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Where are you, pregnant?
The stories of women who became mothers
I am almost 40, but I still can’t decide if I still want to give birth to a child. I already have two children, and I can say for sure that only in fairy tales and on Instagram it is easy and simple. It all starts with excitement about how the pregnancy will take place, fears for your own health and for the future baby, fears about childbirth, horror that you can not cope, do something wrong. You understand that life with the birth of a child will never be the same, you are afraid that not everything will turn out perfectly and at once, that you can’t pull the material material.
Positive pregnancy test. Photo of 2014, then the last time I experienced the whole storm of emotions photo: Julia SkorobogatovaFuture problems of education and, of course, gardens, mugs, school, institute are also scared ... Similar thoughts arise immediately, as you see a positive result of a pregnancy test. But maybe these are all my feelings? I decided to find the answer to this question, observing pregnant women to understand how much their life has changed in a position and how they feel.
All girls, except me, were in position at the time of shooting.
Irina, 43 years old. Miron, 10 months
I have enough late baby. The first child, long -awaited. I was very prepared for pregnancy and childbirth. Thank God everything went well. But at the same time, when he was born, I absolutely did not understand what to do with him: how to care, how to communicate, how to develop, what is possible, that it is impossible. Such helplessness, confusion disarmed me completely.
Ira is engaged in breathing gymnastics, she should help her in childbirth photos: Julia SkorobogatovaI am a lawyer, I had a fairly high pace of life, actively business. Now I feel some hunger, very unusual. I see a child all day, a couple of hours a day of my husband, and that’s all. For me, communication is a source of my well -being, inspiration, and tranquility. My resource. I do not have enough people nearby. For three years that I spent here [in Moscow], I had not yet managed to form a circle of acquaintances, friends, relatives with whom this social isolation could live or share. I began to look for all sorts of mother's party in the hope that someone close in spirit would meet there. Until I had such chemistry.
The kid sleeps poorly, and this is very exhausting. When in the morning he wakes up at 4:30 and it becomes clear that this awakening is final, just some despair rises inside. Sometimes I even want to beat something right. Pillow, for example. It is terribly insulting. I would like to yell, find out the relationship with this with a child who does not want to sleep. In a harsh form to explain to him that he is wrong. In such moments, nothing pleases. I understand that these are things passing, and just in contrast I am experiencing an incredible, such sincere love that is simply increasing every day, every week.
Ira with her husband at a photo shoot. They have this first child photo: Julia SkorobogatovaI am forty -three. The miracle that this baby was born to me. I am very timid about another baby.
Ekaterina , 33 years old. Masha, 1 year 10 months
The pregnancy itself was fantastically comfortable, cool, I had a lot of strength, there was no toxicosis. I went to the exhibitions, in the cinema, I had a bunch of free time, I went to Thailand. From the negative - eternal prohibitions, people climb, they say that I have, what to drink, how to go, "Where are you, pregnant, you can?" It shocked me every time. Of course, I did not climb, but answered quite sharply.
Before pregnancy, Catherine collected underwear, now she has little photo: Julia SkorobogatovaThe same [was] after childbirth. Well, for example, I and the child in the sling came to the Tretyakov Gallery, they told me in line: "Where are you going?" The child is on my chest, I am in a sling, I don’t bother anyone, I don’t carry a stroller, I don’t ask anyone for help. What do you need? No, "Where are you going?"
Everyone believes that the mother should turn into a super man, become a model of mental balance: to stop swearing, to think only about the high, but at the same time it is desirable not to move away from the playground. They told me: “What are you sitting on the phone? Your child jumps in a pool. ” Well, jumps. I have grown up, I'm not jumping. And this is a child.
[After childbirth] everything has changed a little more than completely. The last time I was in manicure during pregnancy. I do not belong to myself. I gained 10 kilograms already. My girlfriends asked: "When will you come into normal form?" What does normal shape mean? My body has just produced another body into the light, why should I pretend that nothing happened?
She stopped communicating with her best friend, because after childbirth I had a hormonal imbalance, some kind of fragile, unstable condition was. I left the hospital, my stomach is still sticking out, of course. She poked her finger so, says: "Oh, wow, you have no more left there?" This is firing.
Katya is very waiting for the moment when he can again ride a bicycle photo: Julia SkorobogatovaIf I knew what was waiting for me, I probably would not have given birth. It is impossible to be prepared for this. If you estimate, you live so cool, do you need it all in a fig? It is like the conquest of Everest. People live perfectly without it. But those who conquer live completely differently. With the advent of the child, I became much stronger. This is a test. At some point, you sit and think: "Everything, the end, I can’t do it anymore." And then you take and you can.
Elena, 39 years old. Masha, 13 years old, Dasha, 11.5 years, Ivan, 8 years old, Lyubasha, 3 years, Sasha, 9 months
Pregnancy for me is the most happy time. There were some kind of ailments, weakness, but all this was in comparison with what kind of peace is sometimes filling. The kids are all different, and even during pregnancy their character is felt. I never had such a thing that "it would rather give birth when it ends." On the contrary, I would go and go.
