"You can't cry with them"

Six months ago, 35-year-old Anna, instead of one child, had seven. She did not plan this, but the tragedy for the tragedy led to the fact that six her nephews were left without parents. Anna, without hesitation, took them to her - and now a large family learns to live together. And survive

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“I love children, but after the first pregnancy I no longer wanted to repeat it. And I thought many times: I would have to get children right away, but only without childbirth. Fear your desires, as they say. ”

The city of Yasnogorsk, Tula region. Three -story apartment building. The door to the apartment opens, and one after another children are spilled out of the room.

“Hi,” the first says.

“Hello,” the second appears, a little younger.

“Hello,” the third whispers embarrassedly, even younger.

- Hi, who are you? - asks the fourth, very small.

It seems that now the babies will appear and will also say “Hello”. But no. There are still older children, but they are not at home: Denisa is eighteen, and he is studying at a college for a chef-technologist, Valeria fifteen, she is in the ninth grade of the school.

Brothers play rooms: Vladimir Averin for TD Children play rooms: Vladimir Averin for TD Children watch cartoons: Vladimir Averin for TD

“This is Vanya, he is seven years old, further Seryozha, six years old, Alexander, four years old, and Misha, he is two,” Anna lists the names of the younger nephews. There is also Anina's native daughter Varya, she is six years old, and she went to another room. In total, ten people live in the apartment: except for seven children, Anna and her husband and grandfather, her dad. In each room, folding sofas and chairs-beds, so that everyone has where to sleep. We close in one of the rooms, somehow fighting off the noisy gurt, who does not want to let go of his Anya. Children's noses now and then fit to the translucent glass of the door while we are talking.

Tanya

“Tanya already had the elders, Denis and Valery, when he and Sergey got married,” says Anna. - The sister and her husband lived well, peacefully, she worked as an accountant, and he was at the factory. Your house, plot. But, when she was pregnant with their fourth child, the youngest Misha, Sergey died tragically. For all of us, it was a terrible shock. But Tanya did not blame - but she could not: she had to engage in children and prepare for childbirth. "

The whole family supported Tanya with everyday life, older children helped a lot. Even before the birth, Tanya went to the hairdresser courses and began to cut at home to at least somehow earn. Then, when Misha was born, she learned to the confectioner and baked cakes for the Owl charity fund in Yasnogorsk, where she was a volunteer.

“Her plans always had a huge one,” Anna smiles. -I coped with difficulty, but it was unnoticed by it: she managed to follow the house and the garden, planned to complete the second floor, raised the kids, and also constantly did something in the fund. The fund, in turn, also helped her: through the “owl” Tanya and the children received food sets from the Rus Food Fund for free.

Denis, Misha, Vanya and Seryozha in the kitchenphoto: Vladimir Averin for TD Children play rooms: Vladimir Averin for TD Brothers play catching up: Vladimir Averin for TD

“It all started last summer - Tanya lost a sharp weight and complained about pain in the lower abdomen all the time,” recalls Anna Blokhina, the volunteer of the SOVA Foundation. - We all together drove her together to the doctor, but she still came, and participated in our events, and baked the children's cakes. Although it was evident that she was very bad. "

When Tanya still reached the doctor, she found cervical cancer in the second stage. It was impossible to do chemistry due to anemia, so they were prescribed radiation therapy courses. While she was treated, six children lived with Anna. By November 2019, the treatment ended, and the doctors stated an improvement. And in February it became ill again. Anna and her father persuaded her to go to the doctor, but Tanya claimed that she had won the trifles and illness. She has always been an optimist and energetic person, she could not get sick and regret. And it was stubborn. As a result, when in April Anna almost forcefully took her sister to Tula for examination, Tanya was taken to an ambulance right from the doctor’s office.

“She was urgently operated on, apparently everything was cut out, I don’t know for sure, and they said that the cancer has spread sharply and this is the fourth stage. Then the doctors told me that there was no chance, - Anna pauses. She is not used to crying, especially with outsiders. But tears are also impossible to restrain. - Tanya was discharged from the hospital, and we brought her to Yasnogorsk. It was April 10. And on May 20 she died. "

She was forty years old. Until the last, Tanya believed that she would get to her feet and take the children. Only sometimes she said: "An, something does not work, it seems." The sister was with her until the very end.

Anya

Anna was friends with their nephews from their birth, and the last year they lived for months while her mother was treated, so she did not have to get used to each other. Anna immediately issued guardianship over the four younger ones and took all six to her. It never occurred to her for a second that it was possible to do it somehow differently.

