"Give birth to a fig, fool?!"

Oddly enough, most of the comments on social networks to articles about women with children who have fallen in a difficult life situation, exactly such. Today I want to answer them

"Another py ... muddy."

"He puts his lust to the fore."

"What, under the muzzle of a machine gun, makes her legs spread?"

"She did not try to work, only e ... to?"

"I have chosen a convenient role for myself."

"The population of brainless gopniks is under the threat of extinction, and this girl does everything to restore it."

"Give birth to a fig, fool?!"

These are just some of the comments on Facebook under my last text for the Yekaterinburg organization Aistenok. The text about the 26-year-old Vika, who has gone wrong from childhood, and now she is pregnant with the fourth child and lives in the crisis center of the fund, because she has nowhere to live more, and her father of her younger children in prison.

Typically, most of the comments on articles about women with children who are in a difficult situation, is exactly that. And the overwhelming majority of them is from women. I keep myself in my hands and do not answer them, because there are things that there is no point in reacting to. Because “gave birth to a fig, a fool” is not a question.

We do not just describe the personal stories of people to collect money for funds. Through these stories, we show a person, his problem and his path. And our photographers do what cannot be conveyed in any words. We are sure that by telling and showing history, we can better describe the problem and explain why it is important to help a specific fund. But apparently, we do not always succeed.

Without exception, the wards of the “aistan” are women with a difficult childhood: orphans, children of drinking parents, victims of violence or deception. Women who have not been lucky since childhood. And then - one for the other - and they find themselves where they find themselves, and the "aist" helps them. But these women do not give up to the last and find the strength to seek help, and not “sleep, to put together, throw the children into the ditch and go to the panel” - a quote from the next comment.

And then you come, smart, kind and educated women, and write outright abominations in the safe space of the social network. Perhaps you were lucky, and you were born in a wealthy and loving family, your mother did not beat you and dad/uncle/stepfather did not force you, your parents did not drink and took care of you, gave you good education and comprehensive support, you and your relatives were healthy and mentally and had access to medical services. And, there was no war in your country.

Perhaps it was. But do you understand that these are your privileges? This is a given that you had a given that you did not earn yourself. It was all you just with you. And you are lucky.

And someone was not lucky. If the child has cancer, he is sick for a long time, and then dies - you douses with tears, write how unbearable you read all this, and subscribe to donations. And if the child does not have cancer, but a dysfunctional family, mom drinks, dad beats, he is left to himself, there is not a single adult nearby, who would not still care, and he somehow grows up, then makes one mistake after another. And this child is already 16, and she is pregnant with a dubious type, whom she believed and went to live with him, because it is impossible to live at home, but he also drinks and beats. She gives birth to a child and wants to protect him, but she cannot, does not know how. As a result, with all his strength, rakes the baby into an armful, until the dubious type with friends scored them to death, and runs where their eyes look. And nowhere to run - she has no one. And in her 17, still a child, she attributes the baby to the orphanage, because there at least he will be fed and he will survive, and with her - not a fact. And if you are lucky, he comes to the Aistok.

And such a child, this 17-year-old girl, do you feel sorry for? But she did not die of cancer, she is alive and healthy, and she can help her. But no: in your opinion, she is a whore, a fool and breeds geeks. It would be better if she died from cancer at eight years.

Do you really think that the child is to blame for the fact that his parents died/drink/rape/abandoned him? Or do you think that if this happened to you, would you still learn to act reasonably and make the right decisions in your 14-16-18 years? If your mother died when you were five years old, and from fourteen you would have lived alone, would you quickly figure out how life is arranged? Would you learn to distinguish good from evil, the truth from the lies? They would reject the temptations and would not believe the one from whom they would hear the first warm word in your address? Would they go to the institute, get a job and choose a positive life partner? Are you sure of that?

“I also had difficulties, but now I did this and so, but I did not go stupidly children,” they often write in the comments. This is great, and you are well done. And, apparently, to remind yourself of this, you write offensive and rude things about women that you do not know. Even if you are smart and strong and someone against your background seems stupid and weak to you, why do your mind and strength do not make you generous? Why do you think that a weak person is not a person?

Death cannot be corrected, everything else is and you can try to fix it. The stories of women who have fallen in difficult circumstances are stories about life. About power when there is no longer strength. About love - no matter what. About the value of human life and about human dignity.

Let's not humiliate him at least. And at the maximum - we will support the "aist" and subscribe to monthly donations.