Nastya asked for a stove

How to survive for 7 thousand rubles with two children? This is not a social experiment, but the life of a young woman in the Tver region

Help the constant help

“While I earned 10.5 thousand rubles, I even managed to save something. I made a small repair in the kitchen. The ceiling covered with panels - it was completely terrible from the smoking stove. She was going to accumulate 10 thousand on a shower cabin so as not to go to wash his friends, but did not have time, ”Nastya shows us her economy.

Nastya in the courtyard of her house photo: Natalia Platonova for TD

She bought a section of the house in the urban -type village in the remote area of ​​the Tver region for maternity capital two and a half years ago. Three small rooms and kitchen. Purely, cozy, something delicious smells of boiling pots on the stove. After a walk, children's clothing and boots are dried on the stove. Children in the room look at cartoons and join the aquarium with a turtle. Nastya has two children, a seven -year -old first -grader Nikita and a small fragile Tanyusha, she will be three years old.

The house in which Nastya with children lives is divided into three owners. In the middle is Nastya's apartment photo: Natalia Platonova for TD

The most cherished Nastina is a dream - to give children a chance for another life. And there is also the hope that the products in the stall will not stop lending, writing down in a thick notebook. She has a salary fifth. She will pay with the saleswoman in the stall, pick up products, chocolate and yogurt to children and last without debts for two or three weeks, and then the saleswoman will again write down her purchases in a notebook.

On the Vyshelki

Nastya was born in a small village in the far number of the Tver region. At the age of seven, orphaned. Mom died of cancer. I lay in the hospital all my last summer, but I ran away to spend my daughter to first grade on September 1. They refused to let the woman go back to the hospital. Nastya is still worried that her mother would have lived longer if she had not escaped for her sake. And his father left the village immediately after his wife’s death, he didn’t even wait for the funeral. Grandmother raised Nastya. After the ninth grade, she blessed her granddaughter to go to study in Tver, look for a better share. The prospects in the village, and in the entire district, were not foreseen.

Nikita helps sister get off the furnace photo: Natalia Platonova for TD

Nastya graduated from a sewing school, worked for several years in a sewing factory, then in a private studio. At first she lived in a hostel, then she began to earn money and rented an apartment. But the cut with sewing so fired a young girl that she left this business and got a job as an operator.

He came to pay the bill. Rushed. Nervously tugged at the corner of the receipt in the queue. And he did not take his eyes off Nastya. And then he went again - specially to meet and call on a date. They met for a long time, walked along the Volga embankment, went to the cinema, began to live together and, it seems, even made joint plans. But as soon as Nastya said that she was pregnant, the man, as she says, "instantly went missing." “He does not know that he has a son, he thinks, probably, that I had an abortion. But I didn’t have such thoughts, ”Nastya shrugs. She did not look for a former lover and did not apply for alimony. He does not believe that there may be any sense from this. The fathers of children do not pay child support to any of the friends and friends.

Tanya looks at the turtle in the aquarium photo: Natalia Platonova for TD

And the grown -up Nikita began to invent anything about dad. So she said that dad lives in Tver. You grow up, you want to find - I will help. And Nastya itself from the regional capital had to leave. He says, understood that one with a baby in a rented apartment without work could not survive. She returned to the village where she lived in childhood. Grandma was already dead, the house went to the floor uncle. But relatives lived in the city and ran into the village infrequently.

True, a year later the drunken uncle put up his niece with a one -year -old Nikita to the street. Friends helped to move to the district center and rent housing. Nikita arranged in a nursery, found a job at a car enterprise and began to re -establish life. She tried to defend her rights, not afraid of courts and prosecutors. As an orphan, Nastya, by law, was supposed to get housing. But they didn’t give housing. I went through two vessels in the area and three ships in Tver, wrote complaints to the prosecutor’s office, but did not achieve anything.

Nikita puts on boxing gloves. Pear and gloves - gifts for the New Year photo: Natalia Platonova for TD

The commission made a decision that the old mother’s house, empty for twenty years, was suitable for housing. Even if the commission itself admitted that the house needs a complete overhaul, replacing floors, windows, stoves, partitions and roofs. It was also proposed to seek repairs from the district administration in the courts. But to fight for a collapse in an extinct village, where three lonely pensioners live their age and there is nothing more, Nastya considered a meaningless occupation. Endless trips for 200 kilometers to Tver would be more expensive than money from ghostly selling a house in the future.

New House

And then a new man and the hope appeared in the floor of life that the second time everything would work out. Nastya lived with Tanin Pope for a year and a half. She left herself, she says she was tired of scandals. While living in her rented apartment, everything was not bad. But when she became pregnant and realized that she would have to abandon the rental of the apartment - there would not be enough money on maternity leave - his mother moved to the house, and it began ... humiliation and insults from his beloved, endless clarification of the mother -in -law, that the child did not stand up. She knew that after the birth of her daughter, she would solve the issue of housing and could taxure herself, looked at while she was pregnant. The average section of a wooden house for three families filed in maternity capital at a price. Three rooms, two stoves, a cesspool in the hallway, a shed, a place for a small garden - you can live. On the neighboring street Sadik, a pair of quarters is a school. The state of the house, however, turned out to be worse than it seemed to her when buying.

Nikita taught his sister to various acrobatic exercises. She really loves to take them with her mother photo: Natalia Platonova for TD

In the first winter, it turned out that both stoves are not suitable. Little iron did not give heat at all. And the main, large, also drowned poorly, because it fell apart before my eyes. She had to feed coal and firewood without stopping, only then the room was warm.

