “Some people who I do not know and I spent the night.” The social teacher called the police. The police arrived and asks who we are. I explain the situation, the police calls custody. They know about me in custody, but there is no Oleg. And then our candy-bouquet period ended: we said that we were the bride and groom and already filed an application with the registry office. And we really went on the same day and filed a statement, and in the guardianship they scolded me that I hid such a good groom. A month later we got married.

The guardian allocated us - to me and the girl Julia - a ticket to the sanatorium, and Oleg went with us the savage. It was, one might say, our wedding trip. And when they returned, the girl Julia appeared, who said: "We do not need guardians, we will live ourselves."

- And you are already married. Thanks to the girl Julia, it turns out. So, a young couple and two children who are not such children. Where did you start living?

- Oleg was demolished the old five -story building, he and his father were given a new two -room apartment. And we left with Denis and with Galya to his apartment.

- And how did his dad accept it?

- Fine. He was not against, on the contrary. Then we lived calmly for a year, the children studied, I worked. The husband always worked at home, he has been with us all the time at the computer. The unshakable basis of our house.

To whom children's things

In this place for the first time the refrain sounded “We lived calmly for a year, and then ...” Attention, the reader: here you can start bending your fingers. He will sound further.

- I have a lot of children's things in my school office. I took it from some families, gave others. When I went on maternity leave, the office had to be released. I wrote on the Internet, they say, who would take things. And they answered me from the city of Kasimov in the Ryazan region, from a boarding school for children from socially unprotected layers. These are not orphans, they left home for the weekend, and, in theory, parents were supposed to provide them. And the children were undresses. I replied that I didn’t have much things that I had enough for the whole boarding school. I thought-well, five families will turn, well, seven. And they said that they just have a disaster and that they would take how much they are. Since then we began to be friends.

Julia is going for a walk with Julia photo: Julia Skorobogatova for TD

Fede was eight months when I first went there myself. Then we went to the boarding school for the New Year. I did not expect the children so thin. And she developed violent activity. The ideas were boiling, Fedya ( the bloody son of Julia and Oleg - approx. TD ) became older ... I found like -minded people, began to go to Kasimov together. They came up with a Five Fair. We told the children: "Consider how many fives you have in a quarter in all subjects." And when we came with toys, sweets and books, we laid them out on desks and for each thing we assigned a price in five. And the teachers said that before the children did not care, because the triples will be set for them, and now the goal has appeared - to earn many fives. This idea still remained there.

One weekend in the autumn holidays - Fedya was almost two - we went to Kasimov to take the books. We were met by five children. We were told that no one took them on vacation. They are composed of homemade, but no one comes for them. I called my husband and asked: "Can I bring one of them to visit?" There, even the dining room does not work there on vacation. The husband says: "Bring."

"They just could not give it away"

- And how did you choose the child who was brought to Moscow? How is this fateful decision made in general?

- There was an adult boy, I was afraid to not cope with him. There were two sisters, I was also afraid to not cope with them two. There was a first -grader, but they didn’t give her away, they say, mother can remember her in the middle of the holidays. There was a boy from the second grade. That is, I did not choose a child. Just the boy came up to me in all respects. And no one will remember him in the middle of the holidays, and small, like a six -year.

We went to Moscow, and Alyoshka joined for the holidays so - he became like a close relative who left and returned. We simply could not give it. After the holidays, they issued him a guest regime. Found his mother. She first made a scandal - they say, you will cut a kidney in Moscow! And then she signed a piece of paper that she agrees. He was listed in Kasimov, and lived with us. I also have a primary school teacher, and he studied from her. Three of our children studied with a grandmother.

In general, each child has his own story, there was not a single random. Only Lesha accidentally appeared forever, as if he had always lived with us. And the rest are very difficult to come to us.

- Fedya was not against it?

- Fedya was born in this, it was his life, he could not be against it.

Brothers make a tattoo and aquagrim photo: Julia Skorobogatova for TD

Lesha lived with us for more than a year in guest mode. And then they told us that Father died in Lesha and therefore we must transfer him to an orphanage. We say: "And mom?" And they tell us: "Mom is a Moldavian without documents, everyone knows that she is a mother, but she does not have confirming documents." And Lesha should go to the orphanage.

And we began to issue custody of him, collect documents, went to the school of foster parents. And they thought: since we are collecting documents, why shouldn't we take another child. There is strength, and it is very difficult to draw up documents. And we decided to do how Oleg wanted to: take a mentally retarded child. I have never seen such children. He convinced me.