Daughters help mom put on an evening dress photo: Julia SkorobogatovaThe fourth pregnancy was generally some kind of special. Favorite man, full adoption of the body. I did not feel the slightest constraint from the fact that the body is changing the size. Blessed condition.
[Elder] children were waiting and welcoming the younger ones - they rejoiced, jumped with happiness that now there would be three, four, five. And at the moments when around and inside it was straight dark-dark, children were the only light and support. For example, when I found out about my last pregnancy, I did not support well, at all, none of the relatives, only children. And this is infinitely valuable.
When my dad found out that I was pregnant with the fifth child, he said: "There is a fool." I live alone with children. The ex -husband has a new family. He visits his children once a week. The beloved [civil husband, the father of two younger daughters] also lives separately, so far because of the aggressive mood of the ex-husband. We go to him with the younger ones.
Lena wants to take a family photo with children photo: Julia SkorobogatovaChildren are my main motivator and inspirer. Of course, they change life, make irreversible changes to it. Yes, sometimes it is not easy, even hard. But this is more likely not from children, you just need to learn how to organize yourself, them, the space around, to prioritize. And yes, this is life in constantly changing conditions, simply because everything is unpredictable with children. But the amount of love is growing exponentially.
Olga, 35 years old. Ksenia, 15 years old, Nikita, 7 years old, Petya, 1.4 years
[The youngest son] was a surprise with us. The story is interesting, for me, so even with some kind of esoteric subtext. I have been doing yoga for a long time and that year I was just about to go to India to study. A heavy road with long flights and transfers, then a sharp change in climate. In Russia, winter and minus twenty -five were, and in India plus twenty -five. Yoga practice daily. Rise at four in the morning every day. I practiced Ashtanga Vignaca Yoga - this is a very intense strength practice. In general, when I returned, I found out that I had five weeks of pregnancy. That is, I flew out of Moscow as a pregnant woman, but I did not know about it. The baby inside me withstood everything that happened to me.
Olga, waiting for the third baby, removes the house photo: Julia SkorobogatovaHe seemed to come specifically to me, because I did not dare to change my life. I could not leave office work and a stable salary. And now, when he appeared, I took up very tightly by my development as an instructor of yoga and quite successful.
The youngest son is a very demanding child. The first year I was constantly in suspense: he will sleep at least an hour or not, I can do my own business or not, he will give me at least a little time for my yoga practice, or it is useless to even start now.
The entire previous year was the most difficult. A small child, the seven -year -old crisis has a first -grader and stress from the birth of a younger brother. The eldest daughter-teenage, she also had anxiety. My husband had problems with work. I did not have the strength to support everyone, I myself needed support. They even turned to psychologists for help in overcoming the crisis. They received tools for building a constructive dialogue, began to be more tolerant of each other, began to show more empathy.
Olga does not think her life without yoga photo: Julia SkorobogatovaFor me, children are an opportunity to take care of someone, give their attention, warmth, love. I cannot live only for myself. If the children grow up and will not be others, then I will do it with teaching, curation or help to the orphanage or I will find some other social projects.
Alexandra , 30 years old. Sebastian and Xavier, 1 year 9 months, Felix, 2 weeks
Well, you will pour how my pubic bones hurt and diverged in both pregnancy, how my legs were taken away at the end, what is the first time for the second time? How was they worn in my arms when I could not walk, can you tell you this? It really hurts. A gait like a duck with rheumatism. In the end of [pregnancy] it is generally impossible to roll over in bed at night. Wild pain, you can’t wear jeans in a standing position, do not raise your leg. It still hurts, but I try not to think about it. It doesn't bother me to live.
Sasha and Akmal on the day of his marriage photo: Julia SkorobogatovaIn my life, in principle, nothing has changed. Even with the advent of the third child. I do my own business, make a manicure, go to the cinema. I really do not like women who got into a sacrificial position with the advent of the child and whine: "How complicated." Now the only thing that annoys me is breastfeeding. Because it’s very inconvenient for me to go to work with a breast pump.
I'm starring in the series. He is so far only on YouTube, I am an expressive girl-administrator there, such in a pink sweatshirt, always angry, at the reception. And I periodically advise people on public speaking. I did not stop in any pregnancy or after childbirth. I gave birth to twins and a week and a half after birth was already on the set.
Yes, I may have a non -standard pregnancy and attitude. I'm not a fanatical mother. I do not rock the child in my arms, I do not run with him. It seems to me that the key to healthy motherhood is in the absence of fanaticism to children: do not break his hands with endless motion sickness and not live children to the detriment of themselves.
Sasha is trying to put the children to sleep photos: Julia SkorobogatovaI am much easier for everything, and it seems to me-this is my happiness, so I completely calmly went to give birth to a third child and go to give birth to another fourth, because I still want a girl. Suddenly it will work out? Ha ha.
I am Julia
I shot this project for myself. He reassured me. When the shooting ended, I relaxed and decided: it will be.
It is difficult for me to decide whether I am ready to become a mother photo again: Julia Skorobogatova 
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