To be with another without the guarantees of another
In the cult film of the 90s “Trainspotting” (1995, directed by D. Boyle), based on the novel of the same name by Irvine Welsh, the main character Mark Renton pronounces a monologue: “Choose life. Choose a job. Choose a career. Choose family. Choose large TVs, washing machines, cars, CD players, electric can openers. Choose good health, low cholesterol and dental insurance. Choose a property and pay your dues carefully. Choose your first home. Choose your friends.