"What the hell did I pay him?"

Emigrants from Russia went to the massage therapist in Georgia. He touched them for intimate places - but many were silent about it for more than six months

In April of this year, in social networks they began to discuss a masseur named Vitaly: supposedly he allows himself to touch the clients for intimate places and conduct talk about sex. It turned out that some girls who took advantage of his services talked about the Harassment on his part in the fall of 2022. "Cold" spoke with Vitaly clients, learned the opinion of himself and talks about the situation.

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The 27-year-old blogger Margo Kul in 2022 moved from St. Petersburg to Batumi. On Instagram, she accidentally stumbled upon the profile of the masseur of Vitaly Eidelman. In September, she signed up for him for a session: Margot had no doubt about the professionalism of the massage therapist. At the meeting, she immediately noticed that Vitaly was trying to actively arrange her to her: “He asked many questions like“ What massage do you want? ”,“ What effect do you want to get? ”,“ What intensity do you prefer ”?”

At first, everything was “comfortable and careful”. But at some point, according to Margo, Vitaly began to lift her underpants. “I often go to the massage and know how they do it, so I thought it was strange. Why does he twist something that it is not necessary to twist? He began to crush the buttocks, but without touching the anus, ”says Margo. - Now I understand that it is so close to massage to the anal hole in principle. Then his hand slipped over my labia. I jerked reflexively: squeezed my legs and raised up the heel. Apparently, he realized that such a story would not pass with me, and continued to do the usual massage. Vitaly is a good massage therapist. But this does not justify what he did. "

Margot paid Vitaly for this session and said that she liked him as a massage therapist and that she wanted to come to him again, but did not understand, "why was this movement [near her intimate zones]." According to the girl, Vitaly, having heard the question, hesitated and did not know what to say. After a pause, he said: "It seemed to me that you need it." Vitaly added that he was not doing this with all customers, ”Margo thought that he believes that in this way she complimented her.

After the massage, Margo admits, she felt disgust, and she was also uncomfortable in the area of ​​the labia - where Vitaly touched. “I thought that I could no longer go for massage to men and generally trust masseurs. I am a man of weak sensitivity, so I did not have hysteria and tears, but I was shocked, ”recalls Margo. - I understood that he was fucked up, and did not understand what the hell I paid him. I never thought that I would get into such a situation. ” Now, says Margo, she is sure: discomfort during massage means a violation of personal boundaries.

Soon after this, Margot noted Vitaly on her story on Instagram and talked about him in the channels, where the reserves communicate in Batumi. According to Margo, he apologized to her in personal messages and said that "he had nothing in mind."

Nevertheless, Margo asked her husband to call Vitaly: “He probably does this with many girls. Maybe a man will be able to restore him. ” Vitaly said to her husband Margot that he has psychological problems and he needs to be treated, and also returned the money for the session. Then on September 15, 2022, Margot posted not Storyis anymore, but a post on Instagram and told her story there.

Bodychilee

Margo turned out to be the first girl in Batumi, who publicly spoke about harassment at the massage sessions at Vitaly. After some time, he apparently moved to Tbilisi: in early April 2023, similar stories about him began to appear in accounts and chats of this city.

On April 9, the author of the Meetmein Tbilisi channel Masha gathered in one post several stories of girls who used the services of Vitaly and encountered Harassment. According to this post, Vitaly invited girls to have sex, “stimulated intimate zones” and masturbated them. In the comments, many of the girls who also went to Massage to Vitaly confirmed that he was violating the permissible boundaries. However, there were those who claimed that Vitaly did not face such situations.

Now on Instagram Vitaly Eidelman is almost a thousand subscribers. In the description, he calls himself “Bodychilee” and talks about “500+ satisfied customers in Tbilisi”. Vitaly’s massage hour costs 130 Georgian Lari (this is about 4200 rubles).

Most of the publications are devoted to massage: Vitaly regularly takes off the client (there are no men in the photographs) and in the description of the post talks about various practices. In the photo in one of the latest publications, Vitaly massages a girl without panties - subscribers paid attention to this. “Yes, it is more convenient for some customers so on massage,” Vitaly answered and closed comments on the post. Now, under all the last posts of Vitaly, comments are closed.

BDSM practices

The 30-year-old Katya (she asked not to name her last name), found out about Vitaly through Instagram. She went to him at the end of October 2022. In total, Katya had four massage sessions. The first one went well: Vitaly politely asked what her personal boundaries were, and recognized her wishes for massage. Vitaly, Katya recalls, after the session he also knocked on the door before entering, to make sure that she was dressed. Katya was even a little embarrassed by how much Vitaly tried to create a “deliberately professional” impression: “He emphasized that with great respect [treats] to the female body, that he was erasing towels and disinfects everything. When he memorized the buttocks, he said aloud: “Now I will bend my underpants.” Such a clear accent on this seemed strange to me. ”

After the second massage, Vitaly, according to Katya, went into the room faster when she changed clothes: he wrote it off for a lack of time before the next client. In addition, the second time there were no problems either. After the third session, Vitaly offered Katya to drink coffee. It seemed strange to her, but she agreed: “In the coffee shop, everything was fine until the moment he decided to discuss sex with me. He said that he did not have a very sexual part and he is trying to reveal his sexuality. In response to this, I told him about the sex positive community in Tbilisi and about the hugs that my friend conducted. ” Katya also told Vitaly that at the age of 14 she ran into a harassment from the massage therapist, so she was afraid of masteral male massage therapists and tries to work out this fear.