Even before the arrival of Alyoshka, we met with volunteers from Astrakhan, and we were offered a girl from a rally, from a boarding school for orphans. They said that she did not fit into their format, that she is clearly not mentally retarded, that she would be ruined in this boarding school, that she is smart and pretty. At that moment I refused, I was afraid not to cope, and then I remembered their proposal, and we decided to pick up this particular girl.

"There was a temptation to return it back"

Julia left her way to retreat. “It seems that I agreed, but in my thoughts I had that we would only take Leshka. Even in the courses of foster parents, I thought - I will look and refuse. ” But to think about the decision whether to take a girl, Julia and Oleg simply did not have the opportunity.

- We arrived at the peak of the scandal in the boarding school, and they ( the leadership of the boarding school - approx. TD) turned the matter so that this is not a terrible, but a very good boarding school - even guardians from Moscow finds children. The plot was removed about us, we immediately - without ten days of meeting - gave the girl, signed all the documents. On the third day, we took her under the cells. All.

And so we are going on a train from Astrakhan, and here I realize that everything, we took her. And what to do next - I don’t know ... And it also became bad on her train ... as it turned out later, a drug break.

- How can it be? Is she a child?

Julia goes to the playground with children photo: Julia Skorobogatova for TD

- She was in the boarding school in medicines, but no one told us about it. It was Aminazin, which is used in psychiatric centers to suppress the patient's activity. Children after him are quiet and calm. Natasha had a walk on her back, but in general she was walking and should not have been lying. She is eight years old, she communicates only with signs and does not speak to us. And so, we are going on a train from Astrakhan, it becomes bad for her, call a doctor at a large station, and they don’t take us off the train a little, I barely convince them to allow us to get to Moscow, we were injected with Dimedrol, and she overslept the rest of the way.

We arrived home, again an attack, called an ambulance. Doctors whisper and look at us askance. I just told them that the child was bad. And they smile falsely, and I feel-something is wrong. And it comes to me. I take documents and tell them where the child is. They, three doctors, begin to laugh: "What did you not say before, we called the police (then the police), but the child has a drug breakdown." They thought that we brought the child to such a state. And three weeks after arrival we got off the drugs. It was very sorry for her these days, but I thought that when their action passed, everything would be fine. It turned out no.

When the action of the drugs passed, Natasha did not get up, she swayed, sucked her finger, did not go to the toilet. I am in shock, I did not know what to do. There was a temptation to return her, but Oleg and my mother picked me up.

- How is that?

- Oleg convinced that he had seen such children and that she was leaving. And my mother said: “I had to think before. The child calls you mom. I took it like that. "

And I had ... like postpartum depression. It was very difficult.

- And how is Natasha’s business now?

- Even better than others. She is completely socialized, she is my biggest assistant. Now we have the eighth grade of aerospace lyceum. She goes to school with pleasure, she has an individual program. We learn, it is clear that with problems, but we learn. The next year we are leaving school - we do not know where.

When we took Natasha from the racetrack, I noticed the boy. He stood out sharply against the background of the rest of the children. And I thought it was a child of one of the educators. I went up to him and asked his name. He said: "Yura." I asked how long he lives here. He replied: "Ten years." I told him: "Let's be friends." He replies: "I really want." I said: "I'll come home and write you a letter." And then he looked like that! There was a mixture of bitterness, resentment and misunderstanding, and I expected joy - and did not understand his reaction. And when Natasha and I more or less came to myself, I could not forget it and thought what I offended him. She began to find out from the volunteers about him. He was small, I thought he was 12-13 years old. I planned: let's put Natasha in order, and I will take him. The volunteers said that he was 17 years old and that in a year he should go to PNI for permanent residence. They explained to me his gaze: the children in a rally did not know how to read or write. What is the letter, why is it to him? To be friends for him is to communicate. And my husband and I began to think. The boy is adequate. In PNI in Astrakhan, he will die. We looked at the average age in this stump. There were no people over 35.

Natasha photo: Julia Skorobogatova for TD

- Died young?

- It turns out that so. And my husband and I decided: if Yura is given to us, then we will take it and at least up to 18 years, we will give it the opportunity not to abyss in the boarding school. If we take root with us - good, but not - will return to Astrakhan as a free person. But we understood that no one would give it to us. We had Natasha, Alyosha and Fedya.

- And Galya and Denis?

