My stalker was a policeman

He smeared my door with feces, and I glorified him on the whole Internet

Former investigator Julia Vasiliev has been persecuted for years for the ex-police Roman Lonskov, with whom they worked in the same department. Vasilieva wrote dozens of statements to the police, and Lonskov continued to spoil her car, create fake pages, threaten and pursue her. Vasilieva told Kose how it began and what she led to.

The heroine’s legal assistance is provided by the project “Traumanet” for those who have suffered from violence in Russia.

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Bouquets from the trainee

Roman Lonskov and I worked together in the police department No. 1 of Nizhny Novgorod. I was an investigator, and he was an operative officer after the Academy of the Ministry of Internal Affairs. I am eight years older than him.

At the end of 2019 - early 2020, I began to notice that we were always on duty in the same shift. It’s easier to lead the investigative-operational group when an experienced opera works with you-you don’t have to explain anything, chew. And then I had to work with a 20-year-old guy, shy and clogged over and over again. Later it turned out that he specifically changed shifts with colleagues to be on duty with me.

Later I was transferred to another police department, to the suburbs - there I became the head of the investigative body. After a couple of months, I received a chic bouquet of flowers from an anonymous sender, after three weeks - another. And when she fell ill with Kovid with bilateral pneumonia and told about it on social networks, the courier brought me a bouquet and a picture home. She depicted Vasilisa's daughter, drawn from a photograph.

A few days later a message came from Lonskov: “Did you like my hospital gift?” He admitted that the flowers were from him. I replied: “Thank you very much. The bouquets are gorgeous. But you know that I'm in a relationship. Therefore, please, don’t send me bouquets anymore. ” And he wrote something like: "Well ok."

Later, colleagues said that that day he ran around the department with a gun and shouted: “She does not love me! Why should I continue to live! "

37 missed calls

At the beginning of 2021, Lonskov quit. Around the same time, I was appointed head of the investigation in the eighth police department. I have a service car-"Lada Priora." Once I took it to the weekend to take it to the service and repair the lock. She parked near the house, in the morning I saw 37 missed calls in VKontakte from Lonskov. I go out into the street - and all the tires are cut at the car and paint is scratched in a circle. Then I shook: the car is service, what will I tell the authorities?

It turned out that Lonskov noticed an official car near my house and decided that I had an affair with some boss. Therefore, I decided to spoil the car.

I bought tires for Avito, called the tow truck and sent Lada to the tire fitting. On Monday, she told the superiors about everything and offered to pay for painting herself. The leader told me to be silent about what Lonskov did, but I still wrote a statement to the USB ( the management of my own security of the police is a structure that, among other things, is designed to ensure the safety of police officers - the “braid” ). There was no reaction from them.

I was furious and wrote to Lonskov a bunch of nasty things. In response, he asked how much I spent on the repair of the car. I threw off the checks, and for several days he transferred the money to me - about 11 thousand rubles came out. Since then, he apparently decided that we were in a relationship, since he paid.

Feces in the entrance

By the spring of 2021, I no longer doubted that Lonskov was following me. It so happened that I pay a card at the gas station, and after five minutes he writes to me and he knows where I am. Either I installed a beacon in the car, or somehow received access to the cards.

He wrote to me just like that, asked how to do it, sent music. If I did not support the conversation, I started to create game. At one time, he celebrated the need under the door of my apartment, he was even caught by the cleaning lady at half past over about half a morning. Or came and smeared the handle of the door with shit. The daughter already knew that it was necessary to leave the apartment very carefully. And later I hung a camera in the entrance.

If all this happened today, from the very beginning I would communicate with him differently. But then I gave free rein, tried to humiliate or insult him, wrote nasty things. Because it was angry that he considered it normal with me to behave as if I were his thing.

When I aggressed and screamed, he became silk, came to wash the shit from the door. Now I understand that aggression on my part was clinging to him, and he wanted to continue the persecution.

Scenes of jealousy under the door

In May 2021, Lonskov created a page with my photos and data on VKontakte. It was written there that all the generals “fucked me” and therefore I took a leading post at the age of 30.

Then I first went to him. Grandma opened the door, I scared her, showing a police certificate. She said to call her grandson home. He came with completely crazy eyes - according to his state it seemed that he had not slept or ate for several days.

Grandmother began to cheat him, and he immediately removed everything. I then offered him to become just friends: "Let me be your bro, not a passion." He seemed to agree, but he was enough for three to four days.

There were May holidays, and one day I returned home late with Shashlykov. It turned out that Lonskov was waiting for me. He rolled a scene of jealousy, asked who I was with, it all started new.

He constantly wrote that I was “fucking” with someone somewhere. And even sent my ten -year -old daughter from the fake pages, she had the words "your mother fuck."

They say that if you are haunted by a stalker , you need to stop getting in touch with him and nourish his excitement. The young man with whom I met at that time persuaded me to do so - to start ignoring Lonskov, not to play his game. I think this was a fatal mistake that resulted in my dismissal.