Soon, Katya was enlisting another massage: “For the fourth time, the massage at a certain moment became very sexualized. I had a feeling of sexual strokes rather, not massage. I stopped feeling safe, my body reacted strangely. Out of the corner of my eye, I noticed that Vitaly had an erection, and strongly strained. ” According to Katya, after massage, Vitaly usually leaves customers to lie down alone and praudit. But then, in front of this part of the session, he approached her and asked if she wanted to try BDSM practitioners with him.

Katya says that she seemed to be paralyzed: “I have a lack of protection mechanism. In the past, I already had a situation where I did not know that violence was happening to me. Therefore, I was able to squeeze out of myself only “I don’t know”. ” But Katya was able to ask Vitaly if he believes that BDSM practices should end in sex. He answered in the affirmative.

Around the same time, Vitaly noticed that Katya was tensing, stepping back to the wall and raised his hands with the words: “I won’t touch you - you are safe.” After that, he went out and left Katya, according to her, in meditation for a few minutes. And then they went to drink coffee: Katya and Vitaly agreed on this before the session. “I was so much in Ahu from what was happening that I did not cancel coffee even after the incident with the BDSM. I walked and understood that something was wrong with me. Vitaly constantly asked if everything was fine with me. I replied that I don’t know and I needed time. ”

At that meeting, Vitaly told Katya the stories of two other clients. According to his stories, one girl came to him excited - "she herself wanted, and he mastered her in his office." The second girl, according to Vitaly, moaned on the massage, it excited him, and he began to stimulate her anus. “He said that after that she threatened him with her husband and extorted money,” Katya recalls. According to Vitaly, he suggested returning the payment. Then Vitaly told Katya that in childhood he was allegedly diagnosed with autism, so he did not always read the social situation and understands how to behave.

Soon, Vitaly offered Katya for a free massage, explaining it with a surge of joy and generosity. She refused and said that she did not want to continue communication. All these two weeks, Katya worked out this story with a psychotherapist. Vitaliy, according to Katya, explained her behavior as follows: “If you had not told me about the sex-comet and that you are all so liberated, I would never have offered you in my life [BDSM practitioners].”

Then Katya even began to worry about whether she had given him any mixed signals, but her relatives convinced her that she had never made a masserator romantic or sexualized hints. The rhetoric of Vitaly seemed to Katim Blaming.

As a result, Katya spoke about what happened to Vitaly on her Instagram, blocked the masseur and deleted their correspondence. “Only on the day when Masha’s post was released - the author of the Meetmein Tbilisi channel - I saw how many girls were injured,” says Katya. “We didn’t even think about what it would turn out.” We thought that we would find three or four stories, but many such cases are many times more. ”

It turns out what turns out

Vitaly himself refused to speak with the “cold”, but said that he would comment on the situation on his Instagram. He laid out a Storyiz series, where he said that because of the threats he had to send a family from Tbilisi [live elsewhere] (Vitaly is married). In addition, he told how he sees massage: “This is a bodily practice, where the client-guest enjoys the touch of another person. Consciously or unconsciously. He wants to enjoy the touch of another person. When I take the project, it is important for me to do it well. This gave the result. More than a hundred people came to me a month. Dozens left reviews. Dozens finished on the table after Shavasana with tears of happiness. ”

Vitaly also clarified that different people came to him. “Someone came and asked, someone came and did not ask, and lay down naked. I said: “Do it as comfortable.” People have a low and high level of norm. At a high level, people experiment and allow themselves different things. I like to work with these people, ”wrote Vitaly. - But [to me] also came to me with a low level of norm. There is nothing wrong with that. They came, and they are. Since I have a large stream of customers, I am mixed that you make people with a large level of normal and [that] with a low coil with low. When people with a low level, and you do massage as people with high, they do not understand this and it turns out that it turns out. ”

Further, Vitaly noted that he did not want to harm anyone. “I never raped anyone, and I was not in my thoughts. I am an empath. I want to give people pleasure, make people good and help people. This is my main life goal. I apologize to those whose borders violated <...>. My desire is always - to make a person good. ”

In the end, Vitaly added that if someone wanted to “hip on this topic”, then he has no anger at these people.