- Gali and Denis were gone. Denis left our house at 18. He did not seek to become one family with us. He was grateful for giving him the opportunity to survive, but I remained Julia Nikolaevna for him for him for him. Now he is 26 years old, he, like us, lives in Khimki, and we just greet. But I consider my maximum program executed. I gave him the opportunity to live, and he lives. And Galya went to the young man. We are just friends with Galya. She arranged a personal life, and we did not interfere with her.

Откуда котята

Ну вот, у нас была двухкомнатная квартира, в ней Алеша, Наташа и Федя, и мы волновались, что мальчика нам не дадут. И мы втайне от всех собирали документы. Приехали с готовыми документами и просто всех поставили перед фактом. В Разночиновке как раз был очередной скандал, уволили директора, там были следователи. Назначили и.о. Director. Всем было не до нас. Они сказали: «Если мальчик захочет, мы подпишем согласие». Юру к нам привели, и он сразу сказал: «Я тебя помню, ты мама Наташи». Я сказала: «Я приехала за тобой, поедешь?» - "Yes." — «А ты же меня не знаешь, как ты можешь ехать?» — «Мне бы куда угодно, только бы здесь не оставаться».

Так он и брякнул, прямо при всех. И они нам тут же согласие и подписали. Наверное, чтобы он еще чего-нибудь при всех не сказал.

Ножом и вилкой

Тут мы коснемся еще одной темы, которая не всегда у людей ассоциируется с приемным родительством. Risk. Риск есть всегда: никто не знает, как ребенок вольется в семью. А если это почти взрослый человек со сложной историей?

— Мы же его не знали совсем. 17-летний парень, мы везем его к маленькой девочке, у нас у самих маленький ребенок. Мы поставили в квартире камеры. Но камеры оказались лишними, потому что Юра влился в семью как родной.

Он у себя в голове выстроил цепочку. Я, говорит, знаю, почему вы меня забрали. I was so surprised! "Why?" «Потому что я каждый день ложился и молился, чтобы мама за мной приехала. И ты приехала». Но мы за 40 лет существования интерната были единственные, кроме Веры Дробинской , кто забрал оттуда ребенка. Он думал, что мама — это я. У него даже сомнения не было. Зато было дикое желание всему научиться. Наташа, скажем, не умела нормально есть. Только через месяц после Разночиновки научилась есть суп. До этого клала всю еду в одну тарелку, смешивала, мы делали пюре, она брала эту чашку двумя руками и выпивала. Она не знала, как есть бутерброд. Держала в одной руке хлеб, в другой сыр и смотрела на них. А Юра умел пользоваться ножом и вилкой!

Юля с детьми на прогулке Фото: Юлия Скоробогатова для ТД

Я была поражена и спрашивала, кто его учил. Он говорил: «Но я же знал, что меня в семью заберут. Я когда на кухне в интернате помогал, я смотрел телевизор, видел, как в фильмах делают, и учился». Он все хватал на лету. Упросил отдать его в школу, хотя считал на пальцах в пределах десяти — а руки мозолистые, работали много, и этими пальцами он пытался сложить три и пять. Нам очень повезло, нас взяла частная школа. Они его посадили в седьмой класс и организовали ему индивидуальные занятия, и к концу года он с оговорками был на уровне этого седьмого класса.

Юра нам очень помогает. Закончил школу — и сразу пошел на работу. Сейчас он работает тьютором. Его особенность в том, что для него все необычные дети — нормальные, и он очень хорошо общается с детьми с аутизмом. Как-то один знакомый попросил его побыть с его ребенком с аутизмом, и теперь Юру прямо по цепочке передают. Специалист, который приходил к этому ребенку, говорил, что ребенок Юру слушается лучше, чем маму, — он все делает как надо, Юра, он не замечает, что ребенок особенный. Со всеми находит общий язык. Уже двух детей Юра «выпустил», сейчас третий мальчик идет в школу под его руководством, и есть люди, которые ждут в очереди, когда Юра освободится. Нам с ним очень хорошо.

В свою предвыборную кампанию Михаил Прохоров подарил нам миллион рублей ( Предвыборная компания Михаила Прохорова проходила во время принятия закона Димы Яковлева. Он в одном из интервью сказал, что готов поддержать семьи, которые взяли детей из списка, который был составлен после принятия закона. — Прим. ТД ). Мы купили домик в деревне, его надо было восстанавливать. И Юра практически один восстановил этот дом, не надо было мастеров нанимать. А страшно было очень, когда брали 17-летнего парня из неврологического детдома. Брали, чтобы помочь, а оказалось, что это он нам помогает.

