Translated material
To the intelligent mother
Mother's Day was celebrated in the Nizhny Novgorod orphanage. One of the orphans with a nervous breakdown was taken to the hospital. Who makes teachers be idiots
In the orphanage No. 3 of Nizhny Novgorod, they decided to “form family values” and celebrate the day of the mother. The orphans were forced to sing the corresponding lyrical songs and participate in the scenes. As a result, one of the pupils had a tantrum and a nervous breakdown. “Today, a child from this orphanage was taken to a psychiatric hospital,” writes Marina Efimova, president of the Life Without Borders Foundation. The prosecutor's office began checking the message about violation of the rights of orphans.
On December 5, 2014, in the village of Tagara, Kezhemsky district of the Krasnoyarsk Territory, a second-grader-orphan, Konstantin Chernov fled from school so as not to read poetry for his mother's Day. His mother was killed when he was not three years old. Father, devoid of parental rights, started a new family. The boy was brought up by grandfather with a grandmother. And everyone knew about this in a rural school.
Nevertheless, they gave Kostya to learn the relevant verses. The holiday from Sunday at the school was postponed to Friday, December 5th. On that day, from the general rehearsal in the class of Kostya, bursting out, fled, leaving a portfolio, replaceable shoes, a scarf. It happened about two in the afternoon. A little later, about three, high school students seemed to see him again - on the school porch. Later, the trail taken by the dog broke off immediately around the corner of the school.
They searched for him. The case took control of Moscow. Orientation - throughout the country. For information about Kostya, they promised a reward of 300 thousand rubles. SK spoke about six versions. They checked the Protestant Church “Spirit of Faith” for involvement in the disappearance of the child: on that day, on two cars, missionaries came from Ust-Ilymsk (until the fall of 2014 in Tagar they had a rehabilitation center, closed by complaints of residents).
They checked prisoners from the nearest colonies: there are many of them, including KP-13, where they are serving a sentence for sexual actions against minors or for murder. Checked watchmen. Sexual murder, accident, accident. We checked all the cars that drove along the Tagar on this day and got into cameras. We checked all car services. We checked relatives on the polygraph. We checked on it all the Tagars who are doubtful. And again. And yet. All the logs turned in the village - the local psychic dreamed that the boy was in firewood. Nothing.
Nobody checked teachers only for professional suitability. An experienced 60-year-old teacher, who gave the boy to teach poetry, later quit of her own free will. At school, no one will say bad words about her. They say: they brought and slandered. I could work again.
And the body of the bones was discovered two years and three months, on March 15, 2017, in the school yard, in the fire reservoir. This is a container of 2 meters and a length of 14, which are dug into the ground, there are three of them here, each on each look at one look. They are closed with wooden lids.
They found it quite by accident, calling firefighters for verification (for licensing an educational institution). Those issued the order to insulate the tanks and cut the second hatches. They called the workers. They found them. Grandfather recognized the belt - he himself helped to fasten before the holiday.
The authorities have many questions about this. Why the containers were not drained when the child disappeared. As they were examined in the early days of the search (and they were examined). Who follows them and how, if the remains have found only now.
But not asked:
Can people work with children who are deprived of not even empathy, but elementary sympathy?
Yes, we have crosses, traditions, ordering, “for checkmarks”, all these “Holiday holidays in the Palace of Labor”, “Months of Family Values” (this is just this in many regions, and all social institutions are required to hold “thematic events”), all this cast iron in half with hypocrisy and show. But is it necessary to beat children with this cast iron?
And if it is not asked, it will be repeated.
“Tell me, colleagues, it is normal to arrange a holiday in the orphanage in honor of the mother's Day? Make children to sing songs and participate in the scenes dedicated to the mother? This is fine? Or I don't understand something? - shouts the president of the Foundation "Life Without Borders" Marina Efimova. - Today, the children sang songs about their mother at a strange holiday. Nobody asked them whether they want to participate in this event or not. In correspondence with the director, I was refused to visit the institution, despite the fact that I am a member of the Board of Trustees in the social sphere under the government of the Nizhny Novgorod region. I was going to go anyway, but the children wrote that the concert was canceled. But he was not canceled, the children were recorded on the camera yesterday at rehearsals and today this concert was shown to children separately in groups. Is this division into groups and a video show somehow softens the tuneness of the situation? <...> At a request from the minobra about the purpose of this concert, the leadership replied that the mother’s holiday was included in the plan of educational work in the institution for the formation of family values. Tell me, what? Is it okay? Is it in the order of things, or what? I wrote an appeal to the Commissioner for the Rights of the Child of the Russian Federation of the Russian Federation Kuznetsova.
Raising family values cannot go through the knee. Family values are such constructs that are formed when the child assigns a certain content. This is a deep inner work, it is useless to carry it out gradually, there will only be a protest.
Children in an injury injury do not have a resource that allows them to appropriate these values. Their family system is broken, emotional ties are not formed, the proximity to the family and parents is associated with pain, and not with happiness and prosperity. It is pain, disappointment and contempt that children will feel, speaking the right slogans from the stage.
There are children who are experiencing the situation of the loss of parents. For them, a connection with their parents is a place of greatest pain and sorrow, even if they do not show it outwardly. Talking about this from the stage is violence against the child, over his work of grief, which is not in the place in the public. ”
In addition, Efimova writes about unacceptable handling with children - but this information should check the relevant structures.
The regional Ministry of Education, the apparatus of the Commissioner for the Rights of the Child and the prosecutor's office already told local media that they would conduct an audit.
“Mournful insensibility” - there was such a diagnosis in pre -revolutionary Russia, “living corpses” - from there. Later - mental anesthesia, depressive depersonalization. And this is not in the newspaper part, this is a question for specialists. This is what the “new” psychologist Nikolai Shcherbakov said:
-Children differ from the vast majority of adults that perceive everything seriously and really. Especially us, the so -called adults, as well as everything that we do and Velim do them. They have not yet developed the ability to perceive the reality of the abstract-quinent: well, it would seem, to read the poem from the stage-nonsense, formality, learned-staggered-stabbed.
It is we, the naked adults, think so, because we are adjusting all the time and participate in meaningless events, and “nothing like that, everyone lives, but how did you want?”, And they are already used to it, and it’s completely different from what is he, in fact?
And with him
In the orphan child, in the very center of the soul, in the place where most of us have a mother and a more or less adequate, “life-affirming” idea of her-most likely a huge wound, horror and a lot of pain.
He would help him cope with her or, if there is no such opportunity, at least not touch this place, give a person the opportunity to recover.
In orphanages, as a rule, there really is almost no opportunity to help cope with this pain. Therefore, I work with such children only when they fall into normal foster families.
Shcherbakov did not evaluate the professional suitability of teachers and psychologists of the orphanage No. 3, and this is understandable.
Well, people who have been hanging for two years on all planes of orientation on Chernov’s costume speak of “enchanting idiocy” of such educators and propagandists of “family values”. As well as about points, salaries and premium, encouraging teachers to be idiots.