After the May holidays, Lonskov again converted his page on VKontakte so that she looked like belonging to me, and laid out there some nonsense about the generals with whom I supposedly slept. The posts were in the style: "I fuck with such and such, they lobby for my interests and promote in service, but in fact I do not deserve honors and rewards." In the messages, the real names of police leaders appeared.

Lonskov hit the sore spot when he tried to devalue my achievements. After all, I plowed in service in the service to succeed - there have never been comments or penalties to me.

I firmly decided not to respond and did not come up with anything better than removing my real profile from VKontakte. Maybe if I talked to him, he would remove everything again. And so the fake page remained on the Internet, and in a month everyone found out about it. It seemed that at work people laugh and discuss me.

The system did not work

In early June 2021, I was called to the USB and began to demand that I write a confession: they say, I discredit the deputy chief of the head, calling myself his mistress. I said that it was not me, but they did not believe me, although before I had already submitted statements to them three times against Lonskov. I spent 10 hours at the check and proved that I did not lie.

But I was still forced to write a report of dismissal. I did not know what to do next - I lived with my work, idealized the system of the Ministry of Internal Affairs. And now I saw that this system does not care about the problems of a person, even my employee.

Among the colleagues there were rumors that I was allegedly fired with shame for the "loss of trust." It was ashamed, but not showing everyone a document on dismissal of their own free will.

It seems to me that many were ready to believe that I was really someone's mistress-for them it was a kind of explanation of my success. Outwardly, I do not look like a typical investigator: I have a bright appearance, lips, tattoos, colored strands. In the understanding of many people, one cannot be smart and beautiful at the same time - and now for them everything seemed to fall into place.

A month later, I got a job in a law firm and began to develop practice in civil law. At first, I dreamed of a dream to return to the Ministry of Internal Affairs and even got a job as a transport police - I could only go through a polygraph. But at the last moment I changed my mind. I realized that in fact I no longer want to work in this system: I started a new life and a new interesting job.

"It's easier for me to kill you"

In March 2022, a classmate told my daughter that in the GetContact Appendix she was signed as "daughter of prostitutes Vasilyeva." I wrote to Lonskov and demanded that he delete the signature. He replied that for this he needed a daughter’s phone. So he arrived and I opened the door for him. But we immediately began to quarrel, and then he tore off the silver bracelet from my hand and ran away.

Another day, I came home late from a date, and he was waiting for me near the entrance with claims. He said: "Cool you congratulated me on my birthday." Then he burst through the door all night. The next day, I went to spend the night to my friend, but he came to her house and broke the glass of my car with brick.

After that, he repeatedly cut my tires, scratched the whole car. Each time I wrote statements to the police, but there was no sense. In total, I submitted more than 50 statements against him.

It seems that impunity drove him crazy - seeing that no one was reacting, he went to a new level. I still do not know why the police did nothing. The two episodes had a criminal case, but it did not advance.

I began to hide, left for a rented apartment, and sold mine. Once, after moving, they called me from the police and told me to bring my daughter to the examination. It turned out that Lonskov, on my behalf, wrote through an online reception statement, as if the man I met, raped my daughter. I told this man about everything, showed video and correspondence. He went to the police and went through an audit.

In October 2023, we got married and left the city for several days, at the same time celebrated my birthday. Returning, I found more than a thousand messages and a hundred missed calls. Lonskov wrote: “I got married, I’m not interested with you anymore”, “This is your last birthday”, “It’s easier for me to kill you and forget about everything.” I realized that this is already a little more, and he would cross the line. Meanwhile, he created the next fake of my page and began to send offers about bribes to students from whom I led couples at the university.

"You will disgrace me, but I'm not ashamed"

I was terribly tired, it seemed to me that it would never end. I wanted to die, if only everything has already stopped. In hysteria, I decided to take a chance and tell my history in the media. I sent a video to reporters, where Lonskov smears my doors with feces.

The video was encouraged, and, apparently, after that the police finally took up the criminal case against Lonskov. He tried to leave for Moscow, but he was detained there. They began to hold full -time rates, the media interviewed me. I gave him with a closed face - I did not want the city to know that a successful lawyer could not solve his own problem. At this time, I had a very poor emotional state, and I turned for psychological help.

The trial in relation to Lonskov lasted almost a year, all this time he was under house arrest . The court took place in December 2024. Lonskov said that he was innocent and that Vasilieva allegedly stipulated him because "he wanted to marry, but he refused."

He was charged with "intentional damage to another's property" and "robbery using violence." But according to the first article, the statute of limitations expired, and according to the second Lonskov, they justified . Now Vasiliev is appealing the verdict.

Work with a specialist helped a lot. I used to be ashamed all the time. But on psychotherapy, I realized that it was not to blame for everything that happened - I did not choose this. I don’t want to make excuses to anyone else and I will not hide my face.

I was able to overcome Lonskov only when I showed what publicity was capable of. After the New Year, he wrote to me that he was letting me go - they say, because I am married and expecting a child. And he will arrange his personal life.

I think the pursuer is trying to do with us what scares him himself. Therefore, you need to show: you are not afraid of him. He must be afraid. I decided: “You will disgrace me to everyone, but I'm not ashamed. I’ll tell you about you now. ” And only then did he calm down.

Recorded Oksana Gribkova