За день до закона подлецов, или история Марата

Дальше мы год жили спокойно. Но грянул закон Димы Яковлева. Нам помогали «Отказники» ( БФ «Волонтеры в помощь детям-сиротам». — Прим. ТД ). Наташа была в проекте « Близкие люди », и поэтому я часто читала форум ( на сайте фонда. — Прим. ТД) . И следила за судьбой Марата. Он был лежачий ребенок с ДЦП, два с половиной годика. «Отказники» наняли ему няню (П ерсональная няня от фонда сопровождает детей в детских учреждениях и в больницах. — Прим. ТД ). Марат долго был в больнице, врачи его «расходили», он пошел. А потом вернулся в дом ребенка и там опять слег. С ним перестали заниматься, и он перестал двигаться. Но ему опять улыбнулась удача: нашлись в Америке люди, которые хотели его усыновить. Стали к нему ходить и собирать документы. Ему исполнилось четыре года, и его перевели в интернат в селе Уваровка Можайского района. И директор оборвал все контакты — ни посещений, ни потенциальных родителей. Why? А вот… как-то так. Но американские родители прошли все препоны, победили сопротивление директора, наладили контакт с Маратом, он знал, что едет в Америку и у него будут мама и папа. После суда (С уд решает вопрос об усыновлении. — Прим. ТД ) они должны были его забрать. До суда не хватило одного дня — приняли закон Димы Яковлева. Один этот день не дал Марату уехать в Америку. Everyone was in shock. И я тогда даже не на Марата откликнулась, а на крик души его куратора на форуме. Ну не может же так не везти ребенку! Теперь уже все понимали, что лежачий ребенок-таджик с ДЦП — не вариант для семейного устройства.

И мы с мужем решили переломить этот закон подлости. У нас на Юру документы еще были свежие, полгода прошло. И в Бескудникове очень хорошая опека была, они сердцем принимали решения, и они нас поняли. Несмотря на наши стесненные жилищные условия, разрешили нам взять Марата!

Директор интерната в Уваровке оказался сложный человек, поставил мне невыносимые условия — 10 посещений ежедневно, с восьми утра до 12 часов дня, в Можайске, при условии, что у меня должна быть справка от инфекциониста, действительная два дня, а ее можно получить только по месту жительства. Волонтеры встали стеной. Меня везли в поликлинику, потом везли в Можайск в опеку, отмечали, что я приехала, потом везли в Уваровку. Где-то на восьмой день директору надоело меня видеть, он сменил гнев на милость и подписал согласие.

Марат, Влад и Наташа на детской площадке Фото: Юлия Скоробогатова для ТД

Какое-то время мы Марата восстанавливали. Наташе-то просто сказали, что за ней приехала мама, и хотя она помнила родную, но у нее две мамы спокойно «сложились», и оказалось, что я — это мама, которую надо любить и слушаться. Леша, Юра — те влились сами собой. А Марат был уверен, что он уедет в Америку. И когда я к нему пришла, он меня и не заметил. Пришла очередная тетя. Он мог не согласиться поехать к нам. Нам повезло, что у нас была наша Наташа, потому что няню, которая его расхаживала в больнице, тоже звали Наташа. Он ее помнил и мечтал уехать к Наташе.

Когда приняли закон Димы Яковлева, воспитатели сказали Марату, что он в Америку не поедет, что в Америке плохо, там детей убивают, и мы тебя не отдадим. Марат переосмыслил это, как типичный детдомовский ребенок: меня в Америку не отдают, потому что я плохой. К нам он ехать не хотел, а в гости к Наташе согласился — не сообразил, что это разные Наташи. Но жил он у нас с установкой, что он плохой, все рушит и всех убивает. И еще примерно полгода он говорил: «Я всех вас уволю». Он и книжки увольнял, и игрушки и добавлял: «И все в помойку». Никого не принимал. Мол, ничего не хочу, я плохой, я все разрушаю. Не понимал, что такое мама и папа, — это не было для него важно.

Где-то год мы ставили его на ноги. У него были совсем атрофированы мышцы. Воспитатели в детском доме не знали, что его нужно ставить на ноги. Им сказали, что он должен лежать. Мы нанимали массажистов, ездили на реабилитацию. И где-то год так жили. А потом, когда страсти улеглись, мы стали опять полноценной семьей…

Невеста для Юры

Своим приемным родителям Юра сказал, что у него в интернате есть подружка и что, когда он вырастет, заберет ее оттуда. И вот Юра вырос, Юлия с Олегом видели, что он может жить самостоятельно. Идею насчет подружки Юра не оставил.

