7 tips on how not to experience stress due to communication with relatives: Psychotherapist Alexander Gaifman

Over the past month, in many Russian families, relations have spoiled due to different points of view on the events that take place in the world. According to the March study of the analytical center of Nafi, about 70% of Russians are alarming and panic, and only 30% of respondents manage to maintain emotional balance and control the level of anxiety. As for relations with loved ones, 20% of the Russians surveyed by the Chronicle project admitted that they argued and even quarreled with their relatives because of the news agenda.
The magazine "Future" talked with the psychotherapist Alexandra Gaifman . The conversation turned out to be very productive: we bring to your attention the following communication techniques, cognitive exercises and in practice methods of minimizing stress.

Advice 1. Discard priority

If you often conflict with your family and try to “reach” - try to accept the fact that most likely they will not change their opinion.

At this moment, you have a choice: to maintain a relationship or choose a position that differs. Choose what is more important to you.

Advice 2. Before you say something or do, determine the goal

In the treatment of acceptance and responsibility, it is believed that each action and thought is more global intention. For example, you decided to stop communicating with your family, because your positions on the events were polar. Determine what affects you and what you affect.

Can you influence whether your relatives change your position?

- If you calmly cited them arguments and facts, but they still did not agree, then most likely not.

What can you do with this and what is in your area of responsibility?

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