“Let them fight if they want to get citizenship. Work out "

The mobilized wife is about replacing her husband with prisoners and migrants, Putin’s elections and demobilization

In November, mothers, sisters, daughters and wives of the mobilized entered the Communist Party of the Communist Party in Moscow and called on the authorities to return their loved ones from the front. This was the first mass action of relatives of mobilized from the beginning of the war with Ukraine. The participant of the action 34-year-old Dana Artemyeva (the name changed) says that her husband planted health, working as a doctor in the war without proper rest, and her brother was almost killed near Kharkov. She herself refuses to raise one and a half year old daughter alone and put up with the indifference of the authorities in relation to the mobilized. Therefore, she joined the movement for demobilization and, together with other relatives, achieves the return of men home. Artemyeva told the cold her story.

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When they announced that we entered the troops into Ukraine, I had the feeling that the world was turned over. In Moscow, on Poklonnaya Gora in the memorial there is a sword of Alexander Nevsky (art replica. - Approx. “Cold”) , on which it is written: “Whoever came to us with a sword will die from the sword.” Immediately it happened that we came with a sword to another country. Ukraine, no matter how laugh at its sovereignty, a separate country. From the very beginning, I knew that this would not end in anything good, and lived with a vague feeling that I had recently buried someone.

When your country comes with the war to the neighboring one, all the foundations of security are collapsing in it - you can no longer plan your life. I believe that our government should not have brought the matter to hostilities. It was necessary to work with Ukraine ideologically: to promote pro -Russian initiatives there, put the people we need in power and not allow the United States to take it into circulation. For centuries, it is known that the Caucasus and Ukraine are problem areas in the underbelch of our country. This was also written by Lermontov with Gogol. And we released a difficult teenager into free swimming and now we started the war in an attempt to reanimate what it was worth working differently and very much in advance.

The vast feeling did not leave me even because my husband is a medic, and I was aware that, go something wrong, it could touch my family. So it happened. On October 12 last year, a agenda came to her husband. He had previously spoiled to go to Ukraine as a volunteer, but I managed to dissuade him. When the agenda came, it became clear that the service could not be avoided. My husband, like a real patriot, could not allow the thought of playing hide and seek with the military commissariat.

Nobody cares about them

At first, the husband, among other mobilized ones, was turned around the country. He visited Vologda, Moscow Region. And nowhere did they take their preparation seriously, only a couple of times they brought to the training ground. No one showed interest in surviving. On New Year's holidays, they were taken to Nizhny Novgorod - they had to conduct training on how to storm in winter conditions. As a result, none of the commanders wanted to bother in the snow, and the guys left there without training.

My husband was prepared in orderlies - it was assumed that he would have to collect the wounded under shelling and provide them with first medical care. And the guys without a medical education were then sent to the infantry. So, without any normal preparation. My husband is generally a massage therapist, he never worked as a military physician. I realized that with such preparations he would not survive long, and put titanic efforts to be transferred to the Medbat - a place at the front line, where the wounded was brought to provide first specialized medical care. She raised her ties, forced her husband to raise her. We went to meet us because of our little daughter-from February 2, the husband serves in the Medbat 10 kilometers from the front.

This work is still not simple. Due to the large stream of the wounded, he sometimes has to sleep for two to three hours a day. They live in the field, eat like it. If not for humanitarian aid, there would still be interruptions in medicines. And from a psychological point of view, this work exhausts. Sometimes they have to unload cars with corpses, and this is a very unpleasant procedure even for doctors - people who should have a special attitude to death.

Among the guys are those who recently graduated from the Military Medical Academy, but many, like my husband, are not professional surgeons. Some professors come to them periodically, they read their notations on how to provide medical care correctly. But they only swear and take out the brain with tower, but to stand up and do operations, show what can be done with one or another wounded - this is below their dignity. Therefore, boys as they can do.

In the direction of her husband, only one Medrot correctly provides medical care directly on the fields. Others from ignorance, from a lack of skills, confuse venous and arterial bleeding. In cases where you can simply apply a pressure bandage, a tourniquet is applied. They forget to weaken the tourniquet during transportation, and as a result of such mistakes, people lose their limbs that could be saved.