Fetish to deliver pleasure

“Cold” found several more girls who were faced with violation of personal borders near Vitaly, and talked to them. 24-year-old Lera (the name changed at the request of the heroine) went to Vitaly on the recommendation of her friend in mid-March. The first massage went normally: “I was even surprised how actively he tried to indicate that his actions did not carry sexual connotation. He constantly pronounced this when he pushed my underpants or shifted his hand. I repeated that I was safe. Now I understand that this is for a reason. "

According to Lera, Vitaly told her that he was offering intimate massage services, and suggested discussing if she was interested. However, in his profile, according to the girl, there was no information about such a service. In the second session, Lera asked the relaxation massage: “There was no talk of intimate massage at all. He promised his back and legs. Sometimes I spoke strange things like “you are so magnificent. You are so pleasant to massage - probably all men are high.” Then he went to the chest and said: “You said that you can touch your chest.” I nodded in the affirmative. He began to rub my chest and crush my nipples. But when I agreed to breast massage, I thought that it would indulge the chest, and not the mammary glands themselves. I began to get excited and fell into a stupor, did not say anything. He asked me to relax and reminded me that I was safe. ”

In the end, Lera informed Vitaly that she was feeling awkward. He replied: “If you want, we can continue. You are my last client. ” Lera refused and dressed. When they went for a walk right after the session, Vitaly offered to discuss an intimate massage and bought Lera Coffee. He also said that he has a "fetish to give pleasure to women." Lera told him that she was embarrassed by his behavior. “Then,” she says, “he began to persuade me to work on sexuality with the words:“ We will help you reveal it. ”

29-year-old Dasha (the name changed at her request) is running, so in September she turned to Vitaly for sports massage and came to him after the marathon. During the massage, Vitaly made Dasha compliments: “You are so unusual. Are you a witch? " Or "you have such beautiful legs - I would not even say that you are running." Dasha says that his behavior was “close to the edge”: “I felt some kind of sexualization. As if a little more-and this will flow into some actions on his part. "

When Dasha dressed after the massage, Vitaly went into the room where she was, and began to go about her business. “I stood in my underpants and tried to wipe off my oil. He went in, apologized, hesitated and began to wipe the oil from me too. I was so tired after the race that I said nothing and did not resist. But I was bad. I walked home and convinced myself that it all seemed to me. I persuaded myself that massage is care, and Vitaly is simply sociable. ”

As a result, Dasha convinced herself that everything was in order. “I was angry with myself, because at that moment I could not outline the borders and ask:“ What a dick, Vitaly?! ”” She says.

In the next session, Dasha asked Vitaly in what condition her pear -shaped muscle is located: in runners she is usually very clogged. Vitaly was confused and did not answer. Dasha was strained. “I often went in Russia for massage to different specialists, and they could tell in detail about any muscle,” she says. In addition, when Dasha turned over, Vitaly, according to the girl, “frankly looked at her chest” and, while Dasha changed clothes, went to her again. He did not go only at the third, last, session. Then Dasha thought with hope that someone told him that this could not be done.

A similar story happened with Veronika (she asked not to give her last name) : she went to Vitaly for her back massage in Batumi in August 2022. The first few sessions passed normally. However, at some point, according to the girl’s stories, during the massage, the specialist lowered her underpants and made a massage of the buttocks. “I noticed an erection with Vitaly: he touched me several times and clung to me with this area. In addition, he clearly violated personal boundaries and asked strange, sometimes even intimate questions, ”says Veronica. - On massage, he grunted and sighed, and once after the massage he invited me to drink coffee. I refused. "

After the incident with the erection, Veronica no longer came to the massage to Vitaly. She was confused: “It was difficult for me to explain whether such behavior is normal. Suddenly it is necessary? Suddenly my back hurts due to clamps in the buttocks, and to work them out, do you really need to lower my thongs? Maybe it seemed to me that he had an erect member? " Veronica does not believe that this experience has inflicted her severe injury, but understands that her personal boundaries have been violated. She says that never in life will no longer go to the man’s massage, "no matter how profiles he is."

RETOMATION

None of the girls with whom the "cold" spoke "did not contact the police. When this story happened with Margot, she did not have time to deal with bureaucratic issues. And Lera and Veronica said that they were ready to anonymously participate in the collective complaint with the police. Veronica believes that in this way it will be possible to protect other girls. “Yes, I have not received any serious injury, but this does not mean that Vitaly is not dangerous for other people,” she says. - I will not publish my story in social networks: I do not want attention from all sorts of freaks and perverts. Yes, and I have no desire to communicate with Vitaly and find out something. ”

But the fact that Vitaly began to discuss in social networks a little reassured some girls. “I was convinced that it did not seem to me,” says Dasha. “For the past few days, my e -redmatization has been going on, because I understand that this is fucked up.”

Авторка канала meetmein Tbilisi уже создала чат для всех девушек, кто столкнулся с харассментом со стороны Виталия. В нем участницы собирают истории по теме и решают, как действовать дальше.