Sasha, Misha, Seryozha, Vanya and Varvarapheoto: Vladimir Averin for TD Barbara with dad and grandfather: Vladimir Averin for TD Misha, Sasha, Barbara, Seryozha, Vanya, Denis, Lera, Sergey, Anna and Alexander)

But the life of the family has changed dramatically. Vara, Anina's daughter, six years old, she studies at a music school - Domra and choreography. And I used to be the only child. “At first she was shocked, of course, and often closed in the room,” says Anna. - One thing is to communicate closely with the nephews or to live with them temporarily, and another - to understand that it will always be so now. But she’s very reasonable for me, I immediately told her that Tanya died and where to go to the kids now? “Nowhere, only to us,” she answered herself. Gradually getting used to it. "

At first, Anna did not tell the youngest about her mother. They knew that in recent months my mother often lay in the hospital, and continued to think so. But in the summer I still decided: I put all four on the sofa and said that my mother had died and now in the sky. They understood it so that my mother went far and will not return anymore. Only the eldest of the younger ones, Vanya, cried and asked. The rest did not ask anymore. Sometimes they say to each other: “Mom Tanya died,” but everyday, just as a fact of life.

Two noses or three ears lean against the glass door: the kids try to look out and eavesdrop on what is happening and what “Anya” says about.

“Unlike Vari, four younger ones always cannot and without each other,” Anna smiles. - Although the opposite happens. Somehow Vanya went to a friend with an overnight stay, and his friend’s parents later said that when they laid him a bed in a separate room, he lay down on her and joyfully sighed: “What a silence! How good it is to be alone!” Everyone laughed. But in general, they miss each other very much. And if suddenly someone is left alone, then he does not know where to put himself. But everyone goes to the garden very well, even the youngest. Well, they have entertain themselves, which is only a plus for me. ”

Children play catching up: Vladimir Averin for TD Children play rooms: Vladimir Averin for TD Children play catching up: Vladimir Averin for TD

Anna works in the city administration, in the committee of property and land relations. From nine to six every day. She gets up at six in the morning, prepares breakfast for the whole family, then takes Vanya to school - he went to first grade. Then he leads Seryozha, Sasha and his own in one kind of kindergarten, and the younger Misha is in the other (in the kindergarten where the others go, there is no younger group). Then he goes to work. When she comes to work at nine in the morning, sits on a chair and jokes with colleagues: they say, that's all, I worked for today, let me sit calmly.

At the same time, Anna’s work is not so calm and sitting. These are trips, and meetings, and drawing up contracts, and reception of citizens, and participation in land disputes. At six in the evening she leaves work, goes shopping and home - to cook dinner. Senior nephews, husband or dad, depending on who is now free, take children from school and gardens. But Anna does not complain.

Such a rhythm of life does not allow either getting bored or suffer. Even when grief from the loss of a native person rolls, there is no time to cry. Six months have passed since Tanya's death. “I still have not realized this. She seemed to just lie in the hospital in Tula for me and is about to return. ” The tears are again blown up in front of Anna, but at the same moment the noses and ears are already leaning against the door, but the fists. "Anya, where are you?!" - the children shout and at the same time laugh. “That always,” Anya smiles, sobbing. “You won’t cry with them.”

Kids call her Anya, not aunt. And all the time they follow her with a goose. If she strokes someone alone on the head, the turn is immediately built. And if one of the nephews will make a reservation and say “mother”, Varya reports: “Anya is aunt, not a mother. Mom is mine. "

Anna admits that she has not yet learned to find time for herself. And what constantly thinks how to feed children. Moreover, their needs are growing with them. “One thing is Misha: he put on a T -shirt with Mickey Mouse, he is happy. And with Valeria, in her fifteen years, this number will not pass. ”

Anna with Varvarafoto: Vladimir Averin for TD Barbara, Seryozha, Misha and Annapoto: Vladimir Averin for TD Anna with Mishafoto: Vladimir Averin for TD

Everyone works in the family, including grandfather: he travels a rotational basis to Moscow and serves as a guard. But there is not enough money. If it were not for the guardian payments and the assistance of the Rus Food Fund, Anna does not know how they would cope. The fund also helped Tanya, and after her death he began to help Anna's family. Once a week they are supplied with grocery sets, mainly dairy products. Enough for everyone.

Unfortunately, in our country, especially in small cities, hard work and dedication is not enough to earn a living. Especially when tragedies come one after another. Fortunately, while in the world there are people and organizations that do not care, you can survive.

The food fund "Rus" is absolutely free to provide products with poor families with children and needy pensioners throughout Russia. Please arrange a monthly donation in favor of the fund - even very small! This is a huge help - then the fund can continue to help people like Anna and her big family.