It was also hard for me and my daughter without a husband. I had a difficult birth, and the first month of our daughter’s life I was recovered for a long time, and my husband took care of the child. So since then it happened that dad not only plays with his daughter, but also feeds her, dresses up and puts her to bed. When her husband was taken, his daughter was a year and three months. She already knew how to pronounce complex words, but in the first months she stopped speaking, smile and began to hysteria at night. It was timid to smile and again say “mother” she began only in mid -December. Waiting for a beloved man is not a problem. But when you see the suffering of your own child, this is terrible.

From a financial point of view, we survive normally. I moved to my mother, and we live on my maternity leave, on her pension and that I manage to earn half -time. This is enough for us. I could withdraw the money that came to my husband on a card from the Ministry of Defense. Payments are now coming on time, although at first there were hitch. But I cannot touch this money. The husband has repeatedly asked to withdraw some amount, to please himself for the holidays, and I think that I’ll buy perfumes or boots on them, God forbid with him, something will happen, and these things will stand and remind me that they are not, but they are. Therefore, I only take this money occasionally: for food, clothes or toys to my daughter.

"Guys, tolerate"

Neither I nor my husband thought that he would serve for so long. When he was mobilized, they were told that they would give a debt to their homeland and return home a couple of months later. In confirmation of this, the Moscow government gave them only a summer form. But now the second year has gone, as he serves, but no one thinks about rotation. The husband twice came to our vacation: first for 13 days, and recently for longer, stayed with us from October 26 to November 13.

On his last visit, I noticed that he began to experience health problems. Due to the fact that they have condensed milk there is the most common product, the husband got a lot, the gained weight began to put pressure on his knees. They hurt him when he stands for a long time, and periodically his nerve is compressed. So that convulsions begin in the legs and he cannot sleep. I think that this bouquet of neurology, clamped nerves, inflamed knees and hypertension he picked up due to unbearable loads, stress and lack of proper nutrition and sleep. He also at night, when he could not fall asleep, walked around the house, was looking for what to drink. It seemed very strange to me, this did not happen before. But because of this, I did not arrange a scandal, of course, I myself understand that the time is difficult-a person needs to relax and forget.

In the summer, people who come to the Medbat to her husband from the headquarters said: "Guys, tolerate a little more, you will be replaced soon." At first, the husband believed, but soon stopped. Because summer has passed, winter is already around the corner, the rumors are the same that they will be replaced soon, but in reality nothing happens.

The same is with the brother. He was mobilized in September last year by one of the first. If it were not for a happy case, he would have immediately hit Kharkov as a machine gunner without any preparation. But instead, for more than a year has been providing the front with a connection, and it is also in no hurry to replace it.

I think this is arbitrariness. Civil people have no place in the war. Professionals and people who voluntarily go to do so. Whether it is contractors who want to get money, employees of law enforcement agencies who want to curry up and not wait until the stars sew on their epaulets by length of service, or prisoners. With the last, however, not everything is so simple. The Ministry of Defense hangs us on our ears, saying that they are on a voluntary basis recruiting convicts - in fact they are taken by force. And okay, since they were guilty in front of the state, let them pay. But letting them go into the wild after that, I think, is wrong. After all, so maniacs, people who killed their wives in a zealous way. This should not be, people sitting on such articles should not let go, regardless of how much blood they shed in Ukraine.

Or migrants are the same : let them fight if they want to get citizenship. Work out. Not just to give it to them! But no, for some reason, our men should puff out for everyone. They fulfilled their duty, the front, or what officials needed there, restrained. Everything, goodbye. It is time to let them go and dial contractors in their place!

I finally decided that I would no longer be silent when on September 15 [Chairman of the State Duma Committee on Defense] Kartapolov said that no rotation was provided for mobilized. It was terribly angry that he considers our men with cyborgs, which you can ride. At first I found a petition to the president, which collected 100 thousand electronic signatures. She signed her and began to monitor the telegram channels in which mobilized relatives discussed their problems. There are several channels, since there are different approaches to solving the problem - more peaceful and legal and less peaceful and legal. Each chooses a niche comfortable for her, depending on whether she is ready to take risks, go to rallies and write to officials or not. I took my niche. She joined the “Way Home” group, which, it seems to me, is the most active work on the return of men.

