Doctors say that I have a "ugly" uterus

Asi's medical condition is not uncommon, but because of him gynecologists often tell her offensive things. This is how she lives with it

Many have heard from gynecologists peculiar compliments. For example, girls often say that doctors noted their “beautiful” or “ beautiful mature ”. There are also comments about “good endometrium” and other features of physiology. Such comments may seem contradictory and violating personal boundaries. But usually it is still clear from them that the gynecologist does not want to deliberately offend - moreover, this often suggests that the doctor did not find problems in the patient. But what if gynecologists, on the contrary, call your uterus “ugly” and scare the diseases? In such a situation, Asya from Minsk was more than once. Here is her story.

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"Something with your cervix is ​​wrong."

For the first time, I got to a gynecologist at a school at 16 years. But there they did not sit in the chair of those who said that they had no sex yet. I said that too. This was not true, but doctors from the district clinic are not the people with whom I want to discuss their injuries and bodily. Yes, and nothing was bothering me then - except for terrible pains in the first days of menstruation, but many people still do not consider them a serious symptom, even doctors.

For the first time I got to the gynecological chair only at the university - it was mandatory. I myself would not go: although I was already adult, I was very ashamed and scary. I felt infinitely guilty, because in my “wrong” time I had the first sex. Now it seems stupidity, because health and responsibility for it is my duty to myself, and indeed, why should I be shy about my body and my life?

Right on that first examination they told me: "Something with your cervix is ​​wrong." I thought: "Yes, your mother, I just came, but everything is already stressful and incomprehensible." I was very scared, they took a bunch of tests, including for IPPs, and sent to colposcopy ( the procedure for detailed examination of the cervix using a microscope, which is usually prescribed according to special indications - “braid” ). If I remember correctly, immediately with a biopsy.

The tests were clean. Unless there was a thrush or something like that. The main thing is that it was not horror, but household items that happen when immunity fell.

But since then, all my life, my meetings with gynecologists are held in the same way - with comments and a bunch of tests. I was scared by the word "erosion." I read the information from the Internet in no confirmed information. For a long time I was convinced that my problems appeared just because of my traumatic early first sex.

“Well, the meat has grown so. Happens"

I had gynecologists many times. I have a disease of the bladder that affects its mucous membrane-because of this I often had to go to receptions. Each time, according to the analyzes, everything was clean. But the doctors no, no, and noted: “Here you have such a cervix-ugly.” By this, they had in mind changes in the epithelium, which, apparently, were always with me.

With this condition - ectopia - almost half of women live. The mucous membrane of our uterus is “growing” with a cloth. Well, yes, it may look ugly. Well, the meat has grown so. Happens.

For such imperfect necks of the uterus in the post -Soviet space, the word "erosion" is used - in my opinion, too terrible. Especially when after it they begin to scare cancer on the move. For what? It is unclear. Fortunately, there are good doctors who explain that Ectopia is not uncommon . It is necessary to regularly check, but not everyone needs an operation to remove these fabrics. ( Ectopia is a change in the mucous membrane in the cervix. It in itself is not dangerous and, contrary to a common error, is not the cause of cancer - “braid” ).

True, I have heard such explanations only for the last five years. Previously, the cervix in such cases was always cauterized - just in case. They cauterized my friend, they also advised me many times, although the biopsy was pure. But first, of course, they advised to give birth.

If you approach health very responsibly, then, probably, it makes sense in cauterization. But this in any case should be the choice of the patient. And to resolve something carefully for lamentations in the spirit of “ugly here, ugly, ugly ...” I definitely can’t do it.

As for the jokes about the “beauty of the mother”, I only learned from other people that gynecologists are making similar “compliments” to someone. Unfortunately, they never told me this.

But from the friends I heard stories about how doctors relate to girls, how scary to go for an examination, how it hurts me. In our youth, almost all we were afraid to go to the gynecologist for the first time. We had no money for good specialists, but to go to the state clinic to someone who gets caught was scary.

On my first inspection due to stress, I said 300 times that I came for the first time, and asked me to explain what to do. After all, there are doctors who infuriate that you forgot your towel. Or when you need to talk about the cycle, and you, God forbid, took out the phone, not a paper calendar. I really had such a case: the gynecologic was furious, because everything was noted in my application and it was necessary to wait a minute while everything was loading.

In part, in order to go to gynecologists less often, I have little sex. I do not have such a strong immunity and quite a lot of diseases. Knowing about my characteristics of the body, I try not to contact anyone at all. There were fewer problems from this - to be honest, for the last time a complete set of analyzes, I handed over four years ago. At least some advantages must be in life without sex-for example, not to go to the doctors.

"If I heard these comments at 17, my therapy would last longer."

Of course, doctors are also people. I do not want to justify them, but we often expect that the specialist will do his work as a robot. He will look, say what to do, and all - goodbye, without emotions. And this is the same person with his jokes, speech turns.

I came to the fact that after another comment I can’t even specify: I really have something ugly and painful there, or it’s just a personal reaction. In someone else's garbage, I do not want to understand, I have enough of my problems. With a real problem, they would probably begin to solve something, and not talk.

I would probably like it that I still had the resource to say that you should not talk like that. What if I were turned on the beauty of my genitals? Then it would sound very insulting. And what can I do with the uterus? How can I influence it or grow again, beautiful?

I would like the doctors to calmly report the information and also calmly expresses fears. If an experienced specialist who has seen thousands of ectopia is alarming specifically to my cervix, this is OK. But to overwhelm, ayat and give aesthetic grades it is unlikely to help.

I would say that I am still lucky with gynecologists - probably, because I have not been to state clinics from students and I only go to private traders. But, of course, jokes about what must be born, so that “everything has passed” were also.

I imagine that someone can really hurt someone and climb into the head. After all, people have a different attitude to personal borders, psychological stability.

If I heard all these comments at the age of 17, then my psychotherapy would last longer. And now I have too many other problems and it is immediately clear to me when people project their fears or experiences on me.

I had a case when the neurologist was turned on my weight, although I came with a completely different problem. At the first reception, she said that I was “thin and pretty”, and on the second she asked if I had recovered. Fortunately, it did not touch me: it was obvious that it was some of her problem, but everything was fine with me.

Recorded by Anya Perova

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