Children are spinning the whole conversation next to us in the kitchen. Tanya draws something concentrated. Nikita brings to show the folder with diplomas and a medal for the struggle competition. It demonstrates a pistol - a musical column, a cool gift from Santa Claus last year. "And here!" - Nikita proudly opens a suitcase with skates and rollers.

“This year, grandfather almost went bankrupt,” Nastya grunts and hides a smile of emotion, watching Tanya, after his brother, brings her New Year's catch-a large multi-colored mosa-designer.

“Nikita is passionate about everything except lessons. He goes to a circle to the Museum of Nature, to the fight, two circles at school and still asks for music. But I can’t pull the music at all. Classes cost 1.5 thousand rubles, and even the guitar needs to be bought. Because of the lessons, I periodically arrange thrashing, I break down when I bring comments from school, I scream. But I so want him to achieve something, and not live all his life in such a cone, ”Nastya sighs and adds:“ In fact, Nikita is great and my great assistant: it helps around the house, and with Tanya. Fire is dragging, the snow in the yard will clean, goes into the store. He is small, but understands that we now have a very difficult time. Sometimes Tanya begins to whimper in the store, ask for yogurt or something else. Nikita comes up, hugs it and explains that my mother doesn’t have money now, but as they will, he will definitely buy. And when they will ... "

Children play on the floor in the kitchen photo: Natalia Platonova for TD

Tanin dad does not give money and does not buy food, but pays for the kindergarten, sometimes he buys clothes and medicines to her daughter and gives gifts for the New Year and birthday. Nastya, of course, would like more participation. She is outraged that for six months he has been asking him to buy Tanya a crib, and before that he had not helped with firewood. Then it settles that "at least so." “I understand: if I apply for alimony, there will be no this help. Nobody pays alimony anyway, ”Nastya shrugs his hands.

On the verge of survival

As soon as Tanya was able to arrange in a kindergarten at a year and a half, Nastya found the work of the day duty at the local college. It was there that she received a salary of 10.5 thousand rubles. But in October, the college administration decided to change the operating mode of the duty officers to change a day through three. Nastya with two babies on such a schedule could not fit in any way. She asked the director, then she even agreed with the shifter that the daytime part would work for her, and she was nightmare for Nastya. But the administration did not make concessions - and Nastya had to write a statement on his own.

The loss of work in the village where there is no work is just a blow under the breath. Then, already a few weeks later, in the local social protection Nastya said that the application was not necessary to write. She, as a single mother, had to provide a suitable schedule. But the train has already left. “It’s very hard with work here. The kindergarten works up to half past seven, and the store or mail where they are ready to get me are finished later. I have nowhere to put the kids in the evening, ”says Nastya about her unenviable situation. She begged for social security inspectors to take her social worker, to care for grandmothers. But even there the team is already established, no one wants to share his “own” grandmothers. Nastya got only three people. This is 7 thousand rubles a month. Twice a week she goes to her wards to the store and pharmacy, wears firewood and water from the well.

Tanya and Nikita play in the yard photo: Natalia Platonova for TD

“I can’t fit into the budget with this salary,” Nastya laments. - A child’s allowance is added to 7 thousand, but it does not become better. It is very sorry that neither social protection nor the administration, no one helps information. We would not have decided trouble with the stove, if not for a random conversation in the store. And as they would winter this year, and I do not know. The worst thing is: if it is cold at home, the baby could be taken to the shelter. I'm even afraid to think about this. ”

A large new stove appeared in the fall as a miracle. The warmth in the house was provided by the Constant charity fund. Nastya heard that one woman in the village "Social Protection would make a stove." She rushed to social protection: "I also really need it, we are very bad about it." And there they said that only the “constant” can help with this. They offered to think and write what help is needed in the first place. “I have a good edge here: the lags are burst, the veranda is falling apart, the trouble is wiring ... But the floor has not yet failed, the veranda, even if it collapses, there will be just a porch, I will somehow collect 5 thousand to the wiring and materials of 5 thousand, and my acquaintances will help to change. And the stove is more than 80 thousand. For me, the money is unthinkable. If it falls apart, then we will die out, it will not be possible to live at home. Well, I asked the stove. "

Nikita with a Christmas tree next to the house photo: Natalia Platonova for TD

The phone of the Constant charity foundation in the social protection departments of the Tver region is the main wand is a lifesaver. When a family with children suffers a disaster, which can not be overcome by budget resources, hope only on Constant. We need a new stove, legal assistance or narcologist - the salvation phone is one. A month later, the Coordinator of the Foundation in the Bezhetsky District and the master, a master of the workshop came to Nastya-to get acquainted and evaluate the front of the work. By the onset of cold weather, the house finally became warm.

The Constant charity fund, the only one in the huge Tver region, is engaged in systemic assistance to families with children in difficult life situations. Sometimes, in order to pull the family out of the pit, you need a very small amount. But for a lonely mother who receives a meager salary and tiny benefits for children, even money for repairing a stove or leaking roof has nowhere to take and there is nothing to accumulate. And there are a lot of such families. Most of the wards of the fund, like Nastya, lives in rural areas in remote areas.

We collect money to pay for the work of the fund employees who daily help families with children to cope with the crisis. Any support of your support, any monthly donation will give the employees the “Constant” to help their wards on time. So, the children will not get into the state house, they will remain at home, with their mother.