On my behalf, among the other participants in this group, I wrote and went to receptions to the deputies of the State Duma, wrote appeals to the Ministry of Defense, the Federation Council, Commissioner for Human Rights and the Rights of the Child. At first, we demanded to establish the exact life of the service, so that there was no such that a person concludes a contract for six months, thinking that he would be released exactly six months later, he comes to the unit, and his commander laughs in the face and explains how he actually will be: what he will last first before the end of his “Svo” and then six months from above that. And they demanded that our men have already served their own, gave their duty to their homeland. But now we demand one - demobilization.

Our appeals to the mentioned instances are in no way ignored, in the 30-day period established by law, we are sent to us some kind of unsubscribes. But these unsubscriptions most often do not correspond to reality. They taldych are about vacations, about rotation, and we have been writing about demobilization for a long time. These vacations are really nothing, just some kind of mockery, torture for both us and husbands. They did not have time to come, as they already think that it was time to leave. By the way, maybe that's why our men begin to drink when they come home. Because, as soon as they are left alone with their thoughts, they understand that they again need to throw their favorite women, children and go to the war, which, in principle, no one needs a fig.

The answers sometimes come not just irrelevant, but simply delusional. So, from the department to ensure the activities of the President of the President for the Rights of the Child, if I correctly understood, they wrote to us that if the Ministry of Defense goes to a meeting, then the status of our military personnel will change, and they will receive only two thousand a month (the document is at the disposal of the editorial office - approx. "Cold") . We realized that we could not do with written deputies alone and written appeals in instance. Therefore, they decided to reach the Mit of the Communist Party in Moscow. The rally consistent, and the people responsible for his organization allowed us to be on it, so we thought that it was worth taking a chance: we are unlikely to be taken into the kutuzka, since we were allowed to be there.

It was still scary to go out: many were intimidated that they would be taken away, detained up to 15 days, will get in an article, some kind of administrative fine. I also felt uneasy, but I thought that in the worst case, just my mother would sit with my granddaughter for two weeks. I asked my mother: "Will you sit?" Mom made big eyes, but said yes. I went. It is necessary to break the information vacuum. Because no one is going to talk about us, we are non -browning, and our topics are forbidden.

All the time that we were at the rally, the police watched us, but they came up to us only after we deployed posters. They even gave us a few minutes to take a picture with them - we had agreements with several media that they take us away, but soon those with whom we did not communicate were pulled up. The police came up to check our documents and called the organizer of the rally. He began to tell us that our posters do not correspond to the topic of the action. But we ourselves knew this, and in principle, I have no complaints about the actions of the police. Our posters were really not very at the box office, and the police behaved as correctly as possible and we were not nightmare.

During this rally, Zyuganov also approached us, said that he was ready to help us, but provided that we will behave well. To be honest, we will not behave well. Until now, we behaved well, and nothing has moved from the place. We need to change something. Personally, I will definitely take part in other rallies, and if they do not coordinate them, I will try to organize alternative promotions-provocations, somehow still declare myself. I believe that we should become a bone in the throat of our government, otherwise our boys will not be returned to us.

There is no need to count on the approval of rallies: I wrote to the Moscow City Hall, I wanted to organize a rally in my area, asked to help, advise sites where a certain number can be released. So they did not advise anything, sent the answer that the rally could not be coordinated due to covid restrictions.

Of course, not everyone is ready for radical steps. They are not afraid for themselves, but for their children, who remained without one parent. For husbands who can be pressed for the fact that the wife is painfully talking, more often sent to dangerous operations, to storms. I understand everyone. In general, we all try to support each other, we have warm relations among us, despite the fact that not everyone has the views regarding “their” and acceptable methods of influence on power. What, I think, we are all in solidarity is that you are not worth it in the upcoming elections, and this is the milder to say, to vote for Putin.

Most girls support “Svo”, their husbands are real patriots, and we were taken and written off from accounts. At the same time, everything is fine with the rest: millions are spent on the decoration of Moscow and other large cities by the New Year, and there are not enough resources for the war, our boys are demobilized. In general, my attitude towards the authorities has changed dramatically this year. It is very disappointing that everyone scored us and calmly engage in their pre -election campaigns. I understand that it is convenient for them - not to make risky social decisions now. They believe that we can score on us, expect us to plug us or suggest that they will not have to do this either. Like, we are not enough, we are not able to raise the turmoil. In many ways they are right: among us, indeed, there are few those who are ready to resist, but this does not mean that we will shut up. So, we will be "one in the field of a warrior."