— Но сам бы он никогда не смог оформить над ней опеку, потому что с него диагноз полностью не сняли, — говорит Юлия. — И было понятно: если мы сейчас ее не заберем, года через три она окажется в ПНИ. Мы позвонили директору, объяснили ситуацию, спросили, что за девочка, он сказал: «Очень самостоятельная, но недееспособная». Мы сказали, что будем собирать документы, и попросили не переводить ее пока в ПНИ, а ей было уже 18. Он согласился. И мы стали собирать документы на Гулю как на взрослую недееспособную.

Вольные-подневольные

— Это, получается, ваш первый взрослый ребенок?

— Отговаривали нас все, и наша опека, и Гулина. Главный аргумент: это навсегда. Недееспособный ребенок в 18 вырастает и уходит, а взрослый не вырастает никогда и всегда остается с нами. А мы просто говорили как думали:»Нет такого, что, мол, мы хотим взять Гулю и чтоб она у нас жила всегда. Мы ее берем для Юры, который хочет быть с ней». Мы говорили, что не нам нужна девочка, а мальчику нужна невеста. И люди нас понимали. И нам дали ее сначала на гостевой режим, под временную опеку. После этого мы спокойно дособирали документы.

Проблема оказалась в том, что Гуля ехала именно к Юре. Ей не нужны были ни мама, ни семья. Это Юра рвался уехать из Разночиновки, а Гуля нет. Она очень хорошо танцевала, ее посылали на все конкурсы, она их выигрывала. И воспитатели ей говорили: «Как же мы без тебя будем?!»

Юре мы честно сказали, что нам лишний ребенок совершенно не нужен и мы, мол, просто помогаем тебе ее забрать. Он говорил: «Мы с ней одно целое». Я возражала: «Это вы там были одно целое, ты за это время вырос и изменился». «Нет, я ей помогу и всему научу».

И вот приезжает к нам Айгуль. И ведет себя, как все в интернате, и выглядит также — обритая наголо, сосет палец, укачивает себя, а ей 19 лет. Играет в песочек фанатично. Юра ее стесняется, пытается как-то воспитывать, а она говорит, что ты в интернате был не такой, обижается, плачет: «Как же я уехала, как они там без меня», и мы никак не можем ввести ее в семью.

Айгуль Фото: Юлия Скоробогатова для ТД

Я думаю: пока опека временная, можно все вернуть. Не собираю документы и ей об этом говорю. Сентябрь-октябрь проходят, нам предлагают реабилитационный курс для всех детей — Наташи, Марата и Айгуль. Ей на этом курсе очень нравится, и где-то в середине курса она мне говорит: «А когда ты документы до конца соберешь?» Я ее провоцирую, а сама думаю, как она скажет, так и будет, и говорю: «А я не буду собирать документы». И она теряется: «Почему?» Я ей: «Ты же каждый день просишься обратно. Полгода закончатся — поедешь обратно». Она замолчала и весь день переваривала информацию. Вечером они с Юрой ходят вокруг меня кругами, Юра говорит: «Гуля хотела тебе что-то сказать». The night passes. Утром все расходятся по своим делам, мы остаемся с Гулей вдвоем. Она подходит ко мне, плачет и говорит: «Я хочу быть с вами, ты будешь моя мамочка, пожалуйста, собери документы». It was a turning point. Мы договорились, что она не будет проситься обратно. И она осталась с нами.

Никакой невестой Юре она быть уже не могла, и они оба это поняли. Получилось, что я брала девушку Юре, а взяла себе еще одного ребенка, — смеется Юлия. — Но я не жалею. Она очень хорошая девочка. И если у Юры диагноз на 100% ошибочный, то у Гули диагноз есть. И сейчас ей по уровню развития не 23 года, как по бумагам, а 12-13. Она добрый искренний ребенок. Если я хочу, чтобы дети сделали так, как я сказала, я могу убедить в этом Гулю, и она своей энергией убедит детей сделать, как мне нужно. Она очень хорошо играет. Я сама играть не умею — ни в куклы, ни в машинки. Я даже ходила на игротерапию, но не смогли меня там научить. А Гуля играет самозабвенно и всех моих детей учит, а игра — самый важный этап в развитии ребенка. Сейчас дети вырастают потихоньку, и Гуле не с кем играть. Ждем, когда Юленька (вось мимесячная дочь Юлии. — Прим. ТД ) подрастет, чтобы Гуля снова была при деле.