The patrol is not over

“If something happens to you, we will not survive,” Marina said in a joke to her husband. And when he was gone, she realized that it was necessary to survive

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The collection of funds is over

The last line

Marina Kravtsova with her daughter Sasha and son Artem rents an apartment on the outskirts of St. Petersburg. A huge anti-mental house is like a wall of a night patrol from the Game of Thrones. Already not a city, not a forest yet. The last line.

Previously, the Marina family lived in her house in Gorlovka. “There were roots. And then we were simply cut off. ” Marina shows the whole meaning of our recent history with the movement of her hand. When military operations began in the Donetsk region, Marina and her husband Alexander took the children and left for the Sea of ​​Azov. We hoped to wait on vacation - on all channels they said that everything would end in the near future. But nothing ended. The war began. There was nowhere to return Kravtsov. Parents of Marina and mother-in-law managed to leave the fire to the neighboring area.

Marina photo: Svetlana Bulatova for TD

A friend from St. Petersburg called her husband, said: "Come!" We left right from the sea - in shorts and in swimsuits, from documents - passports and birth certificates of children. All things, warm clothes - everything remained in Gorlovka.

Petersburg at the end of August met almost frosts. Children managed to arrange for school, clothing and stationery were collected by the whole world.

With the remaining money they rented an apartment, and Alexander immediately went to work. He was engaged in turnkey furniture: he could collect and fix anything. Life began to improve. Marina was with the children, did everything to be adapted. When the life was tired, she also went to work - to the market. More than her, a certified economist, was not taken anywhere - there was no citizenship. But even this alignment after all the experienced Marina was more likely pleased. The husband earned, she helped: “I was always behind him like a stone wall. I was not worried about anything. He sought everything he wanted, did everything for the sake of his family. I knew that we would not be lost with him. ”

Life in half

On the day when everything was gone, Alexander had a bad dream. What exactly - he never told, but he got up very gloomy, alarming. Marina joked, hugged him, asked not to attach importance. I remembered the dream after the funeral. He says: he foresaw the departure. And she too.

Archival photo. After the death of her husband Marina, her mother -in -law brought this album. In the photo: Wedding Marina and Alexander Photo: Svetlana Bulatova for TD

“You know, losing my husband - it was my biggest fear. I told him many times: “If something happens to you, we will not survive.” She jokingly spoke. And how it happened. Now I need to prove to him that I was wrong. Need to survive. "

And then her husband called Marina at lunch, said that he had returned home with a severe headache and would rest. Marina asked her daughter to give Papa Citramon, and when she came home from work, she found her husband in a semi -conscious state. They called an ambulance.

Marina on a walk in the park photo: Svetlana Bulatova for TD

“It seemed to me that she was driving eternity,” says Marina, looking somewhere through space. - When we arrived, Sasha no longer reacted, only breathed heavily. Resuscitation procedures immediately began. I then heard: “aneurysm”, “stroke”, did not even understand these words. Sasha was 39 years old. It was impossible to believe in it. I remember how we ran with my daughter along the street, searched for people to help my husband go into the ambulance, I remember the resuscitation, doctors who immediately warned: there are no hopes. I remember how I called my mother to Sashin - she took a ticket for the nearest train, but did not have time. On the fourth day, he died, without regaining consciousness. And I started the struggle for life. "

Living shield

Marina did not want to live - she just could not imagine how. Everything was holding on her husband. According to the law of meanness, the accumulated money on the eve of the car was deposited. With funerals and wake, work colleagues helped. The body was cremated, and my mother took her son’s dust to his homeland: no one knew whether Marina would remain with children in St. Petersburg. The most correct seemed to return to the destroyed Gorlovka, closer to parents. But Marina was persuaded to stay - for the sake of children. The daughter was 15, the son 13. The difficult adolescence, the future admission, the city to which they had already used to get used to. And Marina began to fight - for them.

Archival photo. In the photo: Marina's husband with children on vacation photo: Svetlana Bulatova for TD

From the apartment in the center I had to move to the mile wall on the outskirts. Marina worked as a nanny, a cleaner, took on any business. The family did not receive any benefits - they are still waiting for a residence permit. To draw up documents, they require certificates for which you need to go to Ukraine, but they can’t leave. A vicious circle. Marina even wrote on the hot line to the president. They answered her. There was a little hope to get citizenship. The family lives with this hope.

It is not known how Marina would cope with the grief that fell upon her, if - quite by accident, but very on time - in her life there was no fund for helping the widows “Word and Del”. About the Marina Foundation was told in a family where she works as a nanny. Marina called right away. Less than a month passed after her husband’s death, and she understood: she needed help.

Marina at home photo: Svetlana Bulatova for TD

First of all, the fund organized psychological courses. Small groups: 3-4 people. “We are in our group with very similar stories - about the same age, with children, even husbands with one of the girls left in the same day. The first thing I understood there is not the only one with my pain. ”

Now for Marina the Fund is a whole life. Her salvation, friends, simple entertainment for children. “What holidays they arrange for us! It was recently for the day of protection of children, it was very cool! " The fund helps with products - the ration is simple, but necessary: ​​cereals, canned food, lean oil. Sometimes they give clothes. For a family of three, who lives 30 thousand rubles a month, this is a significant help.

Archival photo. In the photo: Marina with children and her husband on a walk photo: Svetlana Bulatova for TD

“I won’t earn more without a passport,” Marina laments. - Now for six days a week I am sitting with the baby, in the evenings I remove several apartments and entrance. We rent an apartment for 20 thousand. For the rest - we live. It’s hard because I can give my children so little to my children. And they have just the age of desires. I try as I can. The fund offered a psychologist for children. But they refused. When I try to talk with them about my husband’s death, they ask: “Mom, don’t have to”. ”

A 13-year-old Artem, who had recently drove with his father on a motorcycle, a strand turned gray. 15-year-old Sasha, dad's darling and his exact copy, closed up and went headlong. She will come soon, the only chance is to pass the exams brilliantly.

Marina photo: Svetlana Bulatova for TD

“My husband and I dreamed that we would raise children and begin to live for ourselves. We will travel, build a house. He wanted to do everything himself, began to design, searched for materials. I did not have time. I then read that 40 years for a man dangerous age. I thought a lot: why did this happen to him? He was never sick, he did not complain about anything. And only having taken his place, I realized how hard it was for him. He was a living shield for us, protected from everything that happened, made us so that we did not need. We lived together for 15 years, and I completely forgot how to worry. I knew that he would cope. He coped: he kept everything in himself, never complained, was not afraid of anything. Or did not show me that he was afraid. "

Fortress and Brotherhood

“I live as if divided in half. Part of me wants to go to him as soon as possible, not to live. Another part is fighting for life, in order to fulfill our common dreams.

The fund says that this is normal. By the standards of psychologists, we are still “fresh” - only six months have passed. And we, fortunately, immediately came to therapy. After all, you need to work with pain, otherwise it will cover at the most inopportune moment. I hope that someday my experience and story will help someone else. It is such happiness that they came up with this fund for helping widows! I would never have guessed. It always seemed to me: well, they help children, well, old people. And the widow - who needs them? And here people work, and help, and save the life of a whole family. I go out of my impasse only thanks to the fund. Slowly, step by step, but you can’t stop. ”

Archival photo. In the photo: children Marina Photo: Svetlana Bulatova for TD

Behind the multi -apartment wall on the outskirts of Peter, the forest begins. On the very border of the forest is a small wooden church. Marina goes there - to talk with her husband. Each time he mentally asks him the same question: “Why, why didn’t you care about yourself? Why isn't it a shore for us? " Marina does not grumble at God.

“I have not lost faith. Everyone goes their own path. This one fell to me. We must go through it with dignity. ”

Because life continues. Because children are like dad and all common dreams remain common.

Marina on a walk in the park photo: Svetlana Bulatova for TD

The Foundation “Word and Del” is a fortress for wives and mothers, for children and old people who are now behind them. I know that everyone who has the opportunity to help will not stand aside. But first of all, I turn to the men reading this article. To husbands, fathers, friends.

One of those who stood with you shoulder to the shoulder left. There is no guilt in this, he lived a decent life and raised beautiful children. The woman tries to be very strong, but it is really difficult. There is a “word and deed” fund, which does everything possible. And there is a brotherhood that can be more. Your help is priceless, because it does not just become food or clothes for a disadvantaged family. This is a circular guarantee, an invisible, but strong connection that holds all living things on this earth. Even if one leaves, the ring closes - so that life continues.

Your